Former CIA Officer Will Teach You How to Spot a Lie l Digiday

She is describing 98% of politicians perfectly when she is explaining how liars behave.

Here’s one of the best pieces of general advice I’ve ever been told; if someone is asking you a specific and/or detailed question, it’s because they already know the answer, and that they are testing you and your honesty.

Stuff about lying is always stressful, because my parents constantly believed I was lying when I wasn't, and it made telling the truth a performance/production, and so anytime a situation where people are looking for the liar comes up, it's very stressful and panic inducing, regardless of whether I was the liar. And I always want to know where that kind of experience/response fits into these scenarios.

When I was little (and to this day) I get angry if I am being accused of something I didn’t do. And I get sheepish and blush if I am guilty. I am unable to hide a lie, my face gives me away immediately. My mom was able to determine this right out of the gate because of course she knows me best, but teachers would always tell my mom and I that my anger was proof of my guilt, because that is classic textbook behaviour. It is definitely important to form a baseline for each individual before forming opinions.

I worked as a correctional officer. For 30 years I worked amongst the world's best liars. I took a course in body language in college before my career. Alot of telltale signs of liars. But some prisoners are so good... those signs were not present due to lying being second nature to them.
One thing liars can't control, is remembering their lies. To many of them to keep tab of. THAT'S when you catch them. But they always have an explanation for the contradiction. VERY good con artists. It takes good instincts to uncover them.

This was helpful in helping me understand how & why a sheriff’s deputy perjured himself in a trial in which I was the accused. A jury acquitted me. The deputy went right back to victimizing others.

"Have you ever asked someone a question and they've talked for 10 minutes and then you realized they've never answered the question you asked?"
Yeah, they're called politicians.

My son (and only child) lied to me a lot -- even for minor things. One day I told him THE reason he should always tell the truth is because the day will come when you really need everyone to believe your lie. If you have previously ALWAYS told the truth to everyone no matter how bad it made you look -- they will NOW automatically believe you are still telling the truth. It could literally save your life. After that my son stopped lying as far as I could tell. It was the difference between day and night.

Once my husband worked for a place that was robbed. It turned out to be an insider job and his buddy, who he would hang out with at the gym, was involved. When they interrogated my husband, the guy finally leaned in towards my husband in a very serious way and said something like, "Admit it. You were involved." My husband found the whole situation so comical since he had nothing to do with it and the interrogator was so dead serious that he started laughing. The interrogator pulled back and says "I believe you. You can go now."

I was an active duty interrogator stationed at Ft Bragg after Huachuca. The thing I remember vividly is an instructor bending a student's finger back until it almost broke and asking his age. He blurted out "26" and she released it. Then she asked again and he said "24."
The lesson: that torture doesn't work. So screw the 'enhanced interrogation' methods and the purveyors (all CIA) of those methods.
Also, show the damn slides! I couldn't follow the presentation.

I don't think aggression can be used as a sure-fire way to detect lying. It's infuriating and scary to be accused of something you didn't do especially if it's something serious and you might get put away for someone else's crime. Not to mention people who have grown up in situations where they were frequently blamed for things they didn't do, they would naturally be way more aggressive cus they're sick of being the guilty one.
I used to go to a babysitters after school and there were a few of us. One of the girls was several years younger than the rest and if she cried for any reason or seemed upset, us older kids would often get questioned why she was upset. And the babysitter's tone would usually already indicate she wanted to know WHAT we did vs. if we did anything in the first place. We weren't bullies and didn't pick on her, so it got pretty grating and upsetting.
I remember one time we were all just watching TV and the younger girl got up and left the room. A few minutes later we heard the babysitter calling us asking why she was crying and we were just baffled. It wasn't even like we'd been playing with toys and unintentionally left her out or took a toy she wanted without realizing. Still have no idea why she had been crying.
Similar situations from my former home life along with this example from growing up have caused me to often become very defensive and explanatory when being falsely accused since I've often had to defend myself in the past to people who had already pretty much assumed I was guilty of something.
You get sick of being accused or confronted for things you haven't done so often, so any following accusation from anyone is already meeting with an already short fuse and little patience for yet another false claim.

it's fascinating how an individual understands all the benefits of a lie, yet the body and mind is against it.

In her world, everyone is guilty till innocent. I was a security Investigative field for over 33 years. Sure there are basic things to look for but often I've been wrong quite as few times. The facts are what count. If you ask someone a question that you have the facts to, you will pick up a lie immediatley in their answers.

Anyone who has dealt with the trauma of being falsely accused will tell you. It sucks and, its infuriating to have someone look you in the eye and lie on you. You feel like you are getting ready to get victimized.

There are always exceptions and people that can fool you no matter how much training you've had. And also those that may appear to be lying, but are in fact, telling the truth.

I think we decieve ourselves more than we lie to others. We rationalize in our thoughts that manipulation comes easier than exposing our own world view!
Becoming truthful with yourself can help in being honest in our answers to friends and family .

I think as someone who is more self-conscious than they wanted to be, I've always suffered from these kind of behavior analogy. You can spot it when they are underlying an accusation in their question and I get increasingly nervous because I understood why I'd look suspicious from their point of view and I'm now afraid any tiny nervous behavior cue in my answer would throw away my integrity.

I've spent 35 years of my professional life on the phone. If you listen, you can easily detect everything she's talking about. Great video

The biggest lie I tell myself is "you don't need to write that down you'll remember it".

I remember Susan Smith on TV, begging for her kids return. I knew instantly she was a liar. Her hair and makeup were perfect and her ability to speak, walk, interact were perfect.
No way a truly concerned mom who was attended and kids stolen would have been able to do any of that.

Yes her method is the general rule of thumb but one size does not fit all. Variables come into play and throws off the results. For instance, my friend from Yemen was accused of leaving a suspicious backpack near a government facility and he flipped out on the people questioning him. In this case he was aggressive because he's always been harassed or suspected of terrorism. Eventually they found the person that left the backpack and never apologized to him.
And one last thing..some sociopaths can skillfully navigate around deceptive indicators.

I have awful social anxiety and ADHD. I'm an AWFUL liar, so I don't tell lies that'd get me in trouble. But I swear I probably exhibit all of the red flags in just a normal conversation. There's no way this can be used universally.

A person's behavior under questioning frequently has a great deal to do with their childhood and how they were raised, and it is totally unrelated to the subject matter of the questioning. This is particularly true for a person who has a history of being emotionally or physically abused as a child by a parent or as an adult by a spouse. While in such an abusive childhood or relationship, they are constantly on trial in the court of their abuser and are assumed to be guilty unless they prove themselves innocent. And ultimately no matter what they prove to that abusive parent or spouse as to their innocence, they nevertheless constantly remain guilty in the eyes of the abuser. As a result, anyone growing up under that evil abusive tongue or hand of a parent will mostly likely make for a highly-insecure adult. That insecurity will yield nervousness long answers to yes/no questions. Also, because they get so tired of a life of constantly being on trial and constantly being wrongly disbelieved and wrongly assumed and found to be guilty, they finally get fed up and reply in anger under interrogation.

I did a good amount of lying as a kid and unfortunately that was rather convenient for someone who wanted me seen that way. When I walked into AA in 1987 I was told in no uncertain terms that unless I became honest I couldn’t stay sober. I had been dry for 5 1/2 years and went back to drinking and didn’t want my little son to experience me being drunk. I got honest and the freedom I got from that was I think almost equal to the freedom I have being sober. I don’t worry about how I look doing it, I trust me and live free. I couldn’t have done it without 12 steps and I’m so grateful.

My mom and I are very close and she called me out for lying. At first, I was hurt and angry and in denial. But, when I was less emotional, I did sort of an inventory of my day to day and where I lie, and why I lie. I also had the stark realization that munipulation is also a form of lying. As I've grown older, I'm 41, integrity has become very valuable to me. It was several years ago that my mom confronted me in love, and I am proud to say that I have worked diligently to think before I speak. I also began counseling with respect to using munipulation as a tool, and I took a deep dive into my childhood and adulthood. Anyways, I encourage anyone who values integrity to take an inventory of their own lives. Just thought I'd share my little story with y'all.

Often the simple fact that you're being accused of something and asked about it, you already feel guilty whether you did it or not. Very tough to not try to convince someone you didn't do something when you already feel guilty of it.

I’m the worst liar I’ve ever met so I just don’t do it because I know I’ll get caught as the words leave my mouth. My coworker found it absolutely hilarious when my manager made me lie to a customer, it was so bad the customer took pity and just said “Okay” while laughing under his breath.

I was married to a woman who was a compulsive liar. She would lie when the truth would have served her better. She was so into denial, she actually had developed at least a half dozen different ways to say "What??" it got to the point where it amounted to hardly anything more than just a petty thief attemping to rip me off for the truth. always, about everything. even when it was hopeless, pointless, rediculous. Your subject you questioed made me doubt her when she would say"of Course not" coaxing you to agree with a given she is attempting to set an honest standard for you to accept about her.

Took a nonverbal communication course and learned that the eye brows say a lot. Say you just accused someone of stealing something and they react by furrowing their brows. That's a pretty strong indicator that they are not being honest about something or that they are concerned about the direction of the conversation. On the other hand, say they reacted by raising their eyebrows. This is a strong indicator that the person is being honest or is going to say something honest.

I used to lie then lied even more to try and perfect it. As I got older I found out that if you tell the truth regardless the cost it usually causes someone some damage including yourself but you NEVER have to remember a lie. You NEVER have to get even because usually the reason you got sucked in is the person lying on you so it burns them like a gas station on fire, you're confident but will feel stupid sometimes because you will realize you do stupid stuff, and finaly your alone. NO one wants to be around you because if they go south you're not covering for them but if it was an honest accident it is what it is. You will go to war with your bosses because they lie all the time every second of the day. I had so much experience I started recording all the conversations that way there is no more loosing an argument because their friends have more power and it's a big click. Just let them keep singing your a lying and you need to be reprimanded and wait for the meeting then appeal it to larger audience. Then push play - impossible to argue and shows malice intentions. Then lawyers and law suits.

I was excited for this video but as I'm watching I've noticed that all the things she says people do who are lying are things I do when I'm telling the truth. My experience is that people tend to not believe when I just say "no" and that they need convincing, so that's what I do even though I'm totally innocent. This is because I have been blamed and fired for things I had nothing do with and afterwards realized that everyone else they asked tried to convince the boss, whereas I didn't. Later in life I have realized that people don't usually give me the benefit of the doubt and I end up in the defensive, explaining things, etc.

Yeah this isn't so helpful without the slides. But I've been accused of lying so many times in my life because of global signs as she calls them, generally all manifestations of anxiety and not guilt. But people constantly think they know how to spot a lie so they're much too quick to scream "liar!" I quit my last job over this and have never looked back. I'm self employed and my customers love how honest I am.

The problem I've had all my life is telling the veritable truth and getting anyone to believe me! Maybe it all works in reverse; that I'm making too big of a case, but that also comes with the lack of success I'm having to simply convey reality.
And I have to add: THE LIES BEING TOLD ABOUT ME ARE THE ONLY ONES PEOPLE BELIEVE!
At work and with my neighbors, nothing but trouble with dishonesty that I cannot clear myself of.

I’d say when detecting lies, it’s best if we know the individual’s personality and mannerisms beforehand… people have such different reactions to Being interrogated that we simply can’t make too many generalized assumptions

I've been watching Amber Heart vs Jonny Depp and Amber was doing exactly what this Officer is describing. Amber did exactly everything a person that is not being truthful would do and say. WOW!! She hit this on the nail.

Wow I loved this, I’ve read several books on body language/ deception etc. but this lady gave alot of other insight into the subject

I think the paradox is: the bigger the liar [and more experienced in lying]- the better they are at lying-the harder it is to catch them in a lie. While the opposite goes for the relatively honest person that is not used to lying [uncomfortable, gives off many signs and makes mistakes in their story]- easy to catch them in a lie.

Some people who are telling the truth don’t like to be thought of as liars and actually go above and beyond to convince people that they are indeed telling the truth, so it’s much more complicated than this.

Loved watching and learning. The only thing I differ here is aggression. Get super pissed when asked if idid something I didn't especially when I do something bad aka party night lol and my mother asks I say ya I did drugs. So when I answer no and they don't believe me yes I get aggressive especially because I'm telling the truth. What you guys think and obviously this carries on to how I live my life I'm pretty open and confident.

I go from being angry when falsely accused to just shaking my head and moving on. When I'm asked the same question (regardless of the wording), I'll eventually shake my head and tell them to believe what they want, I am done.
All these "deceptive behaviors" are making some people think they are experts at reading people because they "see these deceptive behaviors". KZclip is full of these experts and they all are wearing badges and costing their cities large sums of money.

I've been lied to so much for so long until I want to know the truth. Also, call them out on the lie with grace and elegance and full-grown wisdom.

I’ve watched this before, and this time around, I appreciate the guidance on understanding our own biases when communicating with people. Working with effective interpersonal communication skills through DBT. Very helpful in understanding myself & others. Thank you.

The problem with these methods are the same that exist with lie-detector tests. They don't detect lies, they detect nervous reactions which can be indicative of someone who is lying. Rubbing your nose or fidgeting during an interview doesn't mean you're lying.. It could simply mean you're nervous that someone THINKS you're lying. These methods can't make that distinction.

The whole aggression thing is a non-starter for me. The ONE thing that totally sets me off is to be accused of something that I didn't do. Being questioned about something by someone who is clearly trying to tie me to something I did not do is enough to totally piss me off. I am likely to unleash an F bomb or two, question their ancestry, and invite them to introduce their alimentary tract to a foreign object in the reverse direction of natural events. That obviously would seem a little aggressive to most.
I have great difficulty repressing this reaction and am not always successful in doing so. So, I would be considered lying? BS.
I have tried to analyze why this is my reaction, and I honestly think the incident that triggers this occurred back in the fourth grade, when a bunch of guys who were the more "elite" jocks chose to be idiots and stick their hands in an ant bed as some sort of machismo demonstration. I wasn't even present when they did it, but word of it quickly made the rounds, as a couple of them had such severe reactions that they ended up in the nurse's office and then taken out of school (just for the day) by their parents, and one ended up in the ER from what I recall (nobody had any more severe outcome). The key thing is the reaction of the school "powers that be" was apparently to "find the culprit who instigated this". I'll never forget sitting in my desk that afternoon, with this whole episode being somewhat of a vague issue for me, as I was not even present when it took place, when the homeroom teacher for a couple of the most "alpha males" in the group of idiots who pulled the stunt came to my classroom and started whispering to my teacher. Everyone kind of noticed what was going on, but they were just talking quietly. Then, I'll never really forget this, she (the other teacher) looked directly at me, and a gave a subtle nod while still talking to my teacher. They stopped talking, and to my horror they asked me, out of everyone in the class, to step outside in the hall. I had no idea what was going on yet, but I can still remember the rush of adrenaline and feeling my heart in my throat. The other homeroom teacher (who I had no real connection to) proceeded to lay out the accusation made by the other "alpha males" I mentioned. I was the "instigator" of the stunt. WTF!? I didn't even know about it until it was the gossip in the classroom. I remember the sense of panic in realizing that the "popular jocks" had conspired to throw me under the bus. I was stunned. What the hell? I denied even being there, I professed that I wasn't part of part of their little clique and that I wasn't ever involved with most of them, except for the occasional game of pickup dodgeball or what not. We weren't enemies but I just didn't really hang out with these guys and would never have been enough of ringleader to ever convince them to do something as crazy and sticking their hands in an ant bed (there were what we called "Red Ants" in Texas, they were huge and had serious bite - only a fool would have done this). Nevertheless, the cabal had apparently decided I was the fall guy for their stupidity. I have no idea if one of them decided to scapegoat me and the other guy went along, or if it was a rashly constructed conspiracy to divert attn away from themselves. It was a surreal experience. My protests fell on deaf ears. My parents were notified. The "trial" was settled by the word of a couple of fourth grade assholes who decided I was an easy target (I have no idea why I was the guy, but it was life changing for me). I was literally so angry and stunned that I was like a caged animal. I was in a rage at the same time as being totally humiliated. How easily I had become this sociopath instigator in my teacher's eyes, and the principal of the school's eyes. I went from "a good kid" to "that kid who pulled the ant bed stunt". My parents defended me, but I wondered if they secretly believed the story. I wasn't there for it, and they never talked about it, but I bet they had to get an earful from the parents of the jackasses who accused me. I never got over it. I flashback to it when someone accuses me of something I didn't do. I literally could come across the table rip the eyes out the accuser. Yes, super aggressive, but doesn't make me a liar.
Long story. Sorry, but the arrogance of this "expert" thinking that she somehow knows when someone is lying gets to me. My response would likely get me convicted in her eyes, while a good liar probably would walk. Not buying this BS. By the way, I have never seen one of those guys since grade school but if I ran into one of them in a dark alley one night, one of us wouldn't walk out in one piece.

This is all good information, as long as you have ALL the information and training to go with it. This takes years of training and practice to know how to do it. How many guys have come home from these seminars and ended up in a fight with their wife or girlfriend just because the guy learned a little bit. They really have no right to give them the information they do, just to try to sell the method. They will give you the disclaimer about not trying this at home, which they know damn well they are going to do, but the disclaimer gets them off the hook.

I am someone who does explain myself a lot but that is because I believe I'm way more intelligent than most people and they won't be able to comprehend some of the ideas I'm speaking about, especially because once I bring multiple thoughts into a single subject they lose the idea really quickly(often people hop on to ideas that have nothing to do with it so I notice they completely miss the point, also they talk before I was able to explain what I meant), so I spend my days thinking about how to convey people into understanding my thoughts so that I don't go insane and have to be alone in this world.
I explain everything carefully because I want them to understand, not because I want to deceive them, but yeah still some of it is linked to me explaining my radical views about things to people so they can understand it and realize I'm not actually bad but I'm just able to not pick sides and think about things critically, since that is my goal, to be honest to myself and to break down my own ideas until I see something I can barely break down, but most of the time the revelations are disturbing to others, because it all comes down to how most people are shit and manipulative, and lots of human thought up structures corrupt, and nobody wants to see it, because that's negativity and we only want to consume the good not the bad nowadays.

I was in college and worked part time at a dry cleaner, and one sunday close to the time we were getting off work, we were robbed at gun point. A few months later, we asked to testify in court and I was terrified to look in his direction. I wans’t guilty of anything but was so nervous and anxious at the same time…he received a 40yr sentence but served only 6!

We need this video for all the men in our lives honestly and the odd friends who try to lie to get you to do things 🤔👌👌

Saying "fine" when someone asks how you're doing may be a lie, but I would say asking someone how you are doing is a lie in itself as well, because 99% of the time the person asking likely doesn't really want to know how you are doing but merely asking to be polite.

If everyone were the same, you could apply such tactics... but they arent. Some people can lie without a shred of deceit, some can fijit through an entire truth.
You need to identify individual tells .
Some people can feel the energies shift Some can avoid shifting them.
The best way to identify a liar is to be impeccable with your own word.

It is really frustrating not being able to see what written information she is pointing to and not be able to hear answers to her questions from the audience. Not her fault, her presentation was awesome, and she is obviously a professional in her field.

When I’m in a bad mood and someone asks, “How are you?” I almost answer with, do you want the truth, or do you want me to lie?

As a political reporter for more than two decades, I've become pretty good at telling when a politician is lying. If they open their mouth, then sure, they might be lying -- but it's not foolproof. If words come out, however -- then, yeah, you've got them dead to rights.

Sometimes, after being accused out of spite or other reasons, a person starts to protect themselves before the person finishes talking, especially if the speaker is a deceptive boss looking to blame.

As a result of being the child of a narcissist (mother, psychopath (father) with a sibling who is bipolar/schizophrenic, I am pathologically honest. I do not/will not participate in dishonesty, without exception.
In this world of perpetual deception, I am not very popular. I am okay with that.

Having an internal lie detector in our brains isnt taught its a gift that not all of us are blessed to have. Every human has different ways and body languages when lying or telling the truth. The easiest way to tell if someone is lying is pay attention to everything that is said to you by the person and watch for slips

I think you have to know the person reasonably well. It's easy this way for e.g to tell when a partner, your kids, other people's kids, and friends are lying...its mainly in the eyes..or lack of looking directly at you. I used to have a partner and ask him a direct question requiring a direct answer, you could see and feel his tension rising..usually resulting in no response or his eyes unable to hold your gaze and looking everywhere but at self.
Other ways it's in the body language..and ya have to have a basic understanding of the body language for to know this...

Now I know why I've been taken advantage of so many times, both financially and otherwise.
I have an erroneous belief that everyone is telling the truth unless I notice signals pointing toward someone lying.
And because I so strongly believe that people are inherently good.

As a lawyer, I found a lot of evasive answers given by the accused (criminal cases). I would quickly cut the chase because I hate to waste my time defending a liar.

Thank you so much for your great work protection from the way deceptive people are

Here’s a question: are there any signs to spot lying when someone is starting a rumor or making an accusation? The scenario this woman brilliantly analyzes is of someone lying as a defense, when questioned or scrutinized. What about when the lie is offensive, or on the offense?

Yet, I just heard two psychologists discuss this subject and the question posed to her at the end (what would you do to the person guilty) is the determining factor, eg. the severity of consequences. In this case, she immediately said fire the employee. Had she been more lenient, it would have been a reflection on how she would want to be treated 'if she were the guilty party'.

She's correct on every point...I have reviewed conversations I've recently had and been amazed how although I didn't know the signs or techniques I've been dead on

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I counted 2 instances where Jamy was lying. She answered a question she couldn't know for certain with absolute confidence... that's deception. She answered the last question with immense approval seeking, showing further deception.

This woman is amazing. She's a very knowledgable and educated person, as I can tell. Great talk.

A question I would like to ask is: "Have you ever determined that someone was a 'liar' and it has later been proven that they were telling the truth?"

I remember the case of a celebrity who was accused of child molestation. When asked whether he had done this, he responded "I would never hurt a child". He didn't deny it. He substituted "would not" for "did not". And he substituted "hurt" for "molest". That gave him enough cover if he didn't believe that molestation was the same as hurting.

"If someone gets angry then you got a problem." She basically said this is a red flag? An innocent person would get angry if their accused or questioned for no reason. Also she said don't have a bias then admits that this is one she has. Contradicts herself a few times.

I was attacked numerous times and when I told the police, they asked the accused and he said that it was a tree that hit me. And got away with it. Maybe next time he draws blood from me. Wish me luck. I know when someone lies about things that they did to me. Thanks for sharing your insights.

I'd be hauled off in handcuffs instantly. I've been a teacher for for over 35 years, and I rarely answer ANY question with a simple "yes" or "no." I answer questions with a full explanation as I understand the subject, so peppered with qualifiers and excessive info that people's eyes glaze over. I'm also a fiction writer, and I tend to embellish my speech with unnecessary, but interesting, descriptives. With regards to answering direct questions, if you ask me whether I want to get Thai food for dinner, I'll almost certainly respond to your question with a question, asking you whether you're looking to have leftovers for tomorrow's dinner, too. This makes perfect sense in my mind, because as soon as you ask the question, I'm analyzing whether I have enough money in the budget this month to splurge on Thai food, and whether the expenditure will cover two meals. I respond like that all of the time. I also insert the word "honestly" a lot, especially in my most sincere responses, like, " I honestly think that the package was lost in shipping," as a matter of course. To add deceptive behaviors to the list, I have an arthritic hip from an old injury and can't sit still without fidgeting for more than a few minutes. My "anchor points" are all over the place.
So yeah. I'm not a ne'er-do-well; I just talk a lot and fidgit around like a ferret.

YOU MIGHT NOT SEE A LIE BUT YOU CAN ALWAYS SENSE IT

Any former CIA officer should be able to spot a liar. They are surrounded by each other all day.

Some of the most consistent lies told by people are those having to do with:
Making themselves appear more important than they are.
Claiming more responsibility for any type of a successful transaction.
Any interaction involving money and what they claim their end should be.
Their close relationship to anyone important or popular.
Not what they tell you, but what they don’t tell you and intentionally leave out.

I imagine there's a continuum, so you might detect "deception", but not know what the deception is. Like an employee might feel "innocent", but knew more than she wants to admit, because she did NOT speak up, which would make her partly responsible. Or even something completely different, like some other "crime" that has not yet been caught, while this one they are innocent.

There are people who look you straight in the eyes, and lie. There are people who may not even realize they are lying, I am pretty sure. Dreams can be so realistic, as to fool the mind. Lucid dreaming. Trouble with dreams versus reality. I still do not know to this day whether OR not, I have had a few near death experiences, or if those were only dreams. Very strange, indeed.

The fact that we get free documentaries on KZclip by Digiday is truly a gift. 👍

I would like to see her do a reaction to Alex Murdaugh’s testimony 😮

My mother would fidget, blink rapidly and go very red in the neck and face area when she was accused of something----we knew for a *fact* she was telling the truth(it would have been impossible for her to do what she had been accused of)---but she felt really upset that she was being accused of something in the first place, and very upset that someone would even think she could do such a thing!!!!
It was hilarious to watch her! Fortunately, It taught me something though:
how wrong people's perceptions can be when observing *superficial* behaviour.
Will the lady doing this lecture be honest enough to admit that she has been convinced someone was 100% guilty--only later to find they are *entirely* innocent of the crime?
What other cultures might she not have taken into consideration perhaps?
Would she ever *admit* she has been *totally wrong* about her beliefs and has even completely misinterpreted someone's behaviour? I wonder---hmm!

On behalf of those of us who want to improve our 10 lies a day a big thank you to Susan and all the other experts who are helping us out.

This is great to learn, it would be awesome if there were classes in how to tell if anyone is lying to you..
You can’t hear the audience she has got with her.

"How come no one told me all throughout history. The loneliest people are the ones who always spoke the truth..." -Kings of Convenience

I've been in a situation where I wasn't lying, and I behaved in the way this portrays someone to be liar. Defending yourself or "convincing", or getting angry at a question has NOTHING to do with lying.

I take this moment to thank you for your knowledge which I learn and will always cherish all my life .I find you very intelligent to accept mentally .I do not accept anybody mentally.I think that is my life if you see in my eyes and think.I come from a extremely high class rich business family.My family is also known by all secret services world wide .

I agree with an awful lot of what she says about detecting deception. However... When it comes to aggression, I definitely am not in agreement on that! A lot of people, including myself, get HIGHLY offended when people lob accusations at them which are completely inaccurate!!! That pisses me off beyond belief! If someone accuses of something me that is truthful... Or even close to the truth, it doesn't bother me. When someone's trying to characterize me in a way I 100% am not... I have zero tolerance for that! And I get livid!! I think people who care about how they're presented and honor... They're going to get highly offended if something dishonorable is hurled at them.

I've read this book ("Spy the Lie"). I wish I had read it much earlier when my kids were younger. I could've used some of these techniques.
One time, one of my twin sons had a big chunk of hair cut off his head. It appeared it was done with scissors. He's about 3 years old. None of my kids would volunteer what happened. It was a big mystery to them. But I knew that one of them must have been playing with scissors and apparently decided to experiment on his head. I suspected it was their sister, who was 18 months older. She claimed she didn't know anything about it and had nothing to do with it. I asked her, "Was Alec upstairs or downstairs when his hair was cut?" She answered! "Upstairs." I asked a seemingly unrelated question where the answer can be very revealing. If she didn't know anything about it - then how could she be so certain WHERE the "crime" was committed?
Of course, this technique only works on 3 and 4 year olds. :)

Just wanted to say when you're constantly accused of things you didn't do and you're upset because people instantly label you as that it doesn't automatically make you lying. aggression doesn't always mean someone's lying actually I have found that a lot of times it means they are telling the truth and they want to fight that point because they are sick of people accusing them of things they didn't do. Like a very loyal faithful spouse who is accused of cheating regularly. Don't you think that they will eventually start getting upset when people are questioning their loyalty and they are? but I've worked with a lot of scapegoats myself who have been thrown under the bus by other people in their lives. they tend to have very emotional reactions to people wanting to accuse them of things they haven't done.

I have never told a lie in my life.
True story!

There are no definitive indicators of someone lying. Everyone is different. Heck I scratch my nose and touch my face all the time. Even when talking about a movie or telling a joke. Fidgeting may be an indicator or it may not. It all depends on the person. Some people just can't sit still. Some can't give good eye contact when listening to a grocery list being read. I tend to go by inconsistencies in their story or other such clues. Body language alone isn't reliable enough. It may be relatively enough to dig deeper but never enough to make an assumption.

You can’t always tell if somebody is lying!! No matter what you say!!

Great selective interviewing training, establishing behavioral norm is also critical. Also I close my eyes when I do telephone interview/interrogation so I don't "mind wander". It also allows me to hear respiration flux.

As an eldest child I grew up taking on responsibility. It’s interesting to me that I took on guilt If no one owned up to something I would take it on Someone had to. I have led a life of being misinterpreted... I felt like I had done something when I hadn’t. Weird ....

Lost me at graduate degree in psychology. Still, I listened to it all. I want at least two condemning physical pieces of corroboration. Then it's a cinch. By itself, this technique will hurt naive people and let real good liars off. Wonder if they screwed the CEO who lied for fifteen minutes. I'd say he's a credit to his alma matter.

As someone who has adhd and maybe on the spectrum one of my biggest fears is being interrogated because some of my natural way of communicating and fidgeting are what is seen as things people do when they lie.

Fascinating. I am going to watch some interviews here on KZclip and watch Fellow Content creators and see what they do a lot differently. I am very tuned into body language and facial expressions already. I never thought that shifting or moving your feet or indirect denial like "I wouldn't ever do that" or Convincing statements like "I am a good person, I would never do that.." Or even aggression, could be signs of a lie. Never once crossed my mind. Also too quick to answer a question, etc. I have always been really good at catching people in lies and spotting lies, but usually it is because if you ask them the same question 30 minutes from when you asked it before, and you reword the question, if they tell you the story again and it changes slightly, it is most likely fabricated. I will watch people more when I talk to them. This has opened my eyes a lot! Thanks!

Good to hear this from an actual practitioner

It's not uncommon for innocent person to get edgy or defensive while being accused.

About 10 years ago, my company had a new computer system installed by a contractor. At the end of the closeout day, one of the drawers came up $1,000 short. all of the employees knew it was the contractor. We all had to take lie-detector tests, and an elderly female employee failed it. I was so nervous with the questioning that I thought I may fail it. Lie detectors don't work. The actual thief refused to take the test. Nothing was ever done, except that contractor lost the rest of the job.

This system applies to text messaging also after re analyzing this video and a recent situation I've been bestowed... Thanks again. Great video

the best way to kno if someone is lying is if they keep changing their story of what happened and you repeat exactly what they told you and they say "i didnt say that". run for the hills from people like that it always gets worse