To manage my anxiety, I give myself 15 minutes a day that I allow my brain to have it's go at running tbrough the worries. I write them down. When my timer goes off I look through the list for actionable tasks and plan for those. I go about my day. If I start anxious thoughts I remind myself I've gone through those and have plans on addressing the ones I can. Anything else can wait till tomorrow's 15 min session.
This literally helped me so much. Just thank you. I've been having awful times with anxiety and negative thoughts and I'll try this :) I hope we can push thru this and I believe we will, fighting!
I had such bad anxiety that I would tell the pizza guy to leave the pizza on the porch and I would wait for him to leave to get it. Deliverance is real and my extreme healing of anxiety was instant but then I notice I get it again when I start sinning. It has/had something to do with evil. That's really all I know. Evidently they are called demons of strife and fasting praying and repentance seems/seemed to be working/worked and im wording it like this because im not sure if I'm at the other end of the tunnel yet. At first when I feel the Holy spirit it is like 20 Xanax calm just asking Christ to come help me. That's the other thing I don't need drugs to feel calm anymore and my Crack head alcoholism feeling is gone which I am told is another device of evil for lack of a better term. I know it's not psychosomatic because I've tried all this deliverance stuff before this time the thing that changed was I actually wanted it to stop. I was willing to give up the other stuff that God didn't approve of (masturbation,drugs, theft, lying) sin. I prayed and fasted opened up the Bible and read. This stuff is real. Get your bibles and really change your anxiety may be lifted. If it's a spiritual thing that means you have a unclean spirit I am learning and don't think it's a joke cuz this stuff is real and satan will try to make you consider other options they will scoff but guys im figuring out something...Jesus is duh wey. Do you know duh wey? FR
Kyle, I just wanted to tell you that I find this series both practically helpful, and, on a personal level, very comforting. While therapists are definitely useful, it's so much more meaningful to me to hear someone who actually has depression, anxiety, etc talk about realistic management strategies. It also makes me hopeful to see someone who clearly has a very successful career despite their mental health struggles. :) Please continue this series- you have a great presentation style!
When I have anxiety, I experience physical sensations that are often overwhelming. I learned to give these sensations a minute and let them go through my body without trying to neither deny what I am experiencing nor reject it. I let myself experience the whole thing: the accelerated heart beat, the weakness in my legs, the empty in my stomach, the shaking, the sweating. I stop and experience these feelings as they happen and then they go away. For me, it feels like these feelings have a cycle and if I let the cycle complete, it ends. If I resist them, they continue to be there causing suffering for hours.
@Nadine F, now I fully understand my problem is anxiety, have been watching videos in KZclip and have found them helpful. I hope one day I shall live like anyone. Initially, I even thought it is a curse since I never heard anyone complaining of the same. But now having known it is a common problem to many people, I have accepted it and believe I will overcome
@Kwamboka Leonidah it sounds really overwhelming. I can imagine how difficult it was for you when you were younger and didn’t understand what you were experiencing. I hope you feel more in control of it now. I hope that this thing goes away as we grow older. Wishing you all the best
Finally I got my anxiety mate😂. Your symptoms are typically mine. I have been experiencing this since my childhood but I never understood what was it really happening to me till I got to understand it in adulthood. This condition has always denied me self-love. I have no triggers, it just comes, I can wake up in the morning and suddenly start feeling afraid and keyed up😢. I once told my friend about my situation, he found it funny when I said my stomach feels empty, with weak legs and a racing heart, he laughed out loud, it pained me more. I learnt to keep it to myself, find a private place, pray alone and just literally ask my mind and heart to judge if they are comfortable with this feeling..finally I say No, no, no loudly to myself. I also try to fight the feeling by forcefully distracting my thought while taking deep breath, it heals but with time. However, my source of anxiety is overanalyzing situations, and easily giving life to negative thoughts..It's easy to say it that way but that feeling makes me totally dysfunctional😢
My daughter passed away July 2020 and anxiety is so bad. I find that when I’m focused on my grandchildren it helps me so much as well as going out of my way to do random acts of kindness every day in her honor helps me feel good.
My son died in a car accident at 28 No one survives a loss of a child...we fill our time with many projects one after another. Keep busy but all cope in their own way....
“You are not your thoughts.” Recognising the thought and detaching myself from it is the most helpful for me. I also constantly remind myself to concentrate solely on what I can control at that moment. If it’s out of my hands, I make an effort to recognise the intrusive thought and tell myself the ball is not in my court. Also, I find the phrase, “It is what it is”. Helpful. Things are not always what I hope, wish or believe them to be and that makes life easier.
Kyle, the types of tips you shared are the type I hope more professionals start to offer. We've all heard the sleep, exercise, healthy eating comments from doctors. It's the moment of debilitating, heart pounding anxiety we need tips on. Yours help. Thank you!
Meditation on my lunch break has actually helped me quite a bit. If it’s in a conference room or your car, if you can find 20/30 minutes a day it helps.
Something that helps me as a grounding exercise when I’m feeling really overwhelmed with the physical symptoms is putting my awareness and attention in my feet. Works best bare foot, I feel the texture of the floor, I wiggle my toes and really focus on those sensations. I love this when I’ve just woken up and feel a little jittery it’s really helpful.
My therapist said that contact with cold (ice cubes was the example) to your temples can help snap you out of the anxiety loop. Since I can't always access ice (plus it's messy,) I substituted ice with beautiful smooth stones that are a type that stay cold longer and shed heat quickly. It has helped a number of times.
@Shaun Russell - kyanite comes in some really pretty colors (mostly shades of blue) and had a unique property of shedding head readily and being cool most of the time. I'd recommend them any the! In the hot summer I'll wear a bread necklace of them and they feel like a small portable AC to me. When they get to warm you just need to shake/swing them around a bit and they cool down fast.
Such a great idea!! 😊I like the idea of smooth stones much more than ice cubes! I’ll have to find some smooth stones… which did you find work best? Thanks again for the helpful tip here!! Many thanks 🙏🏻
My mother is the ultimate in catastrophe thinking. The amount of energy she put into an assume outcome was more than trying to prepare for it. I found over the years myself doing this as well among other classic trauma narratives . I realized that at 53 it's time change the narrative. Peeling back the lineage of family toxicity has not been easy, but the journey so far has been liberating. Channels like this help. There is comfort in the concept of strength in numbers. Thank you
I started having panic attacks a few months ago because I had physical symptoms indicating a heart attack (luckily, it wasn't a heart attack, but since that day I fear having a serious disease or sth in the weirdest situations). Everyone basically tells me to remind myself that it's "just panic" and "not to worry", which obviously makes it even worse because when you're IN a panic attack, you CAN'T "just think positive" and focus. So what I do INSTEAD when I have a panic attack, is trying to make a list in my head about why it wouldn't be that bad if I'd die in that very moment (I know it sounds kind of suicidal, but I'm not, it just helps me because my body is convinced that I'll die, so my mind needs to play along with that until the attack is over). I hope this helps someone out there - you are not alone 💛
Omgg I recently starts having panic attacks last month and omg they’re absolutely terrible everytime they happen it feels like I’m about to die. and like you explained I had the same symptoms of a heart attack but the doctors told me my heart was fine. I absolutely know how you feel and Just know your not alone I wish they would just go away :( but they don’t there’s come a point where I don’t even know what to do anymore everytime they happen it feels like I’m about to die.
@væl So here is my advice for you as someone who has gone through several panic attacks at different points in my life. First priority is to sit/lie down somewhere, if possible also have a surface against your back as there is a high chance you faint because of your accelerated heart rate and fast breathing. Your next priority is to direct the focus of your thoughts to whichever one of your senses is still working alright (you might be hearing a ringing sound or feel like your ears are stuffed with cotton so all sound feels muted, sight might be getting blurry or black, your body could be trembling lightly or a lot etc). For me I had my sense of sensation working properly so once I sat down on my computer chair and made sure my back was against the backrest plus my feet were firmly on the ground I started thinking how my socks were fuzzy and warm, the leather of the chair felt nice and cool, I focused on the feeling of my clothes on my skin and meanwhile kept breathing in and out in order to gradually make my breaths become deeper inhales and exhales rather than short ones as this normalizes your breathing pattern and is the best strategy to calm down the rapid beating of your heart (the two key factors of panic attacks). Afterwards, once it's over, make sure you stay in the position you are in for at least 2-4 more mins before getting up as you are very likely going to be quite shaky and feel like a wrung out towel, which could lead to you falling down as you get up. Try holding/leaning onto something solid if there is anything as such around to use until you feel more strength in your legs and your balance is back properly. Hope this helps, in case you find yourself experiencing another one or you learn someone you know has them as well.
@væl I'm so sorry this happened to you, I hope you're feeling better by now! It turned out I actually really had a heart disease and my psyche reacted to it. I battled with several panic attacks after that but now that it's been a while and I'm healthy again, I didn't have a single one ever since.
Hey Kyle, KZclip sent me this feed and this is the first time I have ever seen you without a mental healthcare provider by your side. Thank you for the great presentation and giving of your time in sharing the healthy mindful habits you have introduced into your everyday life. All of those steps are powerful, but even more impactful is your honesty about your own personal mental journeys. I related to all of them and it's true that there are so many tools to help us keep layering towards mental peace. Thanks again.
I really liked this video! One tip I got taught during group therapy years ago, was to ask yourself 'Will I remember this five years from now?'. For me, when the answer is no, it makes me feel immediately calmer about it. Even if the anxiety doesn't go away completely, it usually feels less intense. On the rare occasion the answer is yes, I ask myself if I'll likely still feel the same way about the situation or thing that's making me anxious in five years and usually the answer is that I won't. I think it helps me understand if something is actually a big issue or if my anxiety disorder is just making it feel huge and scary. It doesn't work with everything but you'll be surprised how much it can help with general anxiety.
Emily, To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath and mind [brain] are closely related causing stress-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. Change happens from within by itself. Day or night, when taking a walk, sitting in a park, when reading, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce watching social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Saying “no” without guilt. Making sure if I’m saying “yes”‘ to something that it’s not for the wrong reason. Being honest about my limits without guilt. It’s when I do too much, spread myself too thin that I become very anxious and stressed. That’s something that I have to personally monitor. And also accepting that not everyone has to be ok with, or understand, my boundaries, but I still have to place them regardless.
Stop sinning no matter how small and then pray see what happens. I think I've been healed the reason I'm not sure is because I think when I start some of the old behaviors up God allows it to return.
I actually use the breathing techniques everyone who has anxiety knows of, but I honestly enjoyed the “I am having the thought that” … I’ll apply it to my life and also be mindful when I wash my hands, since this is something I do a lot. Thank, Kyle.
Julia Kristina is another great therapist who teaches that a thought is just a thought, that my thoughts are not necessarily true, and that we should get curious about our thoughts, instead of letting them control our feelings. It's great stuff and Ms. Kristina is on KZclip with some good programs.
For social anxiety I use the 'fake it til you make it' technique. If you pretend you are confident and likable you can start to feel that way a little. Also realizing that everyone else is too wrapped up in their own inner world to dwell on your mistakes helps a lot. You might be feeling awkward and embarrassed and kicking yourself for your mistakes but they may be feeling the same or worrying about something else in their life or trying to remember to buy cay food.
Thank you for EXPLAINING mindfulness! No one ever does, and it's frustrating, because how am I supposed to do it if I don't know what it is? So thank you for being more specific on what it is and how to do it 💖
Great point. Also, there are different definitions of mindfulness. Different practices. But it can also refer to a state of consciousness. Quite frustrating when terms are not clearly defined and thrown out there.
Something I’ve learned recently is to face your anxiety head-on and the goal here is to not fear it. Do not tell yourself “I’ll feel better later” - be in the moment. Recognize that you feel anxious and as such try to accept that you do. The more deep you go into this anxious feeling, the more you realize that it’s not dangerous and it’s simply a normal response to something that worries you. Challenge yourself and be in your anxiety as you do. Of course, you should do this in moderation so it doesn’t end up becoming worse.
Michelle, To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath and mind [brain] are closely related causing stress-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. Change happens from within by itself. Day or night, when taking a walk, sitting in a park, when reading, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce watching social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Thanks for the tips. I would like to share one lifestyle change I made in my life too! Taking some time to just sit peacefully in the morning before starting my day. I don't think about anything intentionally, I just let thoughts pass through my mind until it is all quiet. I also observe my surroundings (anything around me: the wall of my room, the balloons near my cupboard...) and try to just say one good thing about myself. I recently realised that I was internalising a lot of hatred toward me, when previously I used to think I was almost incapable of hating. So I have started be kind with myself as I try to be with others 😊. Life's becoming better. It is not magic, neither a cure. Just something that helps me stay put, and even if anxiety knocks at my door the serenity I gather in the start of my day helps me refocus my energy to better things and extinguish the stress and anxiety. ❤️ When I was still in school, I started waking up before the alarms went off. I realised that the morning alarms were also a cause of anxiety for me. I stopped putting deadlines on every dream I had. I could do these and many more things just because of the peaceful morning time I started giving to myself. 😊
Hena A dlakha, To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath and mind [brain] are closely related causing stress-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. Change happens from within by itself. Day or night, when taking a walk, sitting in a park, when reading, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce watching social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I find EFT tapping quite helpful when i notice im getting anxious or panicked, and grounding techniques like you mentioned while washing your hands. The trick is to remember to do them. I work in Healthcare so I was my hands alone, I'm going to try and create a link between hand washing and grounding so I'm doing it more often. Thank you so much for your videos!
A little bit of anxiety is good when we are in danger and then we burn it off but it's totally different than an anxiety disorder. I have had both since childhood but full hysterectomy triggered it worst.
@jessie thank you. I got the 2 doses of pfizer earlier this year only because I work in our local hospital and take care of my 94 year old mom and I didn't want to catch it. I also have crohns so I didn't know how it would affect me but I am ok. It's like you said that looking too far ahead just makes it worst and there are going to be things that we can't do anything about but it is a challenge that's how anxiety works at times. Keep holding on to your faith. I know that somehow God will see us through it.
@Georgina LeBlanc-Jacquard thank you, I'm sorry for your losses as well. I will continue to keep my head up. I keep telling myself to deal with just one day at a time, because looking into the future just makes me think of a million what ifs. Losing family members this year to Covid has been horrible. My cousin, then my Uncle then 7 days later my grandma. My mom got sick and I was petrified but thank God she had a very mild case. 🤷 Maybe the shot helped. No one else has gotten it and I'm to scared to get it.
@jessie I am so very sorry for your losses. Its very difficult losing family members. That's what my anxiety is about losing my husband and my mom. We have lost 4 close family members and 3 dogs in 3 years and it just triggered that fear in me. I am glad that you are seeking the natural route and I wish that I would have because I have tried many antidepressants and only the one I am on now helps a little. I have had insomnia since my surgery which triggered major depression but I have also learned about a breathing technique that Dr Andrew Weil talks about called 4-7-8. You breath in for the count of 4 hold it for a count of 7 and then forcefully breathe out your mouth for the count of 8 and do it 4 times twice a day for a month and then increase the cycle to 8 counts twice a day. I was very skeptical but it is meant to calm down your nervous system and it helps some but I just only started doing it 2 weeks ago. Menopause can trigger alot in a woman and I too have had horrible depression to the point that I wanted God to call me home but I pray and hang on and there is improvement. Hang on and don't give up. We are all here for a reason but if you get to the point where you can't cope and feel suicidal then please tell your doctor. Your life is important. You might not think that you matter but you do. I will pray for you and send loving thoughts your way. Hugs
@Georgina LeBlanc-Jacquard I did see my doctor and he said I was going through menopause 😲 I just turned 40. But after talking to my mom and Aunts and grandma. They all went through it young as well. I could cry all the time. I was constantly worried about all of my family dying. Unfortunately 3 people have passed away very recently in my family 😔 my anxiety has been through the roof I feel like I don't want to live I can't seem to get any sleep.... I've been talkin to a natural path for hormones and I upped my vitamin D3 to 50,000iu weekly, started taking magnesium and valerian root and thankfully it's starting to help😊
@jessie its because your hormones are changing. Get your hormone levels checked and thyroid. Before I had my hysterectomy I was almost 47 and under alot of stress and my family doctor told me that I probably didn't have much hormones left anyways because I only had the one ovary left that was going to be taken out and I didn't know so I believed her. After my surgery I was doing ok recovering the first 8 weeks except that I developed insomnia so she prescribed me prometrium (progesterone) which didn't help and then she gave me sleeping pills and I could only sleep 4 hours so I had to wait after week 9 to go back to work because I have a very physical job and I was there an hour and someone asked me how I was and I started crying uncontrollably and was feeling panicked. My friend walked with me to our supervisors office and I had to go home. I couldn't function. The emptiness swept over me and my anxiety and panic worsened and took a breakdown of major depression and developed an anxiety disorder so the point of my story is that I trusted my doctor because she was a woman and my surgeon was also a woman and they should have gone over it with me about the hormones and suggested that I go on them as soon as I was operated on. I went on them last year but not much improvement because I went so long without them. So get your levels checked and take care. I pray for all the best for you. And let me know how you make out if you decide to get checked. Also checked your B12.
Thanks so much Kyle for sharing your personal and effective tips ... I was already using the last one, telling myself "hey big girl, you've been through worse than that, you can overcome this" 😜 And I'm certainly going to use the "I'm having the thought that blah blah blah, and it's only a thought." I have another tip for my anxiety attacks, and it's simply to visualize immediately that the part in me that is having the distress is my inner child, or a younger me, seeing her with love, understanding and compassion, and then I tell her (sometimes out loud 😂), "It's ok to feel anxious, but how about NOT trying SO hard to be perfect ? And accepting making mistakes ? As long as I've known you, you've always been trying to do your best, so that's fine" It usually works, I suppose it's because it's a way to validate my feelings, acknowledge my good will, and I'm parenting myself at the same time.... Without blaming or shaming myself 😊
Nailed it Kyle... I always project and assume people are upset with me and it causes so much anxiety... Love the "I am having the thought____". Will try it, Thank you!
Love you Kyle. Astoundingly animated and with great cognitive linearity for having chronic depression. Genuine respect for your dedication to yourself and your audience 🙏
These tools are incredibly helpful! Thank you Kyle. To ease my anxiety, I have found the work around self-compassion from Kristin Neff to be really helpful. For me, this involves giving myself some loving kindness. As she suggests, in one example, I softly touch my arm or hand, and tell myself how hard the situation would be for anyone, with an awareness that it’s so normal to feel that way, as others have and do. It has greatly helped me!
In the 3rd strategy of overcoming anxiety, where you reminded yourself that if you got over one anxiety in the past , you can get over the current one as well. That's great motivation. I would like to know what helped you get over it the first time.
All great tips! My favorite is #3- the reminder that eventually the emotional charge of an event will disolve and neutralize. It may take work, and generally takes time, but the emotional charge can transform and become just a memory. For anxiety, sometimes I observe and name the sensations I feel, and remember that I 've experienced this before and survived in the past.
Thank you Kyle. Loved this video! Sharing the realness of your own story with practical advice that we can integrate into our daily lives, is so helpful. "Go To" tips that add to our Tool Box. 👏👏👏
Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video. I really needed this video. I’m not doing good at all right now and listening to your videos give me hope that I can overcome what I am going through.
Great tips Kyle! I really liked your last tip of reminding yourself that you've concurred something else in your past and you can do this again! I use this often and it does help
Absolutely love your channel! I am now managing my BPD, and feel a lot more in control of my life! 32 years old and BPD makes my life make so much more sense!!!! So thank you!!!! I am thriving now!
You are awesome. I very much enjoy your perspective. When I become aware of anxious or negative thoughts I immediately shift my thought to an image in my head of a serene and still place that I have traveled to, and brought me peace. It almost always 're-sets" my thought process.
So interesting your 3rd technique to help understand anxiety. It's similar to how EMDR therapy works. You have the person bring up the 'picture' of the embarrassing situation ( or traumatic experience ) in the past that is causing symptoms/ anxiety in the present and process that picture ( using eye movements) with the negative belief about themselves and the feeling/ sensation in their body. You then process the past in the present which in turn creates better future outcomes. In sum, the past is in the present.
Dancing is a relief practice to me. It is actually excellent exercice, and very good for coordination, mindfullness and émotion connecting through the movement. Nice Day !
Definitely a practice in mindfulness along the same lines of what you were saying, but when I have racing thoughts, I try to focus on the feeling of the sensations on the inside of the palms of my hands and feet. It’s usually warm (and usually sweaty) but the warmth is actually kind of comforting, so the mindfulness and comfort works as a dual action to help calm me down. Thanks for your video. I’m a new subscriber and have really enjoyed your videos and dry humor so far! 😊
Very useful video. A suggestion to feel better. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath and mind [brain] are closely related causing stress-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. Change happens from within by itself. Day or night, when taking a walk, sitting in a park, when reading, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce watching social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
When I'm feeling depressed, I look around and see others who 'appear' to have it worse than me. If I can remind myself that I'm not at the bottom, that I am overplaying the magnitude of my situation, it often helps me feel a bit more grounded and in control.
My go to when anxiety starts: “Fear not, I am with thee; oh, be not dismayed, for I am thy God and will still give thee aid. I’ll strengthen thee, help thee, and cause thee to stand, upheld by my righteous, omnipotent hand” (see Isaiah 41:10). If I say it three times, especially focusing on the first six words... I'm good to go.
Hi I just found this channel. Great topic, I’m dealing with anxiety the past few years due to childhood trauma resurfacing. I liked that you mentioned being mindful. Like being mindful and aware of being in the moment . Love that. I just liked and subscribed to your channel. Introvert mom of 4 sons (2 autistic) loving the KZclip community learning from others (using dog therapy music for pups/humans) God Bless!
To be honest listening to music that I find uplifting and singing along to the music - really helps me have a break from the anxiety I feel . It’s my way of letting go and participating in something enjoyable and it helps me feel strong and empowered. This and meditation / mindful moments . Or having a good chat with a friend where you can smile and laugh .
The third strategy in your arsenal is just as profound as all of the other therapies. Practicing self compassion, and giving oneself permission to move on from certain experiences can take a long time. The shift often occurs subconsciously and after endless reflection. It’s as if the mind reaches a point where it’s convinced, it can no longer benefit from self flagellation.
I experienced anxiety and developed depression when i was around 4/5 years old, because every day violence and muder attempts at home by my father. By the time I was like in second grade i started having panicking and OCD followed by depression, avoidance and panic attacks. But I could Only realise what I was going through since the last 2-3 years. Now at my late 20s I'm combating with all the previously mentioned conditions and with 'failure to launch syndrome'. Did multiple jobs but before completing a years i was back at home, though I hated the presence and the ongoing abuse from my father. Because my mom still lives there at Home and she protected me from all my father's attempts to show and make us feel afraid, as if he is gonna kill me and mother. The fact that He never killed any of us, put me perplexed. Anyway I'm alive and and I still don't know how can i cure myself from the Trauma that started since the inception of my memory and still on going, and I'm not sure whether I can heal myself at least half of my Trauma and the mental health conditions. Sometimes I think it's a gift, because i can always try not to deliberately inflict pain on anyone. Because like many I knew the taste of tears. And only the ash knows the experience of burning.
So first, you are such a wonderful host! Brilliant, so well prepared yet so authentic... thank you! On other ways of dealing with anxiety - someone taught me to space my virtual meetings (I am sure this can be applied to physical meetings as well) so that when something gets me worried, stressed, pissed off especially about the future .. I deal with it with outward calm. But right afterwards (not later, not two days later, right afterwards) I get in a a safe physical (and virtual space!) and get it out physically - and that depends on the person. Sit ups, push ups, kickboxing, whatever... so it's not just that we need exercising, but that sometimes we need a physical release to whatever we are feeling. Super difficult to do in back to back meetings, or when work leads into personal space.... so it is important to build those few moments to release physically. So end you next meeting of an hour at 55 minutes and release that negative energy!
One more: I agree and have looked at the horrific trauma I’ve encountered. I use it as a way to say to me, “Well, I’ve been through that. 🤔 I think I can do this.” 😷
Hi I too thought it was me being melodramatic but knowing there are many people feel the same helps and Kyle seem a very confidant person last person you would think feels same also
The first trick I literally started doing a few days ago and I noticed how much quieter my mind has been and how much calmer my body has felt. Like, yes, I know I have to X,Y and Z but right now I’m doing W, so don’t worry about it. Speaking on the second tip, this concept and the following sentence specifically are what I attribute to a huge part of my spiritual awakening… “you are not your thoughts, you are not even the thinker of your thoughts, you are the observer of it all.” And I remember that initial sense of power that gave me to remain objective, however I’ve never used it in this practical way and I’m going to try to use this too from now on, “I’m having the thought that ____” And to the third trick, I love this but the way that I make it more concrete is reaching out the energy of my future self. The one who has processed and moved on from whatever it is still bothering me. I also like to think about how time isn’t linear so technically, you’re already over it! Once you back your brain into thinking this way it becomes easier and easier. However, I just realized how anxious of a person I actually am and because of that I’m just starting to see where it manifests and impacts my life. This video was helpful. Thank you, I will be checking other videos out too for sure 😁
1.FOCUS I’m telling myself this when I’m in middle of thoughtful storm and full ON anxiety, so this word now becomes my immediate attention back to the moment alarm! 2. Telling my self:( it’s not the end of the world!) whenever I witnessed an embarrassing situation so it can ease till it pass by .. 3. Telling myself: ( it didn’t matter! Or Why I am caring much ?) for any situation that can affect my self esteem so I will stop myself from personalizing it and draining me into a dark sad thoughts..
Really good tips, I can say the first two helps a lot but you helped me to discover the last one, I'm pretty sure it's as useful as the first two. Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us.
Thanks for your great tips. I like to watch an animal, or an insect going about its business. I might follow an insect as it walks from A to B. Honestly it's meditative and it helps!
Hey Kyle, this are three great tips. They really work for me. I love the mindfull handwashing, shower and driving.. Driving is also safer that way. But that one, the getting over one thing in the past, as proof to your body and emotional system, that with time, this new situation or anxious feeling shall pass too. Is so comforting, when telling that to oneself. I now am from days fretting over a stressfull atacking email to... I yust do Donna Edens triple warmer, take a shower and know that after sleeping.. the feeling is subsided from 90% anxious to 30 or 40%. That's a great improvement and helps me to do those things, even when its hard in the moment itself to step away from the screen and accept what can't be changed. Thank you for your thorough content. It helped a lot between my abduction horror experience in 2020/2021 and waiting for my scheme based therapy to start.. Please keep up the good work😊🙏🎶👌 Warm greetings from the Netherlands🌷
I related sooo much to presentation embarrassment and being charged by it for years afterwards! Why are we like this?! Lol. And is there a way to discharge from that type of anxiety quicker? I literally do the same thing, lay in bed and charge myself with anxiety from my thoughts on a past event or current situation. 😢
You know what helps my anxiety, is doing the task that is bothering me. If I’m having anxiety over my clothes piling up at the back of my door, I will fold/put for washing. If it is not night I will start the laundry, if it is night I will get the washer ready for washing in the morning. If I’m bothered about the dishes not being done, I will do them as soon as possible. This is really calming to me to see tasks that were giving me anxiety done.
Thank you for this video my anxiety is out of control I am learning now how to decompress. I have schizoaffective disorder and it is a struggle at times.
That’s really cool- the part that you learned to finally get over being an 18 year old goofy guy. I finally stopped having those “shame on me” memories, because for the last couple of years I started telling my brain to SHUT UP, that it was wasting my time and just stop being so damn judgmental ! The trick is, it only worked when I said it out loud. I guess my brain was willing to believe what came through my ears. Interesting phenomena. If I just thought about stopping the thoughts, my brain simply countered with stronger negative thoughts.
Awesome video Kyle. Extremely helpful. My therapist asked me how it feels when I wash my face? Good, ugh. I better understand how to be more mindful of self. Going to dive into some of the ACT vids. Thanks again ✌🤘
I go back to similar circumstances and observe the outcomes of the old ones añd observe them. Many times I have noticed that things have turned out ok in spite of how I felt in the moment and many times I have been helped by unseen forces. This calms me down knowing that inspite of difficulties I will be ok and things do turn out for good.
Kyle: When I wake up, I get out of bed immediately to prevent an anxiety or panic attack. After getting out of bed, I do a simple morning routine. I take my medication, I feed the cats, and then I take out the garbage. After this ritual, I feel somewhat grounded for the day. I am diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder. It is lovely to see you again. COVID-19 has seemed to worsen symptoms for the mentally ill. Yes, being at home all day cannot be helpful for our mental health. I have had to suspend my ballet, Taekwondo, and violin training. I am at home writing my first book to be published with the help of my editor. My memoir is about my lived experience with mental illness. I have yet to read your book! I am sure I would benefit from learning about your experiences as an animal trainer. It is lovely to see you again in this format. Thank you for your familiar presence.
Thank you so much! I only wish I saw this last year, but I'm grateful that I found it now. It is right now when I need it the most. I too am pandemic anxious, haven't had anxiety like this since I was a child. I'm looking for techniques and I will give yours a try. I subscribed.
Counting backwards from 10 in a language other than your native tongue. (Over & over until you feel regulated again) It has stopped the onset of MULTIPLE anxiety attacks/ hyperventilating for me.
When I start to feel overwhelmed, which usually brings on anxiety, I stop and take “brain naps”. I lay down in bed with an eye mask, even if I’m not tired, and put on soothing meditation music for an hour or just lie in silence. I let thoughts flit in and put of my head while trying not to hold onto any too hard unless they’re fun. It gives me an opportunity to take a break from what’s going on in my day, week, whatever and just relax my mind. I do this most days and especially if I know something is coming up in my day that will possibly be anxiety inducing or stressful. Sometimes I can even stop in the middle of a stressful task and go take a “brain nap” as a way to reset my anxiety and stress levels.
A shtyn, Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath and mind [brain] are closely related causing stress-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. Change happens from within by itself. Day or night, when taking a walk, sitting in a park, when reading, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce watching social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
When I start noticing that I'm going down a spiral of anxious thoughts, I sometimes just ghink of myself as a friend. And then I try to treat myself the way I would treat my friend. And well...it works for me.
There’s one thing that can help. Common situation at the airport traveling by myself. I just watch people how calm they are. I try to make a little story. This man just walked by might go to a business meeting or this couple right after him might go to a holiday. If they can do it I can do it. This is a safe place. People around me show no sign of anxiety, so why should I be nervous. I repeat in my mind many times: if they can do it, I can do it.
Learning a lot especially because I have social anxiety, keep educating us on more information about anxiety. Very educative to me 👏👏👊 especially since am in Kenya
So Budda 🎉 I learned that technique from Thich Nhat Hanh. I like practicing my things through out the day. Every day!!!! The consistency is the key👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Listening to music while I'm driving helps my driving anxiety. Reading the Tao te Ching has helped me throughout my life. I also manage my depression and anxiety by staying away from the news and weather reports, not watching TV, and watching uplifting, educational, amusing or entertaining content on KZclip and select streaming services. Melatonin supplements have also helped me get more sleep and I've been less anxious during the day.
30 years of anxiety and depression. I finally discovered it was MSG. I love ramen, even the cheap stuff, and had been eating it since college. Other than that, I eat pretty well. Studies galore now about how preservatives and additives (flavor and color) can trigger people. It compounds, so it can be a gradual process.
One thing I do, when the anxiety literally paralyzes me, is start moving really slowly at first and even stop and let me get paralyzed again, when this kind of coma kicks in, to after that start moving again , and a bit more , and mostly after a while, almost without noticing when exactly, I.get into a reasonable rithm this way. Good video. I like the participation level it brings.
I have IBS. It causes anxiety that comes with symptoms. Just like the saying “nervous stomach “. So 1 thing that helps me and so helps my anxiety it causes. Is a probiotic/digestive enzyme I take daily. I have to say, when my “stomach”/digestive tract is happy my anxiety is at the very least, way less.
It's so amazing, your hand washing made me think of adulation before prayers five times a day. It changes your energy. Need to be absolutely focused and mindful about washing hands, face and feet. It's an amazing way how you explained washing hands mindfully. Great!
This video conveniently showed up on my algorithm today after a prolonged anxiety moment. You gave great tips but I think listening to your voice was what really helped ease my anxiety somehow.
My one, I learnt many years ago - wash your dishes by hand paying extreme attention during the process and dry them with a towel by hand. This is the best !
To help my anxiety about what I think others think of me , I remind myself of a couple things 1. It is silly for me to think I know what others are thinking. 2. Is it a bigger deal to me than them? 3. I’m not the only person that has ever done something like that. 4. Is there something to be learned?. 5. I can’t change what happened but maybe thereis some action I can take. I remember, too, the old saying “ this, too, shall pass.”
a friend told me his '3 hour rule' which has helped me with social anxiety. 3 hours is a manageable & measurable number so instead of saying no to going out to a social engagement I can say yes - knowing it is only a yes for 3 hours & that after that I give myself permission to leave :)
Something that I do, and I do it obsessively, all day, every single day, it is some thing that Eckhart Tolle taught me. What I do is the first thing that you mentioned, the handwashing moments, and I do that all day every day, as much as possible. That means that in the morning if I can I focus on whatever I’m doing however, I’m doing it and experience environment. And I make sure to control my monkey mind. If I make the kind of inner comments, like I hate that person, I don’t like what they’re doing, they should do what I expect them to do, or comments like I wonder what’s for dinner? You don’t have any time for inner commentary. It will ruin your life if you let it. Focus on the present moment only. I learned to control my monkey mind with meditation, and that will help.
I wanted to wish for you a happy New Year, and I must tell you - I think you are a fantastic guy - and very brave to be so open towards us! I admire you for that. I wonder where your courage come from :-) May it be from Norwegian ancestors? Your name reminds me of a fantastic artist - Theodore Kittelsen - who is famous in my native Norway for his wonderful drawings of Trolls and fairies - among other things. You can google him and enjoy his drawings. I also wanted to tell you of an advice I got when I was a district nurse, and I sometimes got stressed because we had so much to do. I would sit in my car - close my eyes - think about one of my hands, feel it in my thoughts, and without "letting it go" out of my mind, - think about my other hand - Yes - there it was - and without letting them go - feel one of my feet - and then the other - So I felt all 4 - and then I inhaled deeply, and exhaled. This helped me to be calm again, and I could go to the next patient - being calm and feeling better - This whole exercise took no more than a couple of minutes :-) I hope someone else who needs it - can have some help from this. I thank you again for your insightful videos! Regards from Eli Christine, now living in Sweden.
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To manage my anxiety, I give myself 15 minutes a day that I allow my brain to have it's go at running tbrough the worries. I write them down. When my timer goes off I look through the list for actionable tasks and plan for those. I go about my day. If I start anxious thoughts I remind myself I've gone through those and have plans on addressing the ones I can. Anything else can wait till tomorrow's 15 min session.
This literally helped me so much. Just thank you. I've been having awful times with anxiety and negative thoughts and I'll try this :) I hope we can push thru this and I believe we will, fighting!
This is close to the CBT thought record
Wow amazing advice will definitely try this! Thank you so much ❤️
I had such bad anxiety that I would tell the pizza guy to leave the pizza on the porch and I would wait for him to leave to get it. Deliverance is real and my extreme healing of anxiety was instant but then I notice I get it again when I start sinning. It has/had something to do with evil. That's really all I know. Evidently they are called demons of strife and fasting praying and repentance seems/seemed to be working/worked and im wording it like this because im not sure if I'm at the other end of the tunnel yet. At first when I feel the Holy spirit it is like 20 Xanax calm just asking Christ to come help me. That's the other thing I don't need drugs to feel calm anymore and my Crack head alcoholism feeling is gone which I am told is another device of evil for lack of a better term.
I know it's not psychosomatic because I've tried all this deliverance stuff before this time the thing that changed was I actually wanted it to stop. I was willing to give up the other stuff that God didn't approve of (masturbation,drugs, theft, lying) sin. I prayed and fasted opened up the Bible and read. This stuff is real. Get your bibles and really change your anxiety may be lifted. If it's a spiritual thing that means you have a unclean spirit I am learning and don't think it's a joke cuz this stuff is real and satan will try to make you consider other options they will scoff but guys im figuring out something...Jesus is duh wey. Do you know duh wey? FR
How do you control your anxiety and worry for things those are not in control with you?
Kyle, I just wanted to tell you that I find this series both practically helpful, and, on a personal level, very comforting. While therapists are definitely useful, it's so much more meaningful to me to hear someone who actually has depression, anxiety, etc talk about realistic management strategies. It also makes me hopeful to see someone who clearly has a very successful career despite their mental health struggles. :) Please continue this series- you have a great presentation style!
@Colleen Daniels mmllk
I agree! I hope you do more of these Kyle 👍🏽
Agree! This video is so helpful and Kyle has a voice tone which can make me calm down.
I agree. This is very helpful
When I have anxiety, I experience physical sensations that are often overwhelming. I learned to give these sensations a minute and let them go through my body without trying to neither deny what I am experiencing nor reject it. I let myself experience the whole thing: the accelerated heart beat, the weakness in my legs, the empty in my stomach, the shaking, the sweating. I stop and experience these feelings as they happen and then they go away. For me, it feels like these feelings have a cycle and if I let the cycle complete, it ends. If I resist them, they continue to be there causing suffering for hours.
@Denise Routhier Ledoux I wish
Wish I had your skills
@Nadine F, now I fully understand my problem is anxiety, have been watching videos in KZclip and have found them helpful. I hope one day I shall live like anyone. Initially, I even thought it is a curse since I never heard anyone complaining of the same. But now having known it is a common problem to many people, I have accepted it and believe I will overcome
@Kwamboka Leonidah it sounds really overwhelming. I can imagine how difficult it was for you when you were younger and didn’t understand what you were experiencing. I hope you feel more in control of it now. I hope that this thing goes away as we grow older. Wishing you all the best
Finally I got my anxiety mate😂. Your symptoms are typically mine. I have been experiencing this since my childhood but I never understood what was it really happening to me till I got to understand it in adulthood. This condition has always denied me self-love. I have no triggers, it just comes, I can wake up in the morning and suddenly start feeling afraid and keyed up😢. I once told my friend about my situation, he found it funny when I said my stomach feels empty, with weak legs and a racing heart, he laughed out loud, it pained me more.
I learnt to keep it to myself, find a private place, pray alone and just literally ask my mind and heart to judge if they are comfortable with this feeling..finally I say No, no, no loudly to myself. I also try to fight the feeling by forcefully distracting my thought while taking deep breath, it heals but with time.
However, my source of anxiety is overanalyzing situations, and easily giving life to negative thoughts..It's easy to say it that way but that feeling makes me totally dysfunctional😢
I write love letters to myself. Things like “your doing the best you can” “you’ve done hard things before you can do it again”
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I will try tjat it sounds really good.
I just did this few minutes ago and wooow, it felt great. Thank you..
Fantastic !! Also calms that inner voice that tends to go negative so quickly all the time.
this is so sweet! 😭💕 you are so kind to yourself, I love that 🙏💕
My daughter passed away July 2020 and anxiety is so bad. I find that when I’m focused on my grandchildren it helps me so much as well as going out of my way to do random acts of kindness every day in her honor helps me feel good.
A warm hug for you ❤️
@breathewithvirag thank you 🌹
So sorry for your loss
My condolences. My son passed 5 months ago, but I"m making my way forward.
My son died in a car accident at 28
No one survives a loss of a child...we fill our time with many projects one after another. Keep busy but all cope in their own way....
“You are not your thoughts.” Recognising the thought and detaching myself from it is the most helpful for me. I also constantly remind myself to concentrate solely on what I can control at that moment. If it’s out of my hands, I make an effort to recognise the intrusive thought and tell myself the ball is not in my court.
Also, I find the phrase, “It is what it is”. Helpful. Things are not always what I hope, wish or believe them to be and that makes life easier.
Kyle, the types of tips you shared are the type I hope more professionals start to offer. We've all heard the sleep, exercise, healthy eating comments from doctors. It's the moment of debilitating, heart pounding anxiety we need tips on. Yours help. Thank you!
Definitely, those 'quick' tips do not get down to the core issue so it's good you are going deeper!
Meditation on my lunch break has actually helped me quite a bit. If it’s in a conference room or your car, if you can find 20/30 minutes a day it helps.
Something that helps me as a grounding exercise when I’m feeling really overwhelmed with the physical symptoms is putting my awareness and attention in my feet. Works best bare foot, I feel the texture of the floor, I wiggle my toes and really focus on those sensations. I love this when I’ve just woken up and feel a little jittery it’s really helpful.
My therapist said that contact with cold (ice cubes was the example) to your temples can help snap you out of the anxiety loop. Since I can't always access ice (plus it's messy,) I substituted ice with beautiful smooth stones that are a type that stay cold longer and shed heat quickly. It has helped a number of times.
Interesting, i think that is the same mechanism like sheetali pranayama which cools the brain
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@Shaun Russell - kyanite comes in some really pretty colors (mostly shades of blue) and had a unique property of shedding head readily and being cool most of the time. I'd recommend them any the! In the hot summer I'll wear a bread necklace of them and they feel like a small portable AC to me. When they get to warm you just need to shake/swing them around a bit and they cool down fast.
Such a great idea!! 😊I like the idea of smooth stones much more than ice cubes! I’ll have to find some smooth stones… which did you find work best? Thanks again for the helpful tip here!! Many thanks 🙏🏻
My mother is the ultimate in catastrophe thinking. The amount of energy she put into an assume outcome was more than trying to prepare for it. I found over the years myself doing this as well among other classic trauma narratives . I realized that at 53 it's time change the narrative. Peeling back the lineage of family toxicity has not been easy, but the journey so far has been liberating. Channels like this help. There is comfort in the concept of strength in numbers. Thank you
I started having panic attacks a few months ago because I had physical symptoms indicating a heart attack (luckily, it wasn't a heart attack, but since that day I fear having a serious disease or sth in the weirdest situations). Everyone basically tells me to remind myself that it's "just panic" and "not to worry", which obviously makes it even worse because when you're IN a panic attack, you CAN'T "just think positive" and focus. So what I do INSTEAD when I have a panic attack, is trying to make a list in my head about why it wouldn't be that bad if I'd die in that very moment (I know it sounds kind of suicidal, but I'm not, it just helps me because my body is convinced that I'll die, so my mind needs to play along with that until the attack is over). I hope this helps someone out there - you are not alone 💛
Omgg I recently starts having panic attacks last month and omg they’re absolutely terrible everytime they happen it feels like I’m about to die. and like you explained I had the same symptoms of a heart attack but the doctors told me my heart was fine. I absolutely know how you feel and Just know your not alone I wish they would just go away :( but they don’t there’s come a point where I don’t even know what to do anymore everytime they happen it feels like I’m about to die.
@væl So here is my advice for you as someone who has gone through several panic attacks at different points in my life.
First priority is to sit/lie down somewhere, if possible also have a surface against your back as there is a high chance you faint because of your accelerated heart rate and fast breathing. Your next priority is to direct the focus of your thoughts to whichever one of your senses is still working alright (you might be hearing a ringing sound or feel like your ears are stuffed with cotton so all sound feels muted, sight might be getting blurry or black, your body could be trembling lightly or a lot etc). For me I had my sense of sensation working properly so once I sat down on my computer chair and made sure my back was against the backrest plus my feet were firmly on the ground I started thinking how my socks were fuzzy and warm, the leather of the chair felt nice and cool, I focused on the feeling of my clothes on my skin and meanwhile kept breathing in and out in order to gradually make my breaths become deeper inhales and exhales rather than short ones as this normalizes your breathing pattern and is the best strategy to calm down the rapid beating of your heart (the two key factors of panic attacks).
Afterwards, once it's over, make sure you stay in the position you are in for at least 2-4 more mins before getting up as you are very likely going to be quite shaky and feel like a wrung out towel, which could lead to you falling down as you get up. Try holding/leaning onto something solid if there is anything as such around to use until you feel more strength in your legs and your balance is back properly.
Hope this helps, in case you find yourself experiencing another one or you learn someone you know has them as well.
@væl I'm so sorry this happened to you, I hope you're feeling better by now! It turned out I actually really had a heart disease and my psyche reacted to it. I battled with several panic attacks after that but now that it's been a while and I'm healthy again, I didn't have a single one ever since.
Accurate, this just happened to me yesterday.
Hey Kyle, KZclip sent me this feed and this is the first time I have ever seen you without a mental healthcare provider by your side. Thank you for the great presentation and giving of your time in sharing the healthy mindful habits you have introduced into your everyday life. All of those steps are powerful, but even more impactful is your honesty about your own personal mental journeys. I related to all of them and it's true that there are so many tools to help us keep layering towards mental peace. Thanks again.
I really liked this video! One tip I got taught during group therapy years ago, was to ask yourself 'Will I remember this five years from now?'. For me, when the answer is no, it makes me feel immediately calmer about it. Even if the anxiety doesn't go away completely, it usually feels less intense. On the rare occasion the answer is yes, I ask myself if I'll likely still feel the same way about the situation or thing that's making me anxious in five years and usually the answer is that I won't. I think it helps me understand if something is actually a big issue or if my anxiety disorder is just making it feel huge and scary. It doesn't work with everything but you'll be surprised how much it can help with general anxiety.
Emily, To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath and mind [brain] are closely related causing stress-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. Change happens from within by itself. Day or night, when taking a walk, sitting in a park, when reading, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce watching social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Saying “no” without guilt. Making sure if I’m saying “yes”‘ to something that it’s not for the wrong reason. Being honest about my limits without guilt. It’s when I do too much, spread myself too thin that I become very anxious and stressed. That’s something that I have to personally monitor. And also accepting that not everyone has to be ok with, or understand, my boundaries, but I still have to place them regardless.
Stop sinning no matter how small and then pray see what happens. I think I've been healed the reason I'm not sure is because I think when I start some of the old behaviors up God allows it to return.
I just love your comment. Very important point to be noted.
I actually use the breathing techniques everyone who has anxiety knows of, but I honestly enjoyed the “I am having the thought that” … I’ll apply it to my life and also be mindful when I wash my hands, since this is something I do a lot. Thank, Kyle.
Julia Kristina is another great therapist who teaches that a thought is just a thought, that my thoughts are not necessarily true, and that we should get curious about our thoughts, instead of letting them control our feelings. It's great stuff and Ms. Kristina is on KZclip with some good programs.
For social anxiety I use the 'fake it til you make it' technique. If you pretend you are confident and likable you can start to feel that way a little.
Also realizing that everyone else is too wrapped up in their own inner world to dwell on your mistakes helps a lot. You might be feeling awkward and embarrassed and kicking yourself for your mistakes but they may be feeling the same or worrying about something else in their life or trying to remember to buy cay food.
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Great point about getting in tune with yourself. There is no anxiety when you are in touch with the core of who you are! Thanks for the video Kyle 🙌🔥
Thank you for EXPLAINING mindfulness! No one ever does, and it's frustrating, because how am I supposed to do it if I don't know what it is? So thank you for being more specific on what it is and how to do it 💖
Great point. Also, there are different definitions of mindfulness. Different practices. But it can also refer to a state of consciousness. Quite frustrating when terms are not clearly defined and thrown out there.
We don't know if our thoughts are true. Realizing that is a great tool to help with anxiety. Thank You for that.
Something I’ve learned recently is to face your anxiety head-on and the goal here is to not fear it. Do not tell yourself “I’ll feel better later” - be in the moment. Recognize that you feel anxious and as such try to accept that you do. The more deep you go into this anxious feeling, the more you realize that it’s not dangerous and it’s simply a normal response to something that worries you. Challenge yourself and be in your anxiety as you do. Of course, you should do this in moderation so it doesn’t end up becoming worse.
Michelle, To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath and mind [brain] are closely related causing stress-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. Change happens from within by itself. Day or night, when taking a walk, sitting in a park, when reading, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce watching social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Thanks for the tips. I would like to share one lifestyle change I made in my life too!
Taking some time to just sit peacefully in the morning before starting my day. I don't think about anything intentionally, I just let thoughts pass through my mind until it is all quiet. I also observe my surroundings (anything around me: the wall of my room, the balloons near my cupboard...) and try to just say one good thing about myself. I recently realised that I was internalising a lot of hatred toward me, when previously I used to think I was almost incapable of hating. So I have started be kind with myself as I try to be with others 😊. Life's becoming better. It is not magic, neither a cure. Just something that helps me stay put, and even if anxiety knocks at my door the serenity I gather in the start of my day helps me refocus my energy to better things and extinguish the stress and anxiety. ❤️
When I was still in school, I started waking up before the alarms went off. I realised that the morning alarms were also a cause of anxiety for me. I stopped putting deadlines on every dream I had. I could do these and many more things just because of the peaceful morning time I started giving to myself. 😊
Hena A dlakha, To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath and mind [brain] are closely related causing stress-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. Change happens from within by itself. Day or night, when taking a walk, sitting in a park, when reading, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce watching social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I truly appreciate and use what you share, Kyle. Well done. ❤
Same! 😭 Thank you, Kyle!
I find EFT tapping quite helpful when i notice im getting anxious or panicked, and grounding techniques like you mentioned while washing your hands. The trick is to remember to do them. I work in Healthcare so I was my hands alone, I'm going to try and create a link between hand washing and grounding so I'm doing it more often. Thank you so much for your videos!
A little bit of anxiety is good when we are in danger and then we burn it off but it's totally different than an anxiety disorder. I have had both since childhood but full hysterectomy triggered it worst.
@jessie thank you. I got the 2 doses of pfizer earlier this year only because I work in our local hospital and take care of my 94 year old mom and I didn't want to catch it. I also have crohns so I didn't know how it would affect me but I am ok. It's like you said that looking too far ahead just makes it worst and there are going to be things that we can't do anything about but it is a challenge that's how anxiety works at times. Keep holding on to your faith. I know that somehow God will see us through it.
@Georgina LeBlanc-Jacquard thank you, I'm sorry for your losses as well. I will continue to keep my head up. I keep telling myself to deal with just one day at a time, because looking into the future just makes me think of a million what ifs. Losing family members this year to Covid has been horrible. My cousin, then my Uncle then 7 days later my grandma. My mom got sick and I was petrified but thank God she had a very mild case. 🤷 Maybe the shot helped. No one else has gotten it and I'm to scared to get it.
@jessie I am so very sorry for your losses. Its very difficult losing family members. That's what my anxiety is about losing my husband and my mom. We have lost 4 close family members and 3 dogs in 3 years and it just triggered that fear in me. I am glad that you are seeking the natural route and I wish that I would have because I have tried many antidepressants and only the one I am on now helps a little. I have had insomnia since my surgery which triggered major depression but I have also learned about a breathing technique that Dr Andrew Weil talks about called 4-7-8. You breath in for the count of 4 hold it for a count of 7 and then forcefully breathe out your mouth for the count of 8 and do it 4 times twice a day for a month and then increase the cycle to 8 counts twice a day. I was very skeptical but it is meant to calm down your nervous system and it helps some but I just only started doing it 2 weeks ago. Menopause can trigger alot in a woman and I too have had horrible depression to the point that I wanted God to call me home but I pray and hang on and there is improvement. Hang on and don't give up. We are all here for a reason but if you get to the point where you can't cope and feel suicidal then please tell your doctor. Your life is important. You might not think that you matter but you do. I will pray for you and send loving thoughts your way. Hugs
@Georgina LeBlanc-Jacquard I did see my doctor and he said I was going through menopause 😲 I just turned 40. But after talking to my mom and Aunts and grandma. They all went through it young as well. I could cry all the time. I was constantly worried about all of my family dying. Unfortunately 3 people have passed away very recently in my family 😔 my anxiety has been through the roof I feel like I don't want to live I can't seem to get any sleep....
I've been talkin to a natural path for hormones and I upped my vitamin D3 to 50,000iu weekly, started taking magnesium and valerian root and thankfully it's starting to help😊
@jessie its because your hormones are changing. Get your hormone levels checked and thyroid. Before I had my hysterectomy I was almost 47 and under alot of stress and my family doctor told me that I probably didn't have much hormones left anyways because I only had the one ovary left that was going to be taken out and I didn't know so I believed her. After my surgery I was doing ok recovering the first 8 weeks except that I developed insomnia so she prescribed me prometrium (progesterone) which didn't help and then she gave me sleeping pills and I could only sleep 4 hours so I had to wait after week 9 to go back to work because I have a very physical job and I was there an hour and someone asked me how I was and I started crying uncontrollably and was feeling panicked. My friend walked with me to our supervisors office and I had to go home. I couldn't function. The emptiness swept over me and my anxiety and panic worsened and took a breakdown of major depression and developed an anxiety disorder so the point of my story is that I trusted my doctor because she was a woman and my surgeon was also a woman and they should have gone over it with me about the hormones and suggested that I go on them as soon as I was operated on. I went on them last year but not much improvement because I went so long without them. So get your levels checked and take care. I pray for all the best for you. And let me know how you make out if you decide to get checked. Also checked your B12.
Thanks so much Kyle for sharing your personal and effective tips ... I was already using the last one, telling myself "hey big girl, you've been through worse than that, you can overcome this" 😜
And I'm certainly going to use the "I'm having the thought that blah blah blah, and it's only a thought."
I have another tip for my anxiety attacks, and it's simply to visualize immediately that the part in me that is having the distress is my inner child, or a younger me, seeing her with love, understanding and compassion, and then I tell her (sometimes out loud 😂), "It's ok to feel anxious, but how about NOT trying SO hard to be perfect ? And accepting making mistakes ? As long as I've known you, you've always been trying to do your best, so that's fine"
It usually works, I suppose it's because it's a way to validate my feelings, acknowledge my good will, and I'm parenting myself at the same time....
Without blaming or shaming myself 😊
Nailed it Kyle... I always project and assume people are upset with me and it causes so much anxiety... Love the "I am having the thought____". Will try it, Thank you!
Love you Kyle. Astoundingly animated and with great cognitive linearity for having chronic depression. Genuine respect for your dedication to yourself and your audience 🙏
These tools are incredibly helpful! Thank you Kyle. To ease my anxiety, I have found the work around self-compassion from Kristin Neff to be really helpful. For me, this involves giving myself some loving kindness. As she suggests, in one example, I softly touch my arm or hand, and tell myself how hard the situation would be for anyone, with an awareness that it’s so normal to feel that way, as others have and do. It has greatly helped me!
Mindfulness has been major for keeping me from depression
In the 3rd strategy of overcoming anxiety, where you reminded yourself that if you got over one anxiety in the past , you can get over the current one as well. That's great motivation. I would like to know what helped you get over it the first time.
All great tips! My favorite is #3- the reminder that eventually the emotional charge of an event will disolve and neutralize. It may take work, and generally takes time, but the emotional charge can transform and become just a memory. For anxiety, sometimes I observe and name the sensations I feel, and remember that I 've experienced this before and survived in the past.
Thank you Kyle.
Loved this video!
Sharing the realness of your own story with practical advice that we can integrate into our daily lives, is so helpful.
"Go To" tips that add to our Tool Box.
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Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video. I really needed this video. I’m not doing good at all right now and listening to your videos give me hope that I can overcome what I am going through.
3 ways that are absolutely relatable, practical and doable. Thank you Kyle for sharing what you've learnt. I see no reason to not give them a go :)
Great tips Kyle! I really liked your last tip of reminding yourself that you've concurred something else in your past and you can do this again! I use this often and it does help
Absolutely love your channel! I am now managing my BPD, and feel a lot more in control of my life! 32 years old and BPD makes my life make so much more sense!!!! So thank you!!!! I am thriving now!
Fantastic sharing, Kyle! As a counsellor and an anxious person, I find this content so reassuring and so useful. ❤
You are awesome. I very much enjoy your perspective. When I become aware of anxious or negative thoughts I immediately shift my thought to an image in my head of a serene and still place that I have traveled to, and brought me peace. It almost always 're-sets" my thought process.
Kyle, these help so tremendously. You are such a huge help for so many.
So interesting your 3rd technique to help understand anxiety.
It's similar to how EMDR therapy works. You have the person bring up the 'picture' of the embarrassing situation ( or traumatic experience ) in the past that is causing symptoms/ anxiety in the present and process that picture ( using eye movements) with the negative belief about themselves and the feeling/ sensation in their body. You then process the past in the present which in turn creates better future outcomes. In sum, the past is in the present.
Dancing is a relief practice to me. It is actually excellent exercice, and very good for coordination, mindfullness and émotion connecting through the movement.
Nice Day !
Definitely a practice in mindfulness along the same lines of what you were saying, but when I have racing thoughts, I try to focus on the feeling of the sensations on the inside of the palms of my hands and feet. It’s usually warm (and usually sweaty) but the warmth is actually kind of comforting, so the mindfulness and comfort works as a dual action to help calm me down.
Thanks for your video. I’m a new subscriber and have really enjoyed your videos and dry humor so far! 😊
Very useful video. A suggestion to feel better. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath and mind [brain] are closely related causing stress-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. Change happens from within by itself. Day or night, when taking a walk, sitting in a park, when reading, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce watching social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
When I'm feeling depressed, I look around and see others who 'appear' to have it worse than me. If I can remind myself that I'm not at the bottom, that I am overplaying the magnitude of my situation, it often helps me feel a bit more grounded and in control.
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My go to when anxiety starts: “Fear not, I am with thee; oh, be not dismayed, for I am thy God and will still give thee aid. I’ll strengthen thee, help thee, and cause thee to stand, upheld by my righteous, omnipotent hand” (see Isaiah 41:10). If I say it three times, especially focusing on the first six words... I'm good to go.
Hi I just found this channel. Great topic, I’m dealing with anxiety the past few years due to childhood trauma resurfacing. I liked that you mentioned being mindful. Like being mindful and aware of being in the moment . Love that. I just liked and subscribed to your channel. Introvert mom of 4 sons (2 autistic) loving the KZclip community learning from others (using dog therapy music for pups/humans) God Bless!
To be honest listening to music that I find uplifting and singing along to the music - really helps me have a break from the anxiety I feel . It’s my way of letting go and participating in something enjoyable and it helps me feel strong and empowered.
This and meditation / mindful moments . Or having a good chat with a friend where you can smile and laugh .
the handle☝️ is a good plug for psychedelic medicines, MDMA 🍄.....
The third strategy in your arsenal is just as profound as all of the other therapies. Practicing self compassion, and giving oneself permission to move on from certain experiences can take a long time. The shift often occurs subconsciously and after endless reflection. It’s as if the mind reaches a point where it’s convinced, it can no longer benefit from self flagellation.
I experienced anxiety and developed depression when i was around 4/5 years old, because every day violence and muder attempts at home by my father. By the time I was like in second grade i started having panicking and OCD followed by depression, avoidance and panic attacks. But I could Only realise what I was going through since the last 2-3 years. Now at my late 20s I'm combating with all the previously mentioned conditions and with 'failure to launch syndrome'.
Did multiple jobs but before completing a years i was back at home, though I hated the presence and the ongoing abuse from my father. Because my mom still lives there at Home and she protected me from all my father's attempts to show and make us feel afraid, as if he is gonna kill me and mother. The fact that He never killed any of us, put me perplexed.
Anyway I'm alive and and I still don't know how can i cure myself from the Trauma that started since the inception of my memory and still on going, and I'm not sure whether I can heal myself at least half of my Trauma and the mental health conditions. Sometimes I think it's a gift, because i can always try not to deliberately inflict pain on anyone. Because like many I knew the taste of tears. And only the ash knows the experience of burning.
So first, you are such a wonderful host! Brilliant, so well prepared yet so authentic... thank you! On other ways of dealing with anxiety - someone taught me to space my virtual meetings (I am sure this can be applied to physical meetings as well) so that when something gets me worried, stressed, pissed off especially about the future .. I deal with it with outward calm. But right afterwards (not later, not two days later, right afterwards) I get in a a safe physical (and virtual space!) and get it out physically - and that depends on the person. Sit ups, push ups, kickboxing, whatever... so it's not just that we need exercising, but that sometimes we need a physical release to whatever we are feeling. Super difficult to do in back to back meetings, or when work leads into personal space.... so it is important to build those few moments to release physically. So end you next meeting of an hour at 55 minutes and release that negative energy!
One more: I agree and have looked at the horrific trauma I’ve encountered. I use it as a way to say to me,
“Well, I’ve been through that. 🤔
I think I can do this.” 😷
More practical tips like this, please and thank you. 🌸👍🏽💕
It made me really happy to see other people feel the same with me and your channel helps a lot thank you
Hi I too thought it was me being melodramatic but knowing there are many people feel the same helps and Kyle seem a very confidant person last person you would think feels same also
The first trick I literally started doing a few days ago and I noticed how much quieter my mind has been and how much calmer my body has felt. Like, yes, I know I have to X,Y and Z but right now I’m doing W, so don’t worry about it.
Speaking on the second tip, this concept and the following sentence specifically are what I attribute to a huge part of my spiritual awakening… “you are not your thoughts, you are not even the thinker of your thoughts, you are the observer of it all.” And I remember that initial sense of power that gave me to remain objective, however I’ve never used it in this practical way and I’m going to try to use this too from now on, “I’m having the thought that ____”
And to the third trick, I love this but the way that I make it more concrete is reaching out the energy of my future self. The one who has processed and moved on from whatever it is still bothering me.
I also like to think about how time isn’t linear so technically, you’re already over it! Once you back your brain into thinking this way it becomes easier and easier. However, I just realized how anxious of a person I actually am and because of that I’m just starting to see where it manifests and impacts my life. This video was helpful. Thank you, I will be checking other videos out too for sure 😁
you sound very interesting hope all is well with your family may God bless you all🙏💕
1.FOCUS
I’m telling myself this when I’m in middle of thoughtful storm and full ON anxiety, so this word now becomes my immediate attention back to the moment alarm!
2. Telling my self:( it’s not the end of the world!) whenever I witnessed an embarrassing situation so it can ease till it pass by ..
3. Telling myself: ( it didn’t matter! Or Why I am caring much ?) for any situation that can affect my self esteem so I will stop myself from personalizing it and draining me into a dark sad thoughts..
Really good tips, I can say the first two helps a lot but you helped me to discover the last one, I'm pretty sure it's as useful as the first two. Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us.
It helped me to hear you telling about your own anxiety first. I really liked this
Thanks for your great tips. I like to watch an animal, or an insect going about its business. I might follow an insect as it walks from A to B. Honestly it's meditative and it helps!
Hey Kyle, this are three great tips. They really work for me. I love the mindfull handwashing, shower and driving..
Driving is also safer that way.
But that one, the getting over one thing in the past, as proof to your body and emotional system, that with time, this new situation or anxious feeling shall pass too. Is so comforting, when telling that to oneself. I now am from days fretting over a stressfull atacking email to... I yust do Donna Edens triple warmer, take a shower and know that after sleeping.. the feeling is subsided from 90% anxious to 30 or 40%. That's a great improvement and helps me to do those things, even when its hard in the moment itself to step away from the screen and accept what can't be changed.
Thank you for your thorough content. It helped a lot between my abduction horror experience in 2020/2021 and waiting for my scheme based therapy to start..
Please keep up the good work😊🙏🎶👌
Warm greetings from the Netherlands🌷
I related sooo much to presentation embarrassment and being charged by it for years afterwards! Why are we like this?! Lol. And is there a way to discharge from that type of anxiety quicker? I literally do the same thing, lay in bed and charge myself with anxiety from my thoughts on a past event or current situation. 😢
You know what helps my anxiety, is doing the task that is bothering me. If I’m having anxiety over my clothes piling up at the back of my door, I will fold/put for washing. If it is not night I will start the laundry, if it is night I will get the washer ready for washing in the morning. If I’m bothered about the dishes not being done, I will do them as soon as possible. This is really calming to me to see tasks that were giving me anxiety done.
Thank you for this video my anxiety is out of control I am learning now how to decompress. I have schizoaffective disorder and it is a struggle at times.
That’s really cool- the part that you learned to finally get over being an 18 year old goofy guy. I finally stopped having those “shame on me” memories, because for the last couple of years I started telling my brain to SHUT UP, that it was wasting my time and just stop being so damn judgmental ! The trick is, it only worked when I said it out loud. I guess my brain was willing to believe what came through my ears. Interesting phenomena. If I just thought about stopping the thoughts, my brain simply countered with stronger negative thoughts.
Awesome video Kyle. Extremely helpful. My therapist asked me how it feels when I wash my face? Good, ugh. I better understand how to be more mindful of self. Going to dive into some of the ACT vids. Thanks again ✌🤘
I go back to similar circumstances and observe the outcomes of the old ones añd observe them. Many times I have noticed that things have turned out ok in spite of how I felt in the moment and many times I have been helped by unseen forces. This calms me down knowing that inspite of difficulties I will be ok and things do turn out for good.
Kyle: When I wake up, I get out of bed immediately to prevent an anxiety or panic attack. After getting out of bed, I do a simple morning routine. I take my medication, I feed the cats, and then I take out the garbage. After this ritual, I feel somewhat grounded for the day. I am diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder. It is lovely to see you again. COVID-19 has seemed to worsen symptoms for the mentally ill. Yes, being at home all day cannot be helpful for our mental health. I have had to suspend my ballet, Taekwondo, and violin training. I am at home writing my first book to be published with the help of my editor. My memoir is about my lived experience with mental illness. I have yet to read your book! I am sure I would benefit from learning about your experiences as an animal trainer. It is lovely to see you again in this format. Thank you for your familiar presence.
Going for walks in the forest. Works every time.
YES !!!!! And swimming!
Now the challenge is to remember to start being mindful BEFORE the brain drifts away. :)
Thank you so much! I only wish I saw this last year, but I'm grateful that I found it now. It is right now when I need it the most. I too am pandemic anxious, haven't had anxiety like this since I was a child. I'm looking for techniques and I will give yours a try. I subscribed.
Counting backwards from 10 in a language other than your native tongue. (Over & over until you feel regulated again) It has stopped the onset of MULTIPLE anxiety attacks/ hyperventilating for me.
Love this idea
When I start to feel overwhelmed, which usually brings on anxiety, I stop and take “brain naps”. I lay down in bed with an eye mask, even if I’m not tired, and put on soothing meditation music for an hour or just lie in silence. I let thoughts flit in and put of my head while trying not to hold onto any too hard unless they’re fun. It gives me an opportunity to take a break from what’s going on in my day, week, whatever and just relax my mind. I do this most days and especially if I know something is coming up in my day that will possibly be anxiety inducing or stressful. Sometimes I can even stop in the middle of a stressful task and go take a “brain nap” as a way to reset my anxiety and stress levels.
A shtyn, Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath and mind [brain] are closely related causing stress-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. Change happens from within by itself. Day or night, when taking a walk, sitting in a park, when reading, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce watching social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
When I start noticing that I'm going down a spiral of anxious thoughts, I sometimes just ghink of myself as a friend. And then I try to treat myself the way I would treat my friend. And well...it works for me.
Wow, what a great 💡 idea. It's funny I'm always told I have all the right things to say to help someone and yet I can't seem to help myself
YOU ARE SO BRAVE GOING OUT THERE KYLE!🥰🥰
I tried being mindful while listening to the video. It's really calming
There’s one thing that can help. Common situation at the airport traveling by myself. I just watch people how calm they are. I try to make a little story. This man just walked by might go to a business meeting or this couple right after him might go to a holiday. If they can do it I can do it. This is a safe place. People around me show no sign of anxiety, so why should I be nervous.
I repeat in my mind many times: if they can do it, I can do it.
Learning a lot especially because I have social anxiety, keep educating us on more information about anxiety. Very educative to me 👏👏👊 especially since am in Kenya
So Budda 🎉 I learned that technique from Thich Nhat Hanh. I like practicing my things through out the day. Every day!!!! The consistency is the key👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
That's a fantastic reminder. I have gotten over things before, and I can do it again!
Listening to music while I'm driving helps my driving anxiety. Reading the Tao te Ching has helped me throughout my life. I also manage my depression and anxiety by staying away from the news and weather reports, not watching TV, and watching uplifting, educational, amusing or entertaining content on KZclip and select streaming services. Melatonin supplements have also helped me get more sleep and I've been less anxious during the day.
30 years of anxiety and depression. I finally discovered it was MSG. I love ramen, even the cheap stuff, and had been eating it since college. Other than that, I eat pretty well.
Studies galore now about how preservatives and additives (flavor and color) can trigger people. It compounds, so it can be a gradual process.
One thing I do, when the anxiety literally paralyzes me, is start moving really slowly at first and even stop and let me get paralyzed again, when this kind of coma kicks in, to after that start moving again , and a bit more , and mostly after a while, almost without noticing when exactly, I.get into a reasonable rithm this way.
Good video. I like the participation level it brings.
It stops you moving
thank you for this video, I love your personality, real and funny too x
I have IBS. It causes anxiety that comes with symptoms. Just like the saying “nervous stomach “. So 1 thing that helps me and so helps my anxiety it causes. Is a probiotic/digestive enzyme I take daily. I have to say, when my “stomach”/digestive tract is happy my anxiety is at the very least, way less.
It's so amazing, your hand washing made me think of adulation before prayers five times a day. It changes your energy. Need to be absolutely focused and mindful about washing hands, face and feet. It's an amazing way how you explained washing hands mindfully. Great!
So good to see you again Kyle x 🩵
This video conveniently showed up on my algorithm today after a prolonged anxiety moment. You gave great tips but I think listening to your voice was what really helped ease my anxiety somehow.
I have ANGER...EVERY MORNING.
You nailed it. Awareness. I think anxiety blocks that do often.
I just found you! You are real, and you give courage to people, you are a healer!
🔝🔝We can help you with your depression and anxiety using psychedelics...
My one, I learnt many years ago - wash your dishes by hand paying extreme attention during the process and dry them with a towel by hand. This is the best !
To help my anxiety about what I think others think of me , I remind myself of a couple things 1. It is silly for me to think I know what others are thinking. 2. Is it a bigger deal to me than them? 3. I’m not the only person that has ever done something like that. 4. Is there something to be learned?. 5. I can’t change what happened but maybe thereis some action I can take. I remember, too, the old saying “ this, too, shall pass.”
I appreciate the tips and your honesty
To overcome anxiety I have been listening to The Anxiety Guy, his resources videos and podcasts took me from coping to healing
a friend told me his '3 hour rule' which has helped me with social anxiety. 3 hours is a manageable & measurable number so instead of saying no to going out to a social engagement I can say yes - knowing it is only a yes for 3 hours & that after that I give myself permission to leave :)
Something that I do, and I do it obsessively, all day, every single day, it is some thing that Eckhart Tolle taught me. What I do is the first thing that you mentioned, the handwashing moments, and I do that all day every day, as much as possible. That means that in the morning if I can I focus on whatever I’m doing however, I’m doing it and experience environment. And I make sure to control my monkey mind. If I make the kind of inner comments, like I hate that person, I don’t like what they’re doing, they should do what I expect them to do, or comments like I wonder what’s for dinner? You don’t have any time for inner commentary. It will ruin your life if you let it. Focus on the present moment only. I learned to control my monkey mind with meditation, and that will help.
Thank you for this, I was mindful on just practicing my darts and it really helped.
I wanted to wish for you a happy New Year, and I must tell you - I think you are a fantastic guy - and very brave to be so open towards us! I admire you for that. I wonder where your courage come from :-) May it be from Norwegian ancestors? Your name reminds me of a fantastic artist - Theodore Kittelsen - who is famous in my native Norway for his wonderful drawings of Trolls and fairies - among other things. You can google him and enjoy his drawings.
I also wanted to tell you of an advice I got when I was a district nurse, and I sometimes got stressed because we had so much to do. I would sit in my car - close my eyes - think about one of my hands, feel it in my thoughts, and without "letting it go" out of my mind, - think about my other hand - Yes - there it was - and without letting them go - feel one of my feet - and then the other - So I felt all 4 - and then I inhaled deeply, and exhaled. This helped me to be calm again, and I could go to the next patient - being calm and feeling better - This whole exercise took no more than a couple of minutes :-) I hope someone else who needs it - can have some help from this.
I thank you again for your insightful videos! Regards from Eli Christine, now living in Sweden.
Such a great video... you're really doing great work here ✌💕
Ah yes, not breathing helps my anxiety too 😌
great video, great presentation, i especially love #2 and #3, thank you!!