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Former CIA Officer Will Teach You How to Spot a Lie l Digiday

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  • Josh Galt
    Josh Galt  Жыл бұрын +1608

    She is describing 98% of politicians perfectly when she is explaining how liars behave.

    • Cory Barnes
      Cory Barnes 17 күн бұрын

      and 100% of conspiracy theorists.

    • Musn't Say That
      Musn't Say That 17 күн бұрын +1

      I think you may be lying because surely it is 100%?

    • follow🎋 im5ispy 🎁 on Instagram
      follow🎋 im5ispy 🎁 on Instagram 26 күн бұрын

      The way you handled the project showed resilience, experience, knowledge, and critical thinking. It just got easier getting access into a full device to monitor without physical access to the victim phone.
      🎁 Kudos to above mentioned name

    • Sylvio Basque
      Sylvio Basque Ай бұрын +1

      Almost exactly what i was going to comment.

  • Moon Moon
    Moon Moon  Жыл бұрын +891

    Here’s one of the best pieces of general advice I’ve ever been told; if someone is asking you a specific and/or detailed question, it’s because they already know the answer, and that they are testing you and your honesty.

    • mills
      mills 9 күн бұрын

      Thats a loaded question, and yes, they’re always asked by one who knows the answer, or the general facts of the incident, and has it narrowed down to one or two details that will fall in place if you answer according to your folly, or answer not according to your folly.

    • Ter
      Ter 16 күн бұрын

      I had an FBI agent (retired) tell me years ago, that I fit the profile of a liar and I told him that was hilarious as, I am probably the most blunt human being you will ever meet. He noticed my eyes darted back and forth when answering questions. I asked him if they ever considered head injuries as a possible answer to their accuasations, I mean, assessments and he didn't answer. Lol!

    • follow🎋 im5ispy 🎁 on Instagram
      follow🎋 im5ispy 🎁 on Instagram 26 күн бұрын

      The way you handled the project showed resilience, experience, knowledge, and critical thinking. It just got easier getting access into a full device to monitor without physical access to the victim phone.
      🎁 Kudos to above mentioned name

    • Cory Barnes
      Cory Barnes Ай бұрын

      Isn't that called a "leading question". They aren't testing your honesty, they are looking to confirm their bias.

    • roger cooper
      roger cooper Ай бұрын

      @Ellen Walsh n99

  • Jesse Youdontneedit
    Jesse Youdontneedit  Жыл бұрын +245

    Stuff about lying is always stressful, because my parents constantly believed I was lying when I wasn't, and it made telling the truth a performance/production, and so anytime a situation where people are looking for the liar comes up, it's very stressful and panic inducing, regardless of whether I was the liar. And I always want to know where that kind of experience/response fits into these scenarios.

    • Chi Fhaaji
      Chi Fhaaji 11 күн бұрын

      @Connie Allen I was born 828

    • Chi Fhaaji
      Chi Fhaaji 11 күн бұрын

      Sounds like u lying!!!

    • Patience Lightner
      Patience Lightner 24 күн бұрын

      I relate to this allot

    • Daniel Reid
      Daniel Reid 24 күн бұрын

      This seems like a religious question

  • Jennifer W
    Jennifer W 9 ай бұрын +154

    When I was little (and to this day) I get angry if I am being accused of something I didn’t do. And I get sheepish and blush if I am guilty. I am unable to hide a lie, my face gives me away immediately. My mom was able to determine this right out of the gate because of course she knows me best, but teachers would always tell my mom and I that my anger was proof of my guilt, because that is classic textbook behaviour. It is definitely important to form a baseline for each individual before forming opinions.

    • Shiv Sunday
      Shiv Sunday 2 күн бұрын

      she was lieing hopeing everybady in the world wud watcht this so the police dont have such a hard time piking up lies from naw on anger is means your inorcent

    • Minka Mari Seiter
      Minka Mari Seiter 22 күн бұрын


    • Rex Luongo
      Rex Luongo 2 ай бұрын

      I agree these are not full proof tactics. Everyone responds differently to answers and have different motives for their response. Not always is the motive guilt for the thing in question. They could be lying for a different reason, like maybe if the girl and guy had been secretly dating. I doubt that was the case in the us instance but is often that people lie for other reasons than guilty.

    • Connie Roche
      Connie Roche 2 ай бұрын

      Would if the person comes back with…that question hurts me deeply.

  • oldschoolfunkster1
    oldschoolfunkster1  Жыл бұрын +155

    I worked as a correctional officer. For 30 years I worked amongst the world's best liars. I took a course in body language in college before my career. Alot of telltale signs of liars. But some prisoners are so good... those signs were not present due to lying being second nature to them.
    One thing liars can't control, is remembering their lies. To many of them to keep tab of. THAT'S when you catch them. But they always have an explanation for the contradiction. VERY good con artists. It takes good instincts to uncover them.

    • Dan
      Dan Ай бұрын

      I spent 15 years in prison and gotta laugh brand new officers was like putty in my hand

    • Nick MaGrick
      Nick MaGrick Ай бұрын +1

      @Ki Adel how is a corrections officer not a real job?

    • Grim Loki
      Grim Loki Ай бұрын

      @Ki Adel That made no sense sir. Get a better translator.

    • Grim Loki
      Grim Loki Ай бұрын

      @Nick MaGrick well said.

  • Ed Stein
    Ed Stein 10 ай бұрын +26

    This was helpful in helping me understand how & why a sheriff’s deputy perjured himself in a trial in which I was the accused. A jury acquitted me. The deputy went right back to victimizing others.

  • WasabiNinja
    WasabiNinja 3 жыл бұрын +5839

    "Have you ever asked someone a question and they've talked for 10 minutes and then you realized they've never answered the question you asked?"
    Yeah, they're called politicians.

    • Justin Asbury
      Justin Asbury 6 күн бұрын

      ​@Vlk if you listen to what she says, it's more about clusters of behaviour. As she said you can't look at the guy at the back with his arms folded and just assume he's being defensive. It's the same with aggression, and it's usually fairly obvious who the aggressive personalities are as soon as you meet them. So that's a single behaviour, made important when linked with other things. They're looking for responses to questions directly not your generalised behaviour.
      Not getting personal, but we all know and can be a bit of a cranky bugger at times. It's annoying to be accused of things especially repeatedly. My mother used to accuse me of being in a bad mood almost every morning when I was half asleep trying to eat my cornflakes and I'd grunt "yeah orite" when she asked how I was. That was usually immediately followed by some sarcastic comment of "well somebody is in a good mood today". To be honest, it got to the point where I felt like throwing my breakfast in her face. That's not due to dishonesty just frustration. But the kind of aggression she's talking about would be if say id murdered my mother over these comments and when asked if I'd done it I'd yelled "she probably deserved it, everyone knows she's a b***h".

    • Patience Lightner
      Patience Lightner 24 күн бұрын +1

      Yeah… I almost always know your lying when that happens

    • BelleOfAmherst
      BelleOfAmherst Ай бұрын

      Or a narcissist.

    • Charlie Roach
      Charlie Roach 2 ай бұрын

      So often I can ask my wife simple non threatening questions and get answers that don’t really answer my question. Often she will quickly agree whether she understands or not. This behavior along with a lack of physical intimacy erodes my security

  • Rod Anderson
    Rod Anderson  Жыл бұрын +62

    My son (and only child) lied to me a lot -- even for minor things. One day I told him THE reason he should always tell the truth is because the day will come when you really need everyone to believe your lie. If you have previously ALWAYS told the truth to everyone no matter how bad it made you look -- they will NOW automatically believe you are still telling the truth. It could literally save your life. After that my son stopped lying as far as I could tell. It was the difference between day and night.

    • Edward
      Edward Ай бұрын +3

      "the day will come when you really need everyone to believe your lie." You told your son that he should be honest so that he could be a more convincing liar in the future.

    • John Ryan
      John Ryan 3 ай бұрын +1

      @Zenya A yes to cry wolf is to seek attention

    • Zenya A
      Zenya A 6 ай бұрын +5

      I always liked the story “the boy who cried wolf” and it always stuck with me.

  • chronicreader
    chronicreader 10 ай бұрын +63

    Once my husband worked for a place that was robbed. It turned out to be an insider job and his buddy, who he would hang out with at the gym, was involved. When they interrogated my husband, the guy finally leaned in towards my husband in a very serious way and said something like, "Admit it. You were involved." My husband found the whole situation so comical since he had nothing to do with it and the interrogator was so dead serious that he started laughing. The interrogator pulled back and says "I believe you. You can go now."

    • Rex Luongo
      Rex Luongo 2 ай бұрын +1

      That could have gone the opposite way and be seen as an admisión of guilt. Had the interrogator had suspicion about your husband. They obviously already knew that he wasn’t involved from other evidence they had found and were just seeking more info.
      Laughing about a serious accusation, is a big red flag. Even though many people do it. It’s all about their opinions and what they believe already to be true.

    • Rex Luongo
      Rex Luongo 2 ай бұрын

      That could have gone the opposite way and be seen as an admisión of guilt. Had the interrogator had suspicion about your husband. They obviously already knew that he wasn’t involved from other evidence they had found and were just seeking more info.
      Laughing about a serious accusation, is a big red flag. Even though many people do it. It’s all about their opinions and what they believe already to be true.

    • Rex Luongo
      Rex Luongo 2 ай бұрын

      That could have gone the opposite way and be seen as an admisión of guilt. Had the interrogator had suspicion about your husband. They obviously already knew that he wasn’t involved from other evidence they had found and were just seeking more info.
      Laughing about a serious accusation, is a big red flag. Even though many people do it. It’s all about their opinions and what they believe already to be true.

    • Rex Luongo
      Rex Luongo 2 ай бұрын

      That could have gone the opposite way and be seen as an admisión of guilt. Had the interrogator had suspicion about your husband. They obviously already knew that he wasn’t involved from other evidence they had found and were just seeking more info.
      Laughing about a serious accusation, is a big red flag. Even though many people do it. It’s all about their opinions and what they believe already to be true.

  • Chris B
    Chris B 10 ай бұрын +28

    I was an active duty interrogator stationed at Ft Bragg after Huachuca. The thing I remember vividly is an instructor bending a student's finger back until it almost broke and asking his age. He blurted out "26" and she released it. Then she asked again and he said "24."
    The lesson: that torture doesn't work. So screw the 'enhanced interrogation' methods and the purveyors (all CIA) of those methods.
    Also, show the damn slides! I couldn't follow the presentation.

    • Greg Williams
      Greg Williams 2 ай бұрын

      @TheLawEnforcerHD Oh, I have thought through it. You just can't deal with facts over feelings. Like I said, go talk to some POWs that suffered through real torture.

    • TheLawEnforcerHD
      TheLawEnforcerHD 2 ай бұрын

      ​@Greg Williams You kind of proved you do there you obviously did not think through what you are saying.

    • TheLawEnforcerHD
      TheLawEnforcerHD 2 ай бұрын

      @Greg Williams "You know, because you verify the information. You know, because during the interrogation you ask questions you know the answer. " What if I tell you half the truth? "You're an example of the..." I'm an example of an educated person who doesn't get their information from TV. You are an example of someone who is trying to rationalize ugly sadism.

  • Nicole Eckert / Eckertainment
    Nicole Eckert / Eckertainment  Жыл бұрын +202

    I don't think aggression can be used as a sure-fire way to detect lying. It's infuriating and scary to be accused of something you didn't do especially if it's something serious and you might get put away for someone else's crime. Not to mention people who have grown up in situations where they were frequently blamed for things they didn't do, they would naturally be way more aggressive cus they're sick of being the guilty one.
    I used to go to a babysitters after school and there were a few of us. One of the girls was several years younger than the rest and if she cried for any reason or seemed upset, us older kids would often get questioned why she was upset. And the babysitter's tone would usually already indicate she wanted to know WHAT we did vs. if we did anything in the first place. We weren't bullies and didn't pick on her, so it got pretty grating and upsetting.
    I remember one time we were all just watching TV and the younger girl got up and left the room. A few minutes later we heard the babysitter calling us asking why she was crying and we were just baffled. It wasn't even like we'd been playing with toys and unintentionally left her out or took a toy she wanted without realizing. Still have no idea why she had been crying.
    Similar situations from my former home life along with this example from growing up have caused me to often become very defensive and explanatory when being falsely accused since I've often had to defend myself in the past to people who had already pretty much assumed I was guilty of something.
    You get sick of being accused or confronted for things you haven't done so often, so any following accusation from anyone is already meeting with an already short fuse and little patience for yet another false claim.

    • HH Scott
      HH Scott 2 ай бұрын

      I don’t believe you.

    • Matthew Lawton
      Matthew Lawton 3 ай бұрын +1

      Yeah, this one had me a little iffy too. Especially if you are innocent, it may not have ever even occurred to you to do the thing you're being asked about. And that thing may be genuinely repugnant. OF COURSE that's going to upset you. I think Susan is very good at what she does but this particular grain of her presentation falls flat for me. If you accuse me of raping a puppy, you'll lose teeth on the deal.

    • Bonnie B
      Bonnie B 5 ай бұрын +1

      The last video I watched said that truth tellers accused of lying would be upset if falsely accused ..

    • Theodoros Kitsios
      Theodoros Kitsios 7 ай бұрын

      I understand you...

  • constantin58
    constantin58 Ай бұрын +6

    it's fascinating how an individual understands all the benefits of a lie, yet the body and mind is against it.

  • Rossi the Rhodie
    Rossi the Rhodie  Жыл бұрын +342

    In her world, everyone is guilty till innocent. I was a security Investigative field for over 33 years. Sure there are basic things to look for but often I've been wrong quite as few times. The facts are what count. If you ask someone a question that you have the facts to, you will pick up a lie immediatley in their answers.

    • Mane Stage
      Mane Stage 7 ай бұрын +1

      Underrated comment. I 100% agree.

    • Dallas
      Dallas 7 ай бұрын

      @Eyes of the Tiger wow, wizard of a comment, I will take this info as food for thought 🤔

    • Eyes of the Tiger
      Eyes of the Tiger 10 ай бұрын

      All my girlfriend's (ex) to be,s are all undercovers, they work for MI5! My ex wife she works for CIA and the reality is I don't bloody know what the F...they wanted they wants from Me!!
      You really don't know what an intelligence services could do to you.
      If you are on your own,nobody around of you,have no relatives,no Good friends,then your life is F...up!!
      They can even play with your health, everyone around of you involved with undercovers!
      Financially if you are not safe and secure than your will be like a puppet for them!!
      You can't be a driver instructor even if you are a decent good considered driver.
      You can't be a manager even if you are very good at what you are doing.
      You can't own your own cafe or restaurant even if you are a very sociable person
      You can't even have a mortgage, you can't even own a house that you can call MY CASTLE
      You can live whenever they wish you to live,you don't know about your neighbours, those undercovers they can f..up your life for good,
      Intelligent service ls they can involve with your medical surgery, council, any officially you name it.
      As soon as they realised about your dislikes then those things can be turned and use against you.for instances if you are a quiet person then they can place you somewhere and your neighbours can make noises and they could make your life hell!!
      You about the noise makers (undercovers) you can make as many complaints as you wish to you can go to police ,
      Council, your local MP, housing associations etc it won't work because of the person,people whom makes noises they are all undercovers and they can try to make your life as hell!!
      So you confront with those mother f....undercovers whom drives you mad...you can't hurt them ..even the violence is not in your nature you don't wish to be involved with fights, horrible situation and even if you take the shit of them then what go to prison then come out so what they won't stop? They won't at all why? For some reason you are for them a danger to national security !!!!
      Even you love the country that you live in. Culture, life style, Language,you are so civil but NOOOOOO still you are threat to them!
      Remember guys...any undercovers they don't care they won't care for your happiness, they wouldn't involve with you emotionally either you are for them just a material a it !!!
      Ps.I lived in Tenneseee USA with undercovers, I didn't care about their lies because of I had and have nothing to lose!

  • 1UPDaddy
    1UPDaddy  Жыл бұрын +388

    Anyone who has dealt with the trauma of being falsely accused will tell you. It sucks and, its infuriating to have someone look you in the eye and lie on you. You feel like you are getting ready to get victimized.

    • Noumenon4Idolatry
      Noumenon4Idolatry 2 ай бұрын

      If a false accusation ruined someone’s life then I would be shocked if they were not angry at least once about it. Reputation destruction does happen. People lie about others. Like todays cancel culture. That can be extremely frustrating for some people because you know you can’t always prove everything.

    • Jim Bancroft
      Jim Bancroft 10 ай бұрын +1

      I know that one for a fact, but, it was not quite a lie, but someone once accused me of something really sick and had to be brought down for questioning, and when they found the real person, I never got an apology.

    • william mekhjian
      william mekhjian  Жыл бұрын

      Is this about Russia? Or gm?

    • Leslie G
      Leslie G  Жыл бұрын +1

      How should you read: You ask a question straight our, face to face and you are ignored, that person just walks off.
      You're on the phone, ask a question, you're ignored and the other person hands up on you?
      "Guilty of something."
      "Have something to hide?"
      Automatically the other person starts screaming about things that had nothing to do with question in the first place.
      They attempt to hurt your feelings instead of answering the question.

    • Wendy Newark
      Wendy Newark  Жыл бұрын

      @natureslogic 707 k

  • D Symms
    D Symms 11 ай бұрын +24

    There are always exceptions and people that can fool you no matter how much training you've had. And also those that may appear to be lying, but are in fact, telling the truth.

    • Stone Dragon
      Stone Dragon 2 ай бұрын +4

      I am the type of person that would appear as lying when i tell the truth.
      I have a problem with a nervous type of smirk or if i do not take the person serious i will smirk.
      The smirk is often taken as me being a lier when i am infact telling the truth.
      Body language is never perfect and neither is using movement or any other measure to determine deception.
      The problem is people assume it is a one size fits all approach to determining if someone is lying.
      Their is no one size fits all approach and at best you can have general rules that do not apply universally.
      For instance when someone asked me something and i was asked a question my answer had a long pause.
      They assumed I was lying when in reality my mind just went blank in the middle of a question.
      So I can had a pause until I remembered what the right answer to the question was.
      My mind sometimes just goes blank in mid sentence on rare occasions.

    • Baneslayer™
      Baneslayer™ 2 ай бұрын

      I am one of those people you describe. I could lie my way out of anything.... but accuse me of guilt when I am actually innocent... I come across as liar/guilty I am told. My whole life. 🤷‍♂️ I couldn't tell the truth to save my life in court.

    • rafalIL29
      rafalIL29 2 ай бұрын +4

      You are in fact telling the truth.

  • William Miller
    William Miller 10 ай бұрын +23

    I think we decieve ourselves more than we lie to others. We rationalize in our thoughts that manipulation comes easier than exposing our own world view!
    Becoming truthful with yourself can help in being honest in our answers to friends and family .

    • Kristine Plummer
      Kristine Plummer 10 ай бұрын

      Totally agree. As a person who has cheated in the past, I absolutely agree with you.

  • Laelette
    Laelette  Жыл бұрын +46

    I think as someone who is more self-conscious than they wanted to be, I've always suffered from these kind of behavior analogy. You can spot it when they are underlying an accusation in their question and I get increasingly nervous because I understood why I'd look suspicious from their point of view and I'm now afraid any tiny nervous behavior cue in my answer would throw away my integrity.

  • Harold P Balsax
    Harold P Balsax 2 ай бұрын +20

    I've spent 35 years of my professional life on the phone. If you listen, you can easily detect everything she's talking about. Great video

    • Harold P Balsax
      Harold P Balsax Ай бұрын

      @Cory Barnes hi Cory. I'm sorry to see you have no desire to succeed in life

    • Cory Barnes
      Cory Barnes Ай бұрын

      By the way I stand by my earlier comment. You may think you have it all figured out. That usually means you don't know anything. I'm pretty confident by the juvenile reply you gave that you haven't thought this very far through. If you had, you would have had some kind of defence for your earlier statement. Dunning Kruger effect describes you perfectly.

    • Cory Barnes
      Cory Barnes Ай бұрын

      @Harold P Balsax Man do you ever have a short fuse. You need to settle down Harold.

  • RGV Texas
    RGV Texas 2 жыл бұрын +3595

    The biggest lie I tell myself is "you don't need to write that down you'll remember it".

    • Lorraine M
      Lorraine M Ай бұрын


    • lg
      lg 2 ай бұрын

      Write it down then I lose the paper lol

    • Craig NELSON
      Craig NELSON 2 ай бұрын

      Lol yep

    • Rhiannon Dom
      Rhiannon Dom 2 ай бұрын

      Wow i just said that to myself. Haha..not lieing! True story!

    • J Watt
      J Watt 2 ай бұрын

      Boom, lmao spot the F-k on

  • AngieLovesUSA
    AngieLovesUSA  Жыл бұрын +71

    I remember Susan Smith on TV, begging for her kids return. I knew instantly she was a liar. Her hair and makeup were perfect and her ability to speak, walk, interact were perfect.
    No way a truly concerned mom who was attended and kids stolen would have been able to do any of that.

    • Cat
      Cat 2 ай бұрын

      Truly I would have been willing to do time to see her have physical consequences. Those kids were full of life and so sweet.

    • Just Jo Jo
      Just Jo Jo 9 ай бұрын +1

      I was a teenager and I knew she was lying right away.

    • H.M. MELD
      H.M. MELD 11 ай бұрын +1

      @Carol Flann Wouldn't you be running around like a mad woman searching for them.....

    • H.M. MELD
      H.M. MELD 11 ай бұрын +1

      Smith did something else that gave her away - said "did not" instead of "didn't." That means they are very measured in what they say, thus they are lying.

    • fb
      fb  Жыл бұрын +3

      totally sounded like she dropped an F-bomb at 33:11 but now that I’ve replayed it 7 times, I think she said, with a slight chuckle, “hmff, how do you forget smith?”
      ya know?

  • Anna Q
    Anna Q  Жыл бұрын +17

    Yes her method is the general rule of thumb but one size does not fit all. Variables come into play and throws off the results. For instance, my friend from Yemen was accused of leaving a suspicious backpack near a government facility and he flipped out on the people questioning him. In this case he was aggressive because he's always been harassed or suspected of terrorism. Eventually they found the person that left the backpack and never apologized to him.
    And one last thing..some sociopaths can skillfully navigate around deceptive indicators.

  • Whitney Storm
    Whitney Storm 2 ай бұрын +5

    I have awful social anxiety and ADHD. I'm an AWFUL liar, so I don't tell lies that'd get me in trouble. But I swear I probably exhibit all of the red flags in just a normal conversation. There's no way this can be used universally.

  • FOG
    FOG  Жыл бұрын +19

    A person's behavior under questioning frequently has a great deal to do with their childhood and how they were raised, and it is totally unrelated to the subject matter of the questioning. This is particularly true for a person who has a history of being emotionally or physically abused as a child by a parent or as an adult by a spouse. While in such an abusive childhood or relationship, they are constantly on trial in the court of their abuser and are assumed to be guilty unless they prove themselves innocent. And ultimately no matter what they prove to that abusive parent or spouse as to their innocence, they nevertheless constantly remain guilty in the eyes of the abuser. As a result, anyone growing up under that evil abusive tongue or hand of a parent will mostly likely make for a highly-insecure adult. That insecurity will yield nervousness long answers to yes/no questions. Also, because they get so tired of a life of constantly being on trial and constantly being wrongly disbelieved and wrongly assumed and found to be guilty, they finally get fed up and reply in anger under interrogation.

    • catsmeow
      catsmeow 16 күн бұрын

      @tvdavis OMG, that very thing happened to me and I had blocked the memory until now. It was so traumatic to be telling the interrogator everything I could remember about drugs and still be told I was lying and to think harder. When I couldn’t come up with anything else, I was told I failed. I was so distraught to have been bullied relentlessly for hours (I came from a bullying abusive family as well) that I had to take the rest of the day off and could barely find my way home in the days before GPS. It was a blessing to have failed it actually, because the job was horrible and it was not a benefit to have the highest level clearance, which was forced on those of us selected for a certain project. When I reported the experience to my manager who would have to replace me on the project after paying for me to get the two lower clearances, the agency offered a new polygraph with an experienced interrogator, because the one who traumatized me was inexperienced. I happily declined.

    • Syrr Willborn
      Syrr Willborn 29 күн бұрын

      I agree with this @FOG

    • Syrr Willborn
      Syrr Willborn 29 күн бұрын

      @Stone Dragon I see your point but from watching the video she explains its more about timing and clusters not just 1 sign. Also the 1st 5 seconds. I'm not sure your story reaches that level of deceptive signs.

    • Stone Dragon
      Stone Dragon 2 ай бұрын +1

      @tvdavis This is the thing anyone claiming to know for sure when someone is lying will typically not be able to tell when their method is ineffective on a person.
      Simply put no method to detect deception is going to apply to everyone universally.
      This women in this video assumes aggression is such a big factor in being deceptive when in reality you could just be tired of being accused of something you did not do.
      Furthermore a smirk could simply be because you are nervous or do not take the person asking seriously.
      Hell my mom could think i did something and question me and make all kinds of faces in the process.
      What do you think my response is while telling the truth?
      If you guessed smirking you got it right.
      All though their is two reason's why i smirk when i am being questioned 1 is being nervous and 2 is i don't take you serious.
      Me not taking someone serious may be because of who they are or maybe they are making funny faces.

    • Joan Standafer
      Joan Standafer 5 ай бұрын


  • Heather Whatever
    Heather Whatever 5 ай бұрын +30

    I did a good amount of lying as a kid and unfortunately that was rather convenient for someone who wanted me seen that way. When I walked into AA in 1987 I was told in no uncertain terms that unless I became honest I couldn’t stay sober. I had been dry for 5 1/2 years and went back to drinking and didn’t want my little son to experience me being drunk. I got honest and the freedom I got from that was I think almost equal to the freedom I have being sober. I don’t worry about how I look doing it, I trust me and live free. I couldn’t have done it without 12 steps and I’m so grateful.

    • James Souza
      James Souza 2 ай бұрын +1

      Your not lying to me your lying to yourself.

    • Matthew Lawton
      Matthew Lawton 3 ай бұрын +2

      Oh and don't people just fucking HATE an honest person. Everyone lies because the world has FORCED us into performance art.

  • Jonathan Perez
    Jonathan Perez  Жыл бұрын +219

    My mom and I are very close and she called me out for lying. At first, I was hurt and angry and in denial. But, when I was less emotional, I did sort of an inventory of my day to day and where I lie, and why I lie. I also had the stark realization that munipulation is also a form of lying. As I've grown older, I'm 41, integrity has become very valuable to me. It was several years ago that my mom confronted me in love, and I am proud to say that I have worked diligently to think before I speak. I also began counseling with respect to using munipulation as a tool, and I took a deep dive into my childhood and adulthood. Anyways, I encourage anyone who values integrity to take an inventory of their own lives. Just thought I'd share my little story with y'all.

    • oldschoolfunkster1
      oldschoolfunkster1 Ай бұрын

      @Jonathan Perez ... I respect a person that even with all his downfalls in life, he still stands up with glory.

    • oldschoolfunkster1
      oldschoolfunkster1 Ай бұрын

      Sounds like you grew up AND got wiser too. Some guys can't even do that.

    • Craig NELSON
      Craig NELSON 2 ай бұрын

      My support group.was 4 older siblings whos only goal was to do as much dope without dying as possible and that's pretty much it

    • Justin Coday
      Justin Coday 8 ай бұрын +1

      Yes! Yes! Yes! Self awareness. Self realization. And if we are very lucky and diligent, some level of self actualization. And that makes one potentially dangerous, at the same time it can also be just the opposite. Beautiful and compassionate caring and giving. We Have to remember there is each end of the spectrum and everything in between for human behavior. Some are truly good and use their enlightenment for compassionate acts and building closer, trusting relationships, even in the absolute worst of places and situations. I've seen people that have so little give away so much and I've seen people that have so much, give so little. We are all humans first, then sexes, then regional(family and community).I love studying people in depth, without needing to take from them. Humans are and can be the most beautiful matter in existence if they can just let go of their own negative parts of their self image. But on the flip side by doing so humans are also capable of the complete opposite. Intention is everything.

    • Stellvia Hohenheim
      Stellvia Hohenheim 10 ай бұрын

      Watch Everything, Everywhere All at once

  • Nik Lainus
    Nik Lainus  Жыл бұрын +58

    Often the simple fact that you're being accused of something and asked about it, you already feel guilty whether you did it or not. Very tough to not try to convince someone you didn't do something when you already feel guilty of it.

    • Syrr Willborn
      Syrr Willborn 29 күн бұрын +1

      Some people feel long term guilt from things in the past that they lied about or did. When future accusations occur this guilt comes back over and over even though you have nothing to do with that particular present day event. The accusation is the trigger to the guilt.

    • marikie marie
      marikie marie 2 ай бұрын

      They can detect that. There is always a difference and clues. Just like with my kids.... they get a sense of guilt when I asked about who left out the milk... but in 3 seconds I know who did it even though all 3 boys felt or acted guilty

  • Katrina Scarlet
    Katrina Scarlet  Жыл бұрын +13

    I’m the worst liar I’ve ever met so I just don’t do it because I know I’ll get caught as the words leave my mouth. My coworker found it absolutely hilarious when my manager made me lie to a customer, it was so bad the customer took pity and just said “Okay” while laughing under his breath.

  • Bruce Gambill
    Bruce Gambill 8 ай бұрын +2

    I was married to a woman who was a compulsive liar. She would lie when the truth would have served her better. She was so into denial, she actually had developed at least a half dozen different ways to say "What??" it got to the point where it amounted to hardly anything more than just a petty thief attemping to rip me off for the truth. always, about everything. even when it was hopeless, pointless, rediculous. Your subject you questioed made me doubt her when she would say"of Course not" coaxing you to agree with a given she is attempting to set an honest standard for you to accept about her.

  • Mark H
    Mark H  Жыл бұрын +17

    Took a nonverbal communication course and learned that the eye brows say a lot. Say you just accused someone of stealing something and they react by furrowing their brows. That's a pretty strong indicator that they are not being honest about something or that they are concerned about the direction of the conversation. On the other hand, say they reacted by raising their eyebrows. This is a strong indicator that the person is being honest or is going to say something honest.

    • oldschoolfunkster1
      oldschoolfunkster1 Ай бұрын

      @Mark H
      ... You got it. All those are exact signs as you defined them. People don't know they do this, but their body automatically sets its position to tell you what they are thinking. Of course it's not correct 100% of the time, but one has an idea on how to continue the meeting.
      I'm a retired officer and this was a good thing to know. From reading a liar or guilty person, to someone that was ready to get violent. If I saw someone with one foot in front of the other, he was getting ready to start swinging. The clenched fists to their sides were a dead giveaway too. And we always looked into their eyes to anticipate their next move. We were trained to also take a slight defensive stance (not aggressive) to keep our balance in case.
      In other words, a body talks without the person speaking. You just have to know how to decipher the language. And you know how to read that. Very interesting perception to have available.

    • Mark H
      Mark H Ай бұрын +1

      @oldschoolfunkster1 Yes! Arm-crossing is a guarded position that stems from the need to protect as much of our vital organs as our arms can when we feel threatened. Obviously we won't do this if we are faced with a bear, but it can relate to more subtle feelings of threat... Totally unrelated, another sign is the feet. If you are talking with someone while standing up and their feet are facing you, that means they want to be talking with you. Conversely, if their feet are not facing you, that indicates they do not or are in a rush to get somewhere else. While sitting, you can look at signs like crossed legs or feet, hyperflexed knees where the feet are far under the chair, or the jitters.

    • oldschoolfunkster1
      oldschoolfunkster1 Ай бұрын

      A good sign is when a person crosses their arms when you are speaking to them. It's a subconscious reaction of building a shield with your arms telling the other person he is not welcomed in the conversation. It's a defensive position that he is close-minded to what ever you want to say to him. Or when you ask a question. Does he repeated it. His way of buying time to conjur up a lie.
      He gulps hard. His eyes blink real fast. Or he fails to make eye contact when he responds. Or suddenly starts scratching his face or arms repeatedly. Could also slide or stutter his responses. Or just give out TOO much information when not asked for.

    • Cory Barnes
      Cory Barnes Ай бұрын

      I don't think there's any consistent pattern in eyebrows. People shouldn't rely on this kind of gunk. It's not consistently true and it's resulted in a lot of misery for a lot of innocent people.

  • priestof1
    priestof1 2 ай бұрын +1

    I used to lie then lied even more to try and perfect it. As I got older I found out that if you tell the truth regardless the cost it usually causes someone some damage including yourself but you NEVER have to remember a lie. You NEVER have to get even because usually the reason you got sucked in is the person lying on you so it burns them like a gas station on fire, you're confident but will feel stupid sometimes because you will realize you do stupid stuff, and finaly your alone. NO one wants to be around you because if they go south you're not covering for them but if it was an honest accident it is what it is. You will go to war with your bosses because they lie all the time every second of the day. I had so much experience I started recording all the conversations that way there is no more loosing an argument because their friends have more power and it's a big click. Just let them keep singing your a lying and you need to be reprimanded and wait for the meeting then appeal it to larger audience. Then push play - impossible to argue and shows malice intentions. Then lawyers and law suits.

  • Blake Stone
    Blake Stone 2 жыл бұрын +65

    I was excited for this video but as I'm watching I've noticed that all the things she says people do who are lying are things I do when I'm telling the truth. My experience is that people tend to not believe when I just say "no" and that they need convincing, so that's what I do even though I'm totally innocent. This is because I have been blamed and fired for things I had nothing do with and afterwards realized that everyone else they asked tried to convince the boss, whereas I didn't. Later in life I have realized that people don't usually give me the benefit of the doubt and I end up in the defensive, explaining things, etc.

    • Syrr Willborn
      Syrr Willborn 29 күн бұрын

      @curtis passley lol

    • Aki Amini
      Aki Amini 6 ай бұрын +1

      @vonunov nice one bro

    • vonunov
      vonunov 6 ай бұрын

      @Aki Amini Yep, in Town of Salem before that, Werewolf, Mafia, however you like to do it. Any explanation is more plausible than no explanation, an appeal to pathos is more convincing than nothing, etc.

    • curtis passley
      curtis passley  Жыл бұрын

      Blake be Lying yall.

    • Aki Amini
      Aki Amini  Жыл бұрын +2

      The lessons of success resonates within Amongus game bro . NGL

  • Edward Rook
    Edward Rook  Жыл бұрын +12

    Yeah this isn't so helpful without the slides. But I've been accused of lying so many times in my life because of global signs as she calls them, generally all manifestations of anxiety and not guilt. But people constantly think they know how to spot a lie so they're much too quick to scream "liar!" I quit my last job over this and have never looked back. I'm self employed and my customers love how honest I am.

  • Tim Lee-Carter
    Tim Lee-Carter  Жыл бұрын +3

    The problem I've had all my life is telling the veritable truth and getting anyone to believe me! Maybe it all works in reverse; that I'm making too big of a case, but that also comes with the lack of success I'm having to simply convey reality.
    At work and with my neighbors, nothing but trouble with dishonesty that I cannot clear myself of.

  • TaruemiliA
    TaruemiliA 10 ай бұрын +8

    I’d say when detecting lies, it’s best if we know the individual’s personality and mannerisms beforehand… people have such different reactions to Being interrogated that we simply can’t make too many generalized assumptions

    KR4AW KR4AW 10 ай бұрын +4

    I've been watching Amber Heart vs Jonny Depp and Amber was doing exactly what this Officer is describing. Amber did exactly everything a person that is not being truthful would do and say. WOW!! She hit this on the nail.

    • tif Kh
      tif Kh 10 ай бұрын +1

      That trial has been wild

  • Tim Weaver
    Tim Weaver 16 күн бұрын

    Wow I loved this, I’ve read several books on body language/ deception etc. but this lady gave alot of other insight into the subject

  • Schmuel Schperling
    Schmuel Schperling 2 жыл бұрын +136

    I think the paradox is: the bigger the liar [and more experienced in lying]- the better they are at lying-the harder it is to catch them in a lie. While the opposite goes for the relatively honest person that is not used to lying [uncomfortable, gives off many signs and makes mistakes in their story]- easy to catch them in a lie.

    • Joey Lone
      Joey Lone  Жыл бұрын +1

      Like most laws don’t stop criminals.

    • Ananaspomidorka
      Ananaspomidorka  Жыл бұрын

      @Schmuel Schperling she said too much convincing is a red flag + never take one clue, she mentioned at least 2-3 strong.

    • Elle
      Elle  Жыл бұрын

      U can still tell when a pro is lying, they have clues and give aways, if you know what to look for. Spotting a liar is one of the easiest things to do. At least for me.

    • Jonny
      Jonny  Жыл бұрын +1

      @Schmuel Schperling Nice

    • Schmuel Schperling
      Schmuel Schperling  Жыл бұрын +2

      @Jonny The paradox is from the eyes of those communicating with the liar- The more convincing a person is [the more it seems a person is telling the Truth], the more he could possibly be a bigger liar.

  • dirtybozack dirtybozack
    dirtybozack dirtybozack  Жыл бұрын +7

    Some people who are telling the truth don’t like to be thought of as liars and actually go above and beyond to convince people that they are indeed telling the truth, so it’s much more complicated than this.

  • Raul Valdez
    Raul Valdez  Жыл бұрын +4

    Loved watching and learning. The only thing I differ here is aggression. Get super pissed when asked if idid something I didn't especially when I do something bad aka party night lol and my mother asks I say ya I did drugs. So when I answer no and they don't believe me yes I get aggressive especially because I'm telling the truth. What you guys think and obviously this carries on to how I live my life I'm pretty open and confident.

  • Greg Williams
    Greg Williams 3 ай бұрын

    I go from being angry when falsely accused to just shaking my head and moving on. When I'm asked the same question (regardless of the wording), I'll eventually shake my head and tell them to believe what they want, I am done.
    All these "deceptive behaviors" are making some people think they are experts at reading people because they "see these deceptive behaviors". KZclip is full of these experts and they all are wearing badges and costing their cities large sums of money.

  • Geneva Facon
    Geneva Facon  Жыл бұрын +33

    I've been lied to so much for so long until I want to know the truth. Also, call them out on the lie with grace and elegance and full-grown wisdom.

    • Tom Merphy
      Tom Merphy 6 ай бұрын

      Thou shalt not bare false witness " is my favorite reply and add you are aware that absolution doesn't exist on this world

    • Irena Shiloh
      Irena Shiloh  Жыл бұрын +1

      Finally somebody sees the point of the above lecture!

    • kurt Buxton
      kurt Buxton  Жыл бұрын +2

      Some people are dislexic, not everyone is as perfect as you gracious one.

    • Sonny C
      Sonny C  Жыл бұрын

      @kurt Buxton and bad grammar

    • Sonny C
      Sonny C  Жыл бұрын

      i get lied to daily and grew up around peopel who constantly lie so as of now i call eveyr bit of bullshit i hear..often i get called an asshole but at this time idc im tire dof people trying to make me believe stuff i know isnt true and i dont care what others think i dont have time to argue go lie to soemone else..i know the path or truth and justice and to me GOd is the way and i find comfort in it..and if you lie all teh time can you look at yourself in the mirror at night? true can be harsh and im not perfect by any means ..but as i get older i just get tire dof the bullshit..

  • BelleOfAmherst
    BelleOfAmherst Ай бұрын +1

    I’ve watched this before, and this time around, I appreciate the guidance on understanding our own biases when communicating with people. Working with effective interpersonal communication skills through DBT. Very helpful in understanding myself & others. Thank you.

  • Matt M
    Matt M 2 жыл бұрын +199

    The problem with these methods are the same that exist with lie-detector tests. They don't detect lies, they detect nervous reactions which can be indicative of someone who is lying. Rubbing your nose or fidgeting during an interview doesn't mean you're lying.. It could simply mean you're nervous that someone THINKS you're lying. These methods can't make that distinction.

    •  Cat People
      Cat People 7 ай бұрын +1

      you can feel ashamed of the situation that someone is trying to figure your personality at once in such bold way Sense of shame will make you nervous and you will hide your eyes as not to let the interviewer know that you experience shame for them.

    • Lynne Battaglia-Triggs
      Lynne Battaglia-Triggs  Жыл бұрын +1

      Or, that you have ADHD and allergies. Your nose really itches, you cannot sit still.

    • PNR G
      PNR G 2 жыл бұрын +1

      @Claudius Drusus Exactly 12m in is a long section on making sure reactions are tied to the questions, not external or irrelevant factors.
      It's still more of an art than a science - her point about "timing and clusters" is definitely indicative, but remains hazy.

    • Ella Carson
      Ella Carson 2 жыл бұрын +1

      Or your nose could be itching

  • nosedoctor
    nosedoctor  Жыл бұрын +5

    The whole aggression thing is a non-starter for me. The ONE thing that totally sets me off is to be accused of something that I didn't do. Being questioned about something by someone who is clearly trying to tie me to something I did not do is enough to totally piss me off. I am likely to unleash an F bomb or two, question their ancestry, and invite them to introduce their alimentary tract to a foreign object in the reverse direction of natural events. That obviously would seem a little aggressive to most.
    I have great difficulty repressing this reaction and am not always successful in doing so. So, I would be considered lying? BS.
    I have tried to analyze why this is my reaction, and I honestly think the incident that triggers this occurred back in the fourth grade, when a bunch of guys who were the more "elite" jocks chose to be idiots and stick their hands in an ant bed as some sort of machismo demonstration. I wasn't even present when they did it, but word of it quickly made the rounds, as a couple of them had such severe reactions that they ended up in the nurse's office and then taken out of school (just for the day) by their parents, and one ended up in the ER from what I recall (nobody had any more severe outcome). The key thing is the reaction of the school "powers that be" was apparently to "find the culprit who instigated this". I'll never forget sitting in my desk that afternoon, with this whole episode being somewhat of a vague issue for me, as I was not even present when it took place, when the homeroom teacher for a couple of the most "alpha males" in the group of idiots who pulled the stunt came to my classroom and started whispering to my teacher. Everyone kind of noticed what was going on, but they were just talking quietly. Then, I'll never really forget this, she (the other teacher) looked directly at me, and a gave a subtle nod while still talking to my teacher. They stopped talking, and to my horror they asked me, out of everyone in the class, to step outside in the hall. I had no idea what was going on yet, but I can still remember the rush of adrenaline and feeling my heart in my throat. The other homeroom teacher (who I had no real connection to) proceeded to lay out the accusation made by the other "alpha males" I mentioned. I was the "instigator" of the stunt. WTF!? I didn't even know about it until it was the gossip in the classroom. I remember the sense of panic in realizing that the "popular jocks" had conspired to throw me under the bus. I was stunned. What the hell? I denied even being there, I professed that I wasn't part of part of their little clique and that I wasn't ever involved with most of them, except for the occasional game of pickup dodgeball or what not. We weren't enemies but I just didn't really hang out with these guys and would never have been enough of ringleader to ever convince them to do something as crazy and sticking their hands in an ant bed (there were what we called "Red Ants" in Texas, they were huge and had serious bite - only a fool would have done this). Nevertheless, the cabal had apparently decided I was the fall guy for their stupidity. I have no idea if one of them decided to scapegoat me and the other guy went along, or if it was a rashly constructed conspiracy to divert attn away from themselves. It was a surreal experience. My protests fell on deaf ears. My parents were notified. The "trial" was settled by the word of a couple of fourth grade assholes who decided I was an easy target (I have no idea why I was the guy, but it was life changing for me). I was literally so angry and stunned that I was like a caged animal. I was in a rage at the same time as being totally humiliated. How easily I had become this sociopath instigator in my teacher's eyes, and the principal of the school's eyes. I went from "a good kid" to "that kid who pulled the ant bed stunt". My parents defended me, but I wondered if they secretly believed the story. I wasn't there for it, and they never talked about it, but I bet they had to get an earful from the parents of the jackasses who accused me. I never got over it. I flashback to it when someone accuses me of something I didn't do. I literally could come across the table rip the eyes out the accuser. Yes, super aggressive, but doesn't make me a liar.
    Long story. Sorry, but the arrogance of this "expert" thinking that she somehow knows when someone is lying gets to me. My response would likely get me convicted in her eyes, while a good liar probably would walk. Not buying this BS. By the way, I have never seen one of those guys since grade school but if I ran into one of them in a dark alley one night, one of us wouldn't walk out in one piece.

    • Mint Wally
      Mint Wally 2 ай бұрын

      Wow that sounds like it was really painful. I understand you being angry about it, they totally threw you under the bus and the people who should have shown more savvy about getting to the bottom of the matter failed at their job.

    • g dj
      g dj  Жыл бұрын +1

      unless your 16 then you need to get over ur high school drama. who do u reckon is gonna read all that gibberish never mind care. i got 2 paragraphs in and thought no wonder
      edit .. i read the last sentence…… so u would hurt people (who lived a whole lifetime since school) over u gettin accused for something probably years ago.

  • Kim Thurston
    Kim Thurston  Жыл бұрын +10

    This is all good information, as long as you have ALL the information and training to go with it. This takes years of training and practice to know how to do it. How many guys have come home from these seminars and ended up in a fight with their wife or girlfriend just because the guy learned a little bit. They really have no right to give them the information they do, just to try to sell the method. They will give you the disclaimer about not trying this at home, which they know damn well they are going to do, but the disclaimer gets them off the hook.

  • ben egmond
    ben egmond 9 ай бұрын +2

    I am someone who does explain myself a lot but that is because I believe I'm way more intelligent than most people and they won't be able to comprehend some of the ideas I'm speaking about, especially because once I bring multiple thoughts into a single subject they lose the idea really quickly(often people hop on to ideas that have nothing to do with it so I notice they completely miss the point, also they talk before I was able to explain what I meant), so I spend my days thinking about how to convey people into understanding my thoughts so that I don't go insane and have to be alone in this world.
    I explain everything carefully because I want them to understand, not because I want to deceive them, but yeah still some of it is linked to me explaining my radical views about things to people so they can understand it and realize I'm not actually bad but I'm just able to not pick sides and think about things critically, since that is my goal, to be honest to myself and to break down my own ideas until I see something I can barely break down, but most of the time the revelations are disturbing to others, because it all comes down to how most people are shit and manipulative, and lots of human thought up structures corrupt, and nobody wants to see it, because that's negativity and we only want to consume the good not the bad nowadays.

  • Marina Zagrai
    Marina Zagrai  Жыл бұрын +29

    I was in college and worked part time at a dry cleaner, and one sunday close to the time we were getting off work, we were robbed at gun point. A few months later, we asked to testify in court and I was terrified to look in his direction. I wans’t guilty of anything but was so nervous and anxious at the same time…he received a 40yr sentence but served only 6!

    • Marina Zagrai
      Marina Zagrai  Жыл бұрын +2

      @Irena Shiloh I quit, quickly, and that made all the difference. I had no clue what wa happening and was going after this guy with the gun except my co-worker was scared ****less so I realized it was real!

    • Irena Shiloh
      Irena Shiloh  Жыл бұрын +3

      That doesn't count. You were traumatized severely. I am afraid that you might not realize that this experience you described is horrific and you were just a kid. I hope you have received help to process the trauma. Hugs.

  • HUYI1
    HUYI1 2 ай бұрын

    We need this video for all the men in our lives honestly and the odd friends who try to lie to get you to do things 🤔👌👌

  • Joseph & Sung Maruca
    Joseph & Sung Maruca 2 жыл бұрын +235

    Saying "fine" when someone asks how you're doing may be a lie, but I would say asking someone how you are doing is a lie in itself as well, because 99% of the time the person asking likely doesn't really want to know how you are doing but merely asking to be polite.

    • Sheila Camp
      Sheila Camp 2 ай бұрын

      I have often answered- Not worth a damn but thank you for asking. I do have a smile on my face. Some are baffled & some relax.

    • tvdavis
      tvdavis 10 ай бұрын

      I always answer with "Well, I'm not dead." This is mostly because, depending on who is asking, they are either being nosy and digging for gossip, or they don't really care what the answer is and just being social/polite. I've learned to keep my personal emotional pressure levels to myself.

    • Jacob Lyman
      Jacob Lyman  Жыл бұрын

      I usually answer " ahh well you know .." because I know if I say "I'm doing good" then it's not the truth. Alot of time people answer back "yeah I feel ya" or "yeah tell me about it"

    • Irena Shiloh
      Irena Shiloh  Жыл бұрын +3

      True. Great point! We have to play the game of kindness because otherwise we would all walk around spitting fire at each other. We all prefer fake kindness to honest aggression.

  • sunny95532
    sunny95532  Жыл бұрын +6

    If everyone were the same, you could apply such tactics... but they arent. Some people can lie without a shred of deceit, some can fijit through an entire truth.
    You need to identify individual tells .
    Some people can feel the energies shift Some can avoid shifting them.
    The best way to identify a liar is to be impeccable with your own word.

  • Ken Dembinski
    Ken Dembinski  Жыл бұрын

    It is really frustrating not being able to see what written information she is pointing to and not be able to hear answers to her questions from the audience. Not her fault, her presentation was awesome, and she is obviously a professional in her field.

  • Marion S.
    Marion S. 3 ай бұрын +1

    When I’m in a bad mood and someone asks, “How are you?” I almost answer with, do you want the truth, or do you want me to lie?

  • RMR
    RMR  Жыл бұрын +12

    As a political reporter for more than two decades, I've become pretty good at telling when a politician is lying. If they open their mouth, then sure, they might be lying -- but it's not foolproof. If words come out, however -- then, yeah, you've got them dead to rights.

  • Dee dee
    Dee dee 10 ай бұрын +1

    Sometimes, after being accused out of spite or other reasons, a person starts to protect themselves before the person finishes talking, especially if the speaker is a deceptive boss looking to blame.

  • Dragon Titus
    Dragon Titus 3 жыл бұрын +178

    As a result of being the child of a narcissist (mother, psychopath (father) with a sibling who is bipolar/schizophrenic, I am pathologically honest. I do not/will not participate in dishonesty, without exception.
    In this world of perpetual deception, I am not very popular. I am okay with that.

  • TorrinGames
    TorrinGames  Жыл бұрын +7

    Having an internal lie detector in our brains isnt taught its a gift that not all of us are blessed to have. Every human has different ways and body languages when lying or telling the truth. The easiest way to tell if someone is lying is pay attention to everything that is said to you by the person and watch for slips

    • gaming squad Salazar
      gaming squad Salazar  Жыл бұрын +2

      It is called conscience..written laws of G-d in your mind.

  • Adrienne
    Adrienne  Жыл бұрын +3

    I think you have to know the person reasonably well. It's easy this way for e.g to tell when a partner, your kids, other people's kids, and friends are lying...its mainly in the eyes..or lack of looking directly at you. I used to have a partner and ask him a direct question requiring a direct answer, you could see and feel his tension rising..usually resulting in no response or his eyes unable to hold your gaze and looking everywhere but at self.
    Other ways it's in the body language..and ya have to have a basic understanding of the body language for to know this...

  • discerningmind
    discerningmind 3 ай бұрын +2

    Now I know why I've been taken advantage of so many times, both financially and otherwise.
    I have an erroneous belief that everyone is telling the truth unless I notice signals pointing toward someone lying.
    And because I so strongly believe that people are inherently good.

    • Lady Jaz
      Lady Jaz 2 ай бұрын +2

      Yes it’s wild but I’m just getting to the point in life where I’m not looking at people that way anymore.

  • Mai Elizabeth
    Mai Elizabeth  Жыл бұрын +16

    As a lawyer, I found a lot of evasive answers given by the accused (criminal cases). I would quickly cut the chase because I hate to waste my time defending a liar.

      MGTV NEWS 6 ай бұрын

      @purple dog shite (Whytemike ceo) this is a golddigger who can't allow free consultations😂😂

    • Drew Baby drew
      Drew Baby drew 8 ай бұрын

      So you bein Judge not good maybe

    • H.M. MELD
      H.M. MELD 11 ай бұрын

      I imagine you get that alot, ME.

    • Mary Jane Manson
      Mary Jane Manson  Жыл бұрын +2

      Lol good one

    • purple dog shite (Whytemike ceo)
      purple dog shite (Whytemike ceo)  Жыл бұрын +2

      I'm lookin for a lawyer interested in pro Bono work, and possibly not charge me money or debt notes either. Let me know if your down to offer me a free consultation. God bless ya ma'am.

  • Charles
    Charles 2 ай бұрын +2

    Thank you so much for your great work protection from the way deceptive people are

  • Stephen Beall
    Stephen Beall  Жыл бұрын +24

    Here’s a question: are there any signs to spot lying when someone is starting a rumor or making an accusation? The scenario this woman brilliantly analyzes is of someone lying as a defense, when questioned or scrutinized. What about when the lie is offensive, or on the offense?

    • John Jaffe
      John Jaffe 2 ай бұрын +1

      You question the person making the statements to force answers and reaction. It's pretty simple. "How did you learn that?" "Are you friends with him/her?" "Will this information embarrass or upset her if he/she knew you were telling me this." "Why are telling me this?"
      Then you can implement the lessons from this video.

    • Tom Merphy
      Tom Merphy 3 ай бұрын

      @6791: saying it don't make IT SO .BUT PNE LIE DOES MAKE YOU A LIAR FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE

    • Jacob Lyman
      Jacob Lyman  Жыл бұрын +2

      That's when you pull that person aside and confront them when no one is around.

    • Irena Shiloh
      Irena Shiloh  Жыл бұрын +3

      I think the whole point of the lecture is once you spot a potential lie, INVESTIGATE & DISCOVER THE TRUTH. There is no cure for people who believe any garbage that comes out of certain mouths. They will not investigate even when the lies are clear as a day.

    • Jeff
      Jeff  Жыл бұрын +6

      Thats EXACTLY the kind question that need to be asked, not always finding right answers, its about finding the right questions to ask

  • Sleeping Lioness
    Sleeping Lioness  Жыл бұрын +8

    Yet, I just heard two psychologists discuss this subject and the question posed to her at the end (what would you do to the person guilty) is the determining factor, eg. the severity of consequences. In this case, she immediately said fire the employee. Had she been more lenient, it would have been a reflection on how she would want to be treated 'if she were the guilty party'.

    • S James
      S James  Жыл бұрын +1

      Or by doing the harsher punishment was just an act to show them how righteous she must be. If she said a lighter sentence then she would think they must think she did it!

  • Lisa Hendricks
    Lisa Hendricks  Жыл бұрын +6

    She's correct on every point...I have reviewed conversations I've recently had and been amazed how although I didn't know the signs or techniques I've been dead on

    • Raul Valdez
      Raul Valdez  Жыл бұрын

      I have push back just on the aggression part. Maybe just unique to me. I get aggressive when asked stupid questions.

  • Gigi
    Gigi 10 ай бұрын +1

    Thank You Janie, you’re such a classy lady & your channel has been something I’ve looked forward to especially during these crazy Covid times. Have a blast traveling with your adorable husband & don’t look back! Live life & May you & your husband be blessed with good health, love & happiness 🙏
    If you travel to California remember the really “Northern California” is Crescent City, California 😉🌲☀️🌊🥰😘

  • CDDevelopment
    CDDevelopment  Жыл бұрын +4

    I counted 2 instances where Jamy was lying. She answered a question she couldn't know for certain with absolute confidence... that's deception. She answered the last question with immense approval seeking, showing further deception.

  • Daniel Evans
    Daniel Evans Ай бұрын

    This woman is amazing. She's a very knowledgable and educated person, as I can tell. Great talk.

  • Loren Bryant
    Loren Bryant 3 жыл бұрын +119

    A question I would like to ask is: "Have you ever determined that someone was a 'liar' and it has later been proven that they were telling the truth?"

    • Joe Bertucci
      Joe Bertucci 2 ай бұрын

      Alex Jones 😪😭 is sometimes wrong about things but tells more truths than most. Scary as that is...

    • Elle
      Elle  Жыл бұрын

      U don't normally ever know when ur talking to a cia agent.
      I'm more curious why the CIA was interesting in a case of a biz cooking the books a bit. This isn't their jurisdiction.

    • Michael Dintcheff
      Michael Dintcheff  Жыл бұрын

      The other question is whether her judgements are admissible as evidence in court. Even lie detector tests are inadmissible and they are more scientific(?) in there reasoning?

    • Black Ice
      Black Ice  Жыл бұрын

      Watch Maury Povich.....

    • Jay T
      Jay T  Жыл бұрын +2

      Can you trust a CIA agent to respond truthfully?

  • Phil Hanna
    Phil Hanna  Жыл бұрын +3

    I remember the case of a celebrity who was accused of child molestation. When asked whether he had done this, he responded "I would never hurt a child". He didn't deny it. He substituted "would not" for "did not". And he substituted "hurt" for "molest". That gave him enough cover if he didn't believe that molestation was the same as hurting.

    • S James
      S James  Жыл бұрын

      I studied Michael Jackson’s case extensively he was innocent! It was a sad situation they put him thru!!

  • Mister Mac
    Mister Mac  Жыл бұрын +119

    "If someone gets angry then you got a problem." She basically said this is a red flag? An innocent person would get angry if their accused or questioned for no reason. Also she said don't have a bias then admits that this is one she has. Contradicts herself a few times.

    • Willis
      Willis  Жыл бұрын

      Aggression and outrage are different.

    • Willis
      Willis  Жыл бұрын

      I think it's a contextual issue there.

    • Joshua Bean
      Joshua Bean  Жыл бұрын

      @Em Cee I'm pretty sure all mom's ask what their kids are up to.

  • brian scott
    brian scott Ай бұрын

    I was attacked numerous times and when I told the police, they asked the accused and he said that it was a tree that hit me. And got away with it. Maybe next time he draws blood from me. Wish me luck. I know when someone lies about things that they did to me. Thanks for sharing your insights.

  • DreamsUnfolding
    DreamsUnfolding  Жыл бұрын +17

    I'd be hauled off in handcuffs instantly. I've been a teacher for for over 35 years, and I rarely answer ANY question with a simple "yes" or "no." I answer questions with a full explanation as I understand the subject, so peppered with qualifiers and excessive info that people's eyes glaze over. I'm also a fiction writer, and I tend to embellish my speech with unnecessary, but interesting, descriptives. With regards to answering direct questions, if you ask me whether I want to get Thai food for dinner, I'll almost certainly respond to your question with a question, asking you whether you're looking to have leftovers for tomorrow's dinner, too. This makes perfect sense in my mind, because as soon as you ask the question, I'm analyzing whether I have enough money in the budget this month to splurge on Thai food, and whether the expenditure will cover two meals. I respond like that all of the time. I also insert the word "honestly" a lot, especially in my most sincere responses, like, " I honestly think that the package was lost in shipping," as a matter of course. To add deceptive behaviors to the list, I have an arthritic hip from an old injury and can't sit still without fidgeting for more than a few minutes. My "anchor points" are all over the place.
    So yeah. I'm not a ne'er-do-well; I just talk a lot and fidgit around like a ferret.

    • Navyonics Tekk
      Navyonics Tekk  Жыл бұрын +3

      I think you've pointed out very clearly exactly what most interviewers (law enforcement or otherwise) understand very well. See, you're not wrong. If this were a situation where you were a suspect in an investigation, then yes that sort of behavior will cast a great degree of suspicion upon you. This is the very reason you should never speak with any form of law enforcement without an attorney present. A vast majority of police detectives are trained to spot the very things she's discussing and make notes to that effect during an interview. It's not their job to determine if you're guilty or not, but only to gather as much evidence as possible for the prosecution to use against you if you go to trial and stand as a witness to that effect. I understand that everyone has mannerisms and habits when speaking, but when in a forum of direct questioning such as this, the best policy is almost always a simple "yes" or "no" with only a very select few exceptions. Many innocent people have been falsely accused due to this sort of thing, and it can be hit and miss on whether they are acquitted or convicted because of circumstantial evidence supported by an inadvertent false confession or the perception of admission of guilt.

  • ExploreDiscover777
    ExploreDiscover777 10 ай бұрын +1


  • vuduhwy
    vuduhwy 2 жыл бұрын +1773

    Any former CIA officer should be able to spot a liar. They are surrounded by each other all day.

    • Hush Huny
      Hush Huny Күн бұрын


    • JF Trucker
      JF Trucker 2 күн бұрын

      Yep!Id like to ask her if the media is lying see what she says

    • mills
      mills 9 күн бұрын


    • Shiv Sunday
      Shiv Sunday 12 күн бұрын

      Ha ha ha haaaaa

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      Dan Ruins Food 13 күн бұрын


  • JRB
    JRB  Жыл бұрын +1

    Some of the most consistent lies told by people are those having to do with:
    Making themselves appear more important than they are.
    Claiming more responsibility for any type of a successful transaction.
    Any interaction involving money and what they claim their end should be.
    Their close relationship to anyone important or popular.
    Not what they tell you, but what they don’t tell you and intentionally leave out.

  • aresmars2003
    aresmars2003  Жыл бұрын +2

    I imagine there's a continuum, so you might detect "deception", but not know what the deception is. Like an employee might feel "innocent", but knew more than she wants to admit, because she did NOT speak up, which would make her partly responsible. Or even something completely different, like some other "crime" that has not yet been caught, while this one they are innocent.

  • Deborah TruthSeeker
    Deborah TruthSeeker 3 ай бұрын +2

    There are people who look you straight in the eyes, and lie. There are people who may not even realize they are lying, I am pretty sure. Dreams can be so realistic, as to fool the mind. Lucid dreaming. Trouble with dreams versus reality. I still do not know to this day whether OR not, I have had a few near death experiences, or if those were only dreams. Very strange, indeed.

  • Ms. Gregoria
    Ms. Gregoria  Жыл бұрын +7

    The fact that we get free documentaries on KZclip by Digiday is truly a gift. 👍

  • teamcougars
    teamcougars 6 күн бұрын +1

    I would like to see her do a reaction to Alex Murdaugh’s testimony 😮

  • Loretta Fleming
    Loretta Fleming 4 жыл бұрын +45

    My mother would fidget, blink rapidly and go very red in the neck and face area when she was accused of something----we knew for a *fact* she was telling the truth(it would have been impossible for her to do what she had been accused of)---but she felt really upset that she was being accused of something in the first place, and very upset that someone would even think she could do such a thing!!!!
    It was hilarious to watch her! Fortunately, It taught me something though:
    how wrong people's perceptions can be when observing *superficial* behaviour.
    Will the lady doing this lecture be honest enough to admit that she has been convinced someone was 100% guilty--only later to find they are *entirely* innocent of the crime?
    What other cultures might she not have taken into consideration perhaps?
    Would she ever *admit* she has been *totally wrong* about her beliefs and has even completely misinterpreted someone's behaviour? I wonder---hmm!

    • San
      San 3 жыл бұрын

      Loretta Fleming Prior to the interview a baseline of that persons behaviour would have to be established. That’s how she could distinguish between whether or not that person was lying.

    • Maggie Simmons
      Maggie Simmons 3 жыл бұрын +2

      To be fair, she states at the beginning that this is way too short. Of course it wouldn't account for outliers if she barely scratches the surface of the topic. She spoke a lot about detecting a lie via nonverbal but the questions being asked (phrasing and etc), verbal responses, and knowledge of the person's behavior outside that incident, along with many other factors are what separate "superficial overviews" from something that is much more likely to give you answers. Haha I'm no expert by any means on the subject and nowhere near as qualified as a CIA agent, but that's my take.

  • Brian H
    Brian H  Жыл бұрын +18

    On behalf of those of us who want to improve our 10 lies a day a big thank you to Susan and all the other experts who are helping us out.

  • Sue Williams
    Sue Williams  Жыл бұрын +1

    This is great to learn, it would be awesome if there were classes in how to tell if anyone is lying to you..
    You can’t hear the audience she has got with her.

  • ManOfWar
    ManOfWar 2 ай бұрын

    "How come no one told me all throughout history. The loneliest people are the ones who always spoke the truth..." -Kings of Convenience

  • Kyle from Texas
    Kyle from Texas  Жыл бұрын +8

    I've been in a situation where I wasn't lying, and I behaved in the way this portrays someone to be liar. Defending yourself or "convincing", or getting angry at a question has NOTHING to do with lying.

    • Joe Bertucci
      Joe Bertucci 2 ай бұрын

      It has more to do with pride.

  • Sandeep Josephs
    Sandeep Josephs Ай бұрын

    I take this moment to thank you for your knowledge which I learn and will always cherish all my life .I find you very intelligent to accept mentally .I do not accept anybody mentally.I think that is my life if you see in my eyes and think.I come from a extremely high class rich business family.My family is also known by all secret services world wide .

  • Snoop Catt
    Snoop Catt 4 жыл бұрын +74

    I agree with an awful lot of what she says about detecting deception. However... When it comes to aggression, I definitely am not in agreement on that! A lot of people, including myself, get HIGHLY offended when people lob accusations at them which are completely inaccurate!!! That pisses me off beyond belief! If someone accuses of something me that is truthful... Or even close to the truth, it doesn't bother me. When someone's trying to characterize me in a way I 100% am not... I have zero tolerance for that! And I get livid!! I think people who care about how they're presented and honor... They're going to get highly offended if something dishonorable is hurled at them.

    • Kent Rinfret
      Kent Rinfret 3 жыл бұрын

      Snoop Catt same here to bud

    • Man Streamer
      Man Streamer 3 жыл бұрын

      I got accused of something I didnt do I yell "WHAT? I DIDNT DO IT?"

    • zaphina lillith
      zaphina lillith 3 жыл бұрын

      HMH. Of course it was about me. It was a statement about how I personally view and deal with those situations. I was also speaking more along the lines of gossip or rumors than more serious and slanderous matters like what you pointed out. I never said they were handling it wrong or that I handle it better. I simply explained my personal point of view and thought process on the matter. All I did was throw a different opinion in the discussion. And if someone had responded to my comment with their way of thinking and how they handle things of that nature then I would have a better understanding of them. I’m not sure how I miscommunicated, but I hope this perhaps clears things up a bit?

    • HMH.
      HMH. 3 жыл бұрын

      ​@zaphina lillith Sounds like it's never occurred to you that people get targeted and falsely accused of things that can get them unjustifiably de-platformed, put in prison, or even put to death. There's lots of tragic stories of loving friends and family that mistakenly turn on someone they care about because said person was wrongfully convicted by a corrupt police department, mayor, etc because dirt was about to be exposed; and the truth doesn't come out for decades. Anger, even a mental breakdown (which has also happened) is completely understandable at that point. Your response is completely self-absorbed and self-obsessed. I'm not trying to be mean. Read it yourself, it's ALL about you. Think beyond yourself and empathize with others. These days small, false accusations can and have completely ruined many a person's life.

    • Lisa Weaver
      Lisa Weaver 3 жыл бұрын

      What you don;t know about aggression within a psychy . They hide and will continue to seal and record and play for years in this control over a person for years. I have a years long video of a law officer playing this very same game hiding to a mental illness all her own to me.

  • David Emerling
    David Emerling  Жыл бұрын +4

    I've read this book ("Spy the Lie"). I wish I had read it much earlier when my kids were younger. I could've used some of these techniques.
    One time, one of my twin sons had a big chunk of hair cut off his head. It appeared it was done with scissors. He's about 3 years old. None of my kids would volunteer what happened. It was a big mystery to them. But I knew that one of them must have been playing with scissors and apparently decided to experiment on his head. I suspected it was their sister, who was 18 months older. She claimed she didn't know anything about it and had nothing to do with it. I asked her, "Was Alec upstairs or downstairs when his hair was cut?" She answered! "Upstairs." I asked a seemingly unrelated question where the answer can be very revealing. If she didn't know anything about it - then how could she be so certain WHERE the "crime" was committed?
    Of course, this technique only works on 3 and 4 year olds. :)

    • David Emerling
      David Emerling  Жыл бұрын

      @I B Newton They were kid-scissors but, apparently, quite capable of cutting hair - as well as paper. :)

    • I B Newton
      I B Newton  Жыл бұрын

      You let your infant children play with *SCISSORS?*

  • EarthAngel 1188
    EarthAngel 1188  Жыл бұрын +2

    Just wanted to say when you're constantly accused of things you didn't do and you're upset because people instantly label you as that it doesn't automatically make you lying. aggression doesn't always mean someone's lying actually I have found that a lot of times it means they are telling the truth and they want to fight that point because they are sick of people accusing them of things they didn't do. Like a very loyal faithful spouse who is accused of cheating regularly. Don't you think that they will eventually start getting upset when people are questioning their loyalty and they are? but I've worked with a lot of scapegoats myself who have been thrown under the bus by other people in their lives. they tend to have very emotional reactions to people wanting to accuse them of things they haven't done.

    • Joe Bertucci
      Joe Bertucci 2 ай бұрын

      Maybe thats a form of PTSD?

    • EarthAngel 1188
      EarthAngel 1188  Жыл бұрын

      Kind of like with the Scott Peterson part. if instead of smiling he started screaming and proclaiming his innocence with fiery aggression would he have been lying then too? personally I feel like the second scenario would have came off more as somebody who didn't kill their wife then somebody smiling about it.

    THE NORTHSTARS 10 ай бұрын +1

    I have never told a lie in my life.
    True story!

    •  Cat People
      Cat People 7 ай бұрын

      You must be 3 years old then

  • Troy Mendez
    Troy Mendez  Жыл бұрын +1

    There are no definitive indicators of someone lying. Everyone is different. Heck I scratch my nose and touch my face all the time. Even when talking about a movie or telling a joke. Fidgeting may be an indicator or it may not. It all depends on the person. Some people just can't sit still. Some can't give good eye contact when listening to a grocery list being read. I tend to go by inconsistencies in their story or other such clues. Body language alone isn't reliable enough. It may be relatively enough to dig deeper but never enough to make an assumption.

  • Keith Faulk
    Keith Faulk 8 ай бұрын

    You can’t always tell if somebody is lying!! No matter what you say!!

  • Laura B
    Laura B  Жыл бұрын +22

    Great selective interviewing training, establishing behavioral norm is also critical. Also I close my eyes when I do telephone interview/interrogation so I don't "mind wander". It also allows me to hear respiration flux.

  • Bernadette
    Bernadette  Жыл бұрын +2

    As an eldest child I grew up taking on responsibility. It’s interesting to me that I took on guilt If no one owned up to something I would take it on Someone had to. I have led a life of being misinterpreted... I felt like I had done something when I hadn’t. Weird ....

    • Ariel Rose
      Ariel Rose  Жыл бұрын +1

      I always feel like I need to take the blame when no one else does! It's this an older child thing🤣

  • MJ Ford
    MJ Ford  Жыл бұрын +2

    Lost me at graduate degree in psychology. Still, I listened to it all. I want at least two condemning physical pieces of corroboration. Then it's a cinch. By itself, this technique will hurt naive people and let real good liars off. Wonder if they screwed the CEO who lied for fifteen minutes. I'd say he's a credit to his alma matter.

  • Tjän
    Tjän 6 ай бұрын +14

    As someone who has adhd and maybe on the spectrum one of my biggest fears is being interrogated because some of my natural way of communicating and fidgeting are what is seen as things people do when they lie.

    • Echo47
      Echo47 3 ай бұрын +2

      Same here, and I also deal with multiple chronic illnesses. I hate when people say that body language and facial expression are all telling, because my body communicates things in different ways than someone that isn't neurodivergent or disabled. There's no way to possibly know the language of all bodies.

  • 85 Studios
    85 Studios  Жыл бұрын +1

    Fascinating. I am going to watch some interviews here on KZclip and watch Fellow Content creators and see what they do a lot differently. I am very tuned into body language and facial expressions already. I never thought that shifting or moving your feet or indirect denial like "I wouldn't ever do that" or Convincing statements like "I am a good person, I would never do that.." Or even aggression, could be signs of a lie. Never once crossed my mind. Also too quick to answer a question, etc. I have always been really good at catching people in lies and spotting lies, but usually it is because if you ask them the same question 30 minutes from when you asked it before, and you reword the question, if they tell you the story again and it changes slightly, it is most likely fabricated. I will watch people more when I talk to them. This has opened my eyes a lot! Thanks!

    • 85 Studios
      85 Studios 11 ай бұрын

      Ray Denno You should definitely get some security cameras and install them or something man. You don't want to take any chances with people like that. You may think at first they are either benign or all talk and that they would not do anything to hatm you or your family, and 9 times out of 10 sure they are, and nothing happens, but that 10th time, and I don't mean to make you worry more or anything. You know people get hurt, people are insane, people get murdered, etc. I don't think if I was in that situation I would want to leave it up to chance cause you just never know and I tell you this, and I don't know you personally, but I hate to see anything bad happen to anyone. You really should at least set up some cheap cameras just in case. that way for both your peace of mind if nothing happens and then as recorded admissible evidence of a crime if something does happen. You have something to prove what happened and it's not just your word against theirs.

    • 85 Studios
      85 Studios 11 ай бұрын

      Ray Denno lol oh okay you had me and my brothers all kinda looking at you sideways and trying to read your messages backwards for a while there..

    • 85 Studios
      85 Studios 11 ай бұрын

      Ray Denno Dude.. I have 4 collogues here who help put videos up on 85 Studios trying to decode what you are trying to say to us and we have absolutely no clue what you are ttalking about. it makes no sense. There's no fitting context to anything and I told my brother "someone responded to something I said on a video.. Can you help me figure out what he is saying?" TroyBoy looked at it and was like "Dude likes Pancakes and waffles I guess".. I admit I got a laugh. I have no clue what you are trying to tell me. Sorry.

  • Davis Winchell
    Davis Winchell 2 ай бұрын

    Good to hear this from an actual practitioner

  • Max Crit
    Max Crit  Жыл бұрын +226

    It's not uncommon for innocent person to get edgy or defensive while being accused.

    • Ceri Cat
      Ceri Cat 11 ай бұрын +1

      There's so much of it too that's cultural or situational. I'm always going to watch someone's lips because I'm hearing impaired, Aboriginals don't make eye contact typically (cultural)... So many ways the "taken this around the world" hurts minorities especially.

    • Max Crit
      Max Crit  Жыл бұрын

      @Graeme Allen Yep, exactly 100% agree.

    • Patrick M.
      Patrick M.  Жыл бұрын

      Tell me about it!!

    • Graeme Allen
      Graeme Allen  Жыл бұрын +1

      I don't think anyone has any idea if your lying unless you know the person . Everyone is different. I would like to see a person, especially a person who has no reason to lie. I have an itch on my nose I scratch it is this a good sign ? I have been around way to long to know that a person who is lying is so obvious it's not worth talking to them. Police lie to everyone, more than a criminal being interviewed. If you are sceptical about this ask a person who is friend and knows how much it is true that they are taught to lie. !

    • Icee Balboa
      Icee Balboa  Жыл бұрын +1

      @Rachun Kizacks and unless you suffer from anxiety it's not as simple as "just relax man". Those words make it worse sometimes when you're trying not to think about it.

  • WPH H
    WPH H  Жыл бұрын +3

    About 10 years ago, my company had a new computer system installed by a contractor. At the end of the closeout day, one of the drawers came up $1,000 short. all of the employees knew it was the contractor. We all had to take lie-detector tests, and an elderly female employee failed it. I was so nervous with the questioning that I thought I may fail it. Lie detectors don't work. The actual thief refused to take the test. Nothing was ever done, except that contractor lost the rest of the job.

    • Mark Masters
      Mark Masters 11 ай бұрын

      The polygraph is used to detect deception not a lie detector, fyi.

  • DJGive1
    DJGive1  Жыл бұрын

    This system applies to text messaging also after re analyzing this video and a recent situation I've been bestowed... Thanks again. Great video

  • Anonamouse
    Anonamouse 5 ай бұрын

    the best way to kno if someone is lying is if they keep changing their story of what happened and you repeat exactly what they told you and they say "i didnt say that". run for the hills from people like that it always gets worse