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  • The Story Factory
    The Story Factory 2 ай бұрын +2755

    What's always struck me as extra tragic with Emma Thompson's storyline is that - had she not seen the necklace - she would have loved the gift she received. It was absolutely something he put thought into, more thought than she was used to him putting into gifts, and it would have been a perfect moment that he ruined with the irony of a gift he didn't think through at all.

    • A.R.
      A.R. 16 сағат бұрын

      @Kristine Taulbut Thisssss. But I absolutely love for her that after she got her heart broken by Kenneth Branagh, she absolutely traded up with Greg Wise.

    • Katharina
      Katharina 20 күн бұрын +2

      You're absolutely right. What hit me so hard was the realization, that she probably drew her emotions from memory, she had a pretty heartbreaking divorce from her first husband.

    • Janet Beatrice
      Janet Beatrice Ай бұрын +8

      @Eros Z Yes! I'm surprised so many people are debating the value of the CD as a gift when it was obviously about the fact that he bought a beautiful necklace FOR ANOTHER WOMAN. The fact that her gift was a CD was just salt in the wound.

    • Eros Z
      Eros Z Ай бұрын +6

      It wasnt the fact of the gift she got over the other one. Its that the other one was going to someone else. And thats just an example of you taking the action at face value and deeming it as jealousy rather than betrayal.

    • Rejectionisprotection
      Rejectionisprotection Ай бұрын +5

      @Kristine Taulbut That was Kenneth Branagh who left her for Helena Bonham Carter.

  • Kathryn G
    Kathryn G 2 ай бұрын +1983

    One other detail I noticed was that Karen is dressed to coordinate with the gold necklace, she's wearing a red sweater to catch the red in the necklace, and small earrings that would allow a necklace to take center stage. She was so excited about receiving a necklace that she planned her outfit so the she could put it on right away to wear to the children's play, just makes the reveal that little bit more crushing.

    • Julia Kazantseva
      Julia Kazantseva Ай бұрын

      @abeal49 you have made the situation a bit easier to bear with your comment, thank you.
      But the whole episode would be really crushing if the thread starter were right.

    • abeal49
      abeal49 Ай бұрын +2

      I disagree. She was already wearing the red sweater when she found the necklace, and the top under it had a bateau neckline and a very busy print. The necklace would not have gone with that top at all

    • abeal49
      abeal49 Ай бұрын

      Now these guys should watch Red Nose Day Actually and comment on how they all ended up!

    • C J
      C J Ай бұрын +1

      oh no i’m completely crushed now

    • Rejectionisprotection
      Rejectionisprotection Ай бұрын +3

      @Annaly Keane I'm with you there. I'm not a huge fan of Emma Thompson, but she was superb here, as was Alan Rickman.

  • KiwiStrawberry 150
    KiwiStrawberry 150 2 ай бұрын +991

    You brought up asexuality during your talk about how sex isn't a good start to a relationship, and I'm ace, and it made me feel accepted. Thank you.

    • Josie
      Josie Ай бұрын +4

      I also really appreciated their acknowledgement of not-intrinsically-sexual physical affection, like hugging and snuggling, in the category of neurologically bonding activities. Sex is truly not a requirement to deepen a relationship, but it’s also also not the only way to conjure up premature feelings of bonding-two sides of the coin that I haven’t seen talked about before

    • Bernd Jendrissek
      Bernd Jendrissek Ай бұрын

      Nonviolent Communication check:
      [x] "made me feel X"
      [x] "feel "

    • Eda Dragneel
      Eda Dragneel Ай бұрын +5

      I was so happy when they mentioned being ace cause I’m ace too!

    • Quintus Crinis
      Quintus Crinis Ай бұрын +11

      Heard the comment and immediately looked for this comment.
      Although I would note that being Ace doesn't necessarily negate the need for touch/hugs. I'm very fond of hugs, unfortunately, causes a real mess sometimes.

    • lunabuna
      lunabuna Ай бұрын +14

      Adding to the "thanks for helping to normalize asexuality" pile-on.

  • Stormy
    Stormy 2 ай бұрын +3405

    Again, really appreciate including non-romantic and non-sexual relationships in this list

    • Addfuture
      Addfuture 21 күн бұрын +1

      @Guinness it's insane just how many relationships are based on sex. There are so many different types of relationships, even in romantic relationships

    • Mona Bohamad2
      Mona Bohamad2 Ай бұрын

      sounds like your own family are/is xenophobic? or something?

    • Mona Bohamad2
      Mona Bohamad2 Ай бұрын

      @Mike most of my family members are ok it's pretty much only the ones I have to be stuck with I'm sick of and wanna move away from since like late 2021

  • kamau ruddock
    kamau ruddock 2 ай бұрын +531

    I love that Emma Thompson's character confronts her hubby so directly. So many times wives pretend not to know to save face or to avoid dealing with the pain which is understandable.

    • Lola
      Lola 2 ай бұрын +30

      Yeah. Such a strong character. I think of myself as someone strong but god, if that happened to me I don’t think I could hold my shit together

  • Tyrant-Den
    Tyrant-Den 2 ай бұрын +1310

    "Lie to your husband."
    Immediately followed by
    "Christmas is about telling the truth."

    • tanitani
      tanitani Ай бұрын +6

      ​@Kristi Lee @buurzai
      Ahem, no, he didn't keep his feelings to himself. He displayed his ideas on big white boards, where he expressed his message with a black marker and a photo collage: did you not see that? THAT is not called keeping it to oneself.
      Jonathan and Alan even highlighted why this was so unhelpful and unhealthy going into the future. This video is about why relationships are healthy or not and this is not one and that is the point.
      By the way, acting out of a crush on someone who is in a relationship is quite immature behavior in its own right. It is not about the other person's humanity but it is about one's own desire.

    • Kristi Lee
      Kristi Lee Ай бұрын +3

      I tend to side with buurzai. Lincoln wasn't pursuing Keira; he had a secret crush that was uncovered by Keira. Lincoln never tried to steal the his best friend's wife - he kept any feelings he had to himself because he didn't want to break them up. When he goes to their house at Christmas, I think he's saying his goodbyes.

    • buurzai
      buurzai 2 ай бұрын +10

      @aleister crowley I actually am a bit more forgiving of him than most people. Like, yeah they have a point that the video was a bit pervy, but undermining his best friend is a bit strong? For the most part he's keeping it to himself. He didn't come out himself, he was trying to keep it secret and got discovered. When that happened he was like "Well I can't just leave it here, we need to actually talk and resolve this", which seems like a very reasonable conclusion, possibly even the best one he could have come to.
      There was almost certainly a better way to do it, maybe one where she actually got to do some talking too, but for the most part he tried to express his feelings so she knew where he was at with this whole thing, and he acknowledged that he wasn't asking her to reciprocate or trying to break them up or anything.
      He was communicating. Not well, granted, they point out some very valid criticism with his actions, but for the most part he's trying to just stay out of it and support his friend. They claim that the song he arranged at the wedding was just for her rather than for them as a couple, but that's not the way they received it and it's not an interpretation made at the time, it's an assumption made in hindsight with knowledge of his secret crush, and I don't really agree with it.

  • JM
    JM 2 ай бұрын +256

    The saddest part about Emma Thompson’s crying scene is that Emma told she drew from her own experience of betrayal. She was cheated by her husband - Kenneth Branagh - with Helena Bonham Carter. Heartbreaking.

    • BlueHaze
      BlueHaze 24 күн бұрын +2

      Even if she did know, I DEFINITELY don't see it as equal. And unless she's spoken on it which maybe she has, you don't know exactly what she knew. One person had a commitment and only they know the true details of that commitment. Open relationships exist too. I notice a trend of people putting less blame on the cheating individual than they deserve. Like my mom has forever been super mad at Angelina Jolie but doesn't show Brad Pitt half of that vitriol. One person had a fling, the other broke a commitment. 40-60 blame at least imo.

    • Rejectionisprotection
      Rejectionisprotection 26 күн бұрын +3

      @Sophie N. It's NOT equal; the single person hasn't broken their contract.

    • Desmond Dolan
      Desmond Dolan 26 күн бұрын

      Kenneth, why did you do that?

    • Sophie N.
      Sophie N. Ай бұрын +6

      @Nells I think the single-person is equally wrong. If you know there's another person whose heart would be broken because of the affair it is such a disrespectful thing to do.

    • Graham Damberger
      Graham Damberger Ай бұрын +8

      And all three actors were part of the Harry Potter film franchise at one point or other.

  • Hurbig
    Hurbig Ай бұрын +156

    I had my first romantic relationship at 14 years old with a 17 year old guy I met online. I told my parents and they both said that they are not sure if this is the best thing for me, but that it is my decision and they’ll support me all the way.
    That is what saved me because it was an emotionally abusive relationship and I was able to escape it because I knew I’d always have my parents’ support. They took me seriously and did not belittle me even though they could see from a mile away that this wasn’t going to turn out well.

    • Cassie O
      Cassie O 20 күн бұрын +1

      @Jaycee Wedmak LMAO "Then I went to university then I became an adult" ohhhh tell me you're still a kid without telling me you're still a kid amirite?? No sweetie, I'm a parent who has done a lot of research on how to proactively protect your child. And the answer is NOT to throw them in a closet and treat them like invalids and never let them do anything. People have to feel out their own way in the world. As a parent, you have to protect them where you can and make sure they always know - and I mean really KNOW - that they can rely on you and come to you for support free of judgment. Forbidding your teenager from doing something is the best way to push them into doing it more - that's just how teenagers are wired, unfortunately. The best thing you can do is provide them with all the facts, and then trust them to make the best decisions (even if you know they won't, because let's face it, none of us did as teenagers!) and make sure they really KNOW that you're there for them no matter what happens.

    • BlueHaze
      BlueHaze 24 күн бұрын

      That is how you do it as a parent. The consequences are massive otherwise. I "dated" a 25 year old when I was 10 and it wasn't until they found the e-mails that they found out, but at that point it had been months. I was more afraid of what they would think of me than anything else, how disappointed they'd be, cause I knew what I was doing was wrong just not the consequences of it or how it could never be my fault. They never explained that to me so I grew up being so ashamed. You do NOT want your kids to be afraid to let you in to their lives or feel the need to hide from you, whatever you do.

    • -
      - 27 күн бұрын +4

      Respecting your child's judgment and telling them your concerns without harsh judgment or futile attempts at control and denial is so, so important.
      When I was a teenager I had a jerk for a boyfriend and my mother prohibited me from seeing him. When I saw him anyway, she kicked me out! That pushed me more toward him. Teens have to have a safe place to call home. They need parents who are there for them and won't say "I told you so" or "serves you right" or even worse words that make the kid's heartbreak even worse.

    • Jaycee Wedmak
      Jaycee Wedmak Ай бұрын +2

      @Cassie O I was a teenager once - then I went to university then I became an adult in society. Sounds like you're still in your teens from your reply. I wish you good luck in life - honestly. ♡

    • Cassie O
      Cassie O Ай бұрын

      @Jaycee Wedmak Wow! Way to completely miss the point! Tell me you have zero understanding of adolescent brain development without telling me you have zero understanding of adolescent brain development, amirite??

  • Cassandra McTaggart
    Cassandra McTaggart 2 ай бұрын +481

    I wouldn't actually say it treats infatuation as love, I would say it accepts the characters' definitions of love. That said, the even creepier thing about Juliet and her husband's best friend is that he has been so obsessed with her and not letting it show that she thought he hated her. He is so jealous he can't even treat her with reasonable courtesy for his best friend's sake. And then he makes a spank bank video of her at her wedding and then does the creepy signboard thing. And for being a complete stalker he gets rewarded with a kiss. I have always thought she should either go inside and tell her husband immediately or give the best friend a kiss on the cheek, tell him she'd flattered, but she loves her husband, then go inside and tell him everything.

    • Cassandra McTaggart
      Cassandra McTaggart Ай бұрын +7

      @Tim Eyre I always found the whole courtly love thing pretty creepy myself. I'd say that the difference is that the knights of Arthur loved pure and chaste from afar (to completely mix classical sources), they didn't make the ladies at court think they hated them because their feelings were so intrusive.
      Not entirely sure that calling to mind comparisons with Lancelot and Guinevere supports your argument, really :). I know some versions of the legends say that they violated the standards of honourable love.

    • Tim Eyre
      Tim Eyre Ай бұрын

      I’m going to have to throw some la mort de Arthur into the mix here with that. He was just trying to follow a code of honour. Such a predicament was enough to undo the greatest of Arthur’s knights, for all their codes of chivalry and honour. Go ahead though and slam him as creepy, I’d be honoured to know someone with such virtue and integrity.

    • Cassandra McTaggart
      Cassandra McTaggart Ай бұрын

      @Do Not Reply Possibly. Thanks for judging me. :)

    • Vengedyr
      Vengedyr 2 ай бұрын +15

      Is that how you see it? He says it straight out, it's there in the writing: She says "I thought you didn't like me, you're never nice to me", and he says "it's self preservation". He can't control how he feels, but he does his utmost to keep his distance to not be crushed by it. That's why he avoids her and puts up an ice front to keep her away. Not because he's "so obsessed with not letting it show".

  • Sandra
    Sandra 2 ай бұрын +598

    I too love that in the Number 1 relationship the stepdad puts aside his unresolved grieving to help his stepson navigate through the agony of being in love. Brilliant, touching writing! Yes, this is my favorite love story, tying with the son and the little girl's "love" storyline.
    Merry Christmas to all who are loved and want to be loved! ❤️❤️❤️

    • abeal49
      abeal49 Ай бұрын +1

      in the sequel, Sam is an adult, and they are sitting on a park bench and Sam tells Daniel he's in love and Daniel says something like "oh not again" or "here we go again" (I forget the exact words)and Claudia Schiffer is not present

    • Cameron Joseph Videos
      Cameron Joseph Videos 2 ай бұрын +1

      I watched the movie for the first time last Christmas and I was so bored. The only part of the movie I was actually interested in was Daniel and Sam.

    • Sandra
      Sandra 2 ай бұрын +24

      @HavePunWithIt As a writer, I'm speaking from the show-not-tell aspect. The scene where Daniel's silently grieving at his desk while gazing at his wife's photo, only to quietly put the picture aside when Sam enters the room, shows how much he loves the boy. This action shows that although still grieving, Daniel loves Sam so much that he willingly puts aside that grief (i.e. the photo) to focus a more upbeat attention on Sam.

    • HavePunWithIt
      HavePunWithIt 2 ай бұрын +41

      I interpreted it as he grieves but in a different way where he celebrates the love he shared with his wife in helping his step-son explore his feelings around love as well as his intentions. As a way to honor his wife, he shows their son how to show romantic love to another person, and thereby showing him familial love.
      And as a result as we see toward the end of the movie, he finds himself open to the idea of loving someone again. Perhaps not pursuing it immediately, but he’s not avoidant of it.

    • Trina Q
      Trina Q 2 ай бұрын +45

      Precisely, I love that aspect of the story, and how Daniel and Sam's relationship gets stronger as the movie progresses. Daniel always listens to Sam, and never entirely shuts down his ideas, offers advice.

  • modelnut
    modelnut 2 ай бұрын +245

    Collin Firth's story in this movie "actually" happened to him. He met the woman who would become his wife when neither could speak the other's language. But they knew immediately.

    • Robyn Stewardson
      Robyn Stewardson Ай бұрын +7

      @modelnut 22 years is pretty significant.

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      Robyn Stewardson Ай бұрын


    • Vaska Tumir
      Vaska Tumir Ай бұрын +5

      @David Weihe She had an affair while they were going through a trial separation and he couldn't get over it. There may have been other aggravating details, but I've forgotten them.

    • carole walker
      carole walker Ай бұрын +7

      I believe Livia spoke English before she met Colin. And yes, they were married for 22 years.

    • David Weihe
      David Weihe 2 ай бұрын +59

      @modelnut Among actors, 22 years is almost forever.

  • Audrey Burgos
    Audrey Burgos 2 ай бұрын +530

    This channel has grown so much. Started with just around 100k and now is 1.2m, I'm so happy to see this beloved channel grow ^^

    • Audrey Burgos
      Audrey Burgos 2 ай бұрын +4

      @Holly Brown Yep, I stumbled on this channel when it was still around 100k. So surreal that it's now 1.2m

    • Darkstar
      Darkstar 2 ай бұрын +12

      @Captn Bluehat The channel never started, it always existed by transcending pedestrian states such as beginnings.

    • Holly Brown
      Holly Brown 2 ай бұрын +12

      @Captn Bluehat I think they're saying they subscribed when the channel was at 100k subs. So they got to see it grow from there.

    • G.D. Graham
      G.D. Graham 2 ай бұрын


    • Captn Bluehat
      Captn Bluehat 2 ай бұрын +31

      The channel actually started with 0 subs

  • mila
    mila 2 ай бұрын +99

    As a brazilian I have to say that Colin Firth did speak poorly but still very cute. When someone makes the effort to speak your language even without knowing very well is very charming and sweet.

    • The Womanatee
      The Womanatee Ай бұрын +10

      I always wished they'd made his Portuguese as bad as it is in the subtitles! They mistranslate him to such an extreme that it's almost distracting. That scene is so sweet.💜

  • ClumsyPlum
    ClumsyPlum 2 ай бұрын +151

    What makes Emma Thompson's acting in that necklace scene more sad and believable is that (I believe) she was using her own pure feelings from her then recent divorce which was very similar to that scene/story. I've always loved Thompson, she is a great actress, and this knowledge of her personal life made that scene even more painful. Absolutely heartbreaking.

    • Vaska Tumir
      Vaska Tumir Ай бұрын +1

      @A A I know: like Colin Firth's now ex-wife, who cheated on him after 20 years of marriage.

    • ShintogaDeathAngel
      ShintogaDeathAngel 2 ай бұрын +8

      @A A entitlement, pure and simple.

    • A A
      A A 2 ай бұрын +18

      How in the hell can you willingly cheat on that woman? Some people get the gold and throw it in the garbage

    • Nicole Tunis
      Nicole Tunis 2 ай бұрын +9

      I came here to mention that. The response to her husband's infidelity is so very real

  • Jan Seb
    Jan Seb 2 ай бұрын +129

    Even as a kid watching this film I always had a sense of what "good" love in this film was and what the "bad" love was. And maybe this wasn't the intent of the film at all, but I always felt it portrayed all the love we're blessed with and all the love that we suffer from.

  • CroobieLetter
    CroobieLetter 2 ай бұрын +307

    With Sarah and Carl, I feel you neglect her brother. It becomes painfully obvious that she doesn't actually live her life, and she uses her brother as an excuse. She had a crush on her co-worker for years but never acted on it, only when HE took initiative and others pushed her it got somewhere. She chickened out using her brother as an excuse, Carl even calls her out on it. This story isn't a love story! It shows that a relationship only happens if you are ready for it.

    • Di Ryan
      Di Ryan Ай бұрын

      You didn’t mention a different type of love - Sarah’s love to her brother.

    • Vengedyr
      Vengedyr 2 ай бұрын +2

      @KMJ On the other hand: The way she puts her life on hold for her brother is very unhealthy. What Carl says isn't "forget about him and have sex with me instead". What he says is "Will it make him better". The answer is of course "no". He will likely never be better, this is likely how her brother always has been and he probably will always be that way. But her life would be so immensely improved if she told him that she couldn't always take his calls. I think Carl has noticed that - he's known her for two years. He's trying to help her. He probably really cares about her and is frustrated because he sees how much her eradicating her own needs for those of her brother is harming her. Maybe this incident can help her set some borders and find some space in her life for herself as well.

    • Mel
      Mel 2 ай бұрын +9

      Yes, I always felt that in that moment she made the choice to forgo her own happiness and life for her brother. And perhaps what was most familiar was the easiest.

    • CroobieLetter
      CroobieLetter 2 ай бұрын +23

      @KMJ That's an interesting take, but if I can rebuke, he says: "If you were to go now, would he be any less sick?" Sarah is always available. Willing to drop anything at a moments notice for her sick brother. All through the film; conversations, work, friends, everything gets interrupted by her brothers needs. But what about her needs?
      She is literally with the man of her dreams after years of pining. She WANTS this but can't. Her brother is not a healthy relationship for her because he imposes on every aspect of her life. She does it because she feels like she must but the truth is, she can't cure him, and she deserves to live her life.
      As for Carl, he knows she is always on the phone, he saw her talk him down twice before he excalated, he saw how upset she got. He gently tries to tell her it's okay to choose for herself just this once but she can't. She can never be with anyone because she has no control over her life. That is not the brothers fault, she chose this.

    • KMJ
      KMJ 2 ай бұрын +9

      I disagree. Her most important relationship is with her brother and she rightly chooses him over Carl. Carl is actually suggesting she ignores the call of her brother, a frightened boy in a man's body, just so he can have sex with her. That is a huge turn off to her and should be a mayor red flag. IMO she doesn't chicken out, but realizes that Carl is shallow. If he had been interested in her beyond sex, he would have understood that you can't just ignore a call from a loved one and waited the time it took for her to answer. And if he had feelings for her, he would have ended up spending Christmas with her and her brother.

  • Melissa Lorenzo
    Melissa Lorenzo 15 күн бұрын +4

    One thing that I love about Daniel and Sam relationship is how when he first talk about him being in love Daniel asked him “she or he?”, not making assumptions on the gender. It was so ahead of his time xx

  • Brendon Havener
    Brendon Havener 2 ай бұрын +887

    I NEED to see you guys react to About Time (2013) and look at both relationships.

    • KatchyAshe
      KatchyAshe Ай бұрын +1

      Yes!! About Time is one of my favourite movies

    • Cameron J. Wallace
      Cameron J. Wallace Ай бұрын

      I love that movie

    • Evelyn Brady
      Evelyn Brady Ай бұрын

      that movie makes me cry like a baby and feel so much love for my own dad every time

    • Taylor Rae
      Taylor Rae Ай бұрын +1

      Okay so did Time Travelers Wife suck or something? Was it just as manipulative? I feel like that movie is incredibly pertinent to this discussion

    • V V
      V V 2 ай бұрын +2

      Oh, god, yes, it's one of my favorites (I'm not a huge rom com type typically). I can see it being seen as manipulation but he really just wants to make sure everything is perfect. For example, he asks her if she would change that it rained on their wedding day and when she says no, he respects it,

  • Amélie Carré
    Amélie Carré 2 ай бұрын +239

    I think the Jamie and Aurelia storyline can make sense despite the language barrier considering Jamie starts the movie with a big betrayal from people who lied to him, so then he falls for someone who technically can't lie, since she doesn't speak a language he understands.
    It's just an idea.

    • Mel
      Mel 2 ай бұрын +2

      I love that story. Even the bits shown in this video still made me smile.

    • Amélie Carré
      Amélie Carré 2 ай бұрын +2

      @danieljosephbestguy Mark didn't reveal his feelings, he only explained himself (kind of) after they were discovered.

    • Alejandra Guzman
      Alejandra Guzman 2 ай бұрын


    • danieljosephbestguy
      danieljosephbestguy 2 ай бұрын +12

      It is one thing to be betrayed by your best friend over a woman like Mark with Peter over Juliet revealing his feelings for her behind his friend's back but being betrayed by your own BROTHER in the case of Jamie at the beginning of a film over a girl who feigns sickness in order to have sex with another man is a whole other level... Just terrible. In order to make amends, she'd just have to be a terribly great bitch who only wanted money and pleasure and the brother must have been too stupid and disillusioned with life to do that to his own brother...

    • Korgan Rocks
      Korgan Rocks 2 ай бұрын +38

      The first time I saw the movie was without subtitles, so I can say that even without knowing any portugese I totally bought that love story. In fact, when I saw it WITH subtitles I felt they actually made it LESS romantic!

  • Jeremy Andersson
    Jeremy Andersson 2 ай бұрын +78

    As a single dad who doesn't feel like I have the time or energy for romantic love, I wanna thank you guys for including non-romantic relatioships. And also tell you that I started crying at "and the next one, and the next one".

  • Tasha Thomas
    Tasha Thomas 2 ай бұрын +149

    So I had a great aunt who lived in France and she married my great uncle who spoke English when they barely understood each other . Her advice was “you don’t always need words”. They were married for like 50 years until he died . She loved him until she died . It is possible ❤

    • Tasha Thomas
      Tasha Thomas 2 ай бұрын

      @Rachel Sato-Banks no actually she worked at a school and took care of her siblings. He was deployed to France and that’s how they met.

    • WI
      WI 2 ай бұрын +3

      @bishop51807 is it rly just today tho?

    • Widdekuu91
      Widdekuu91 2 ай бұрын +2

      There's a song about that, by Namika - Je ne parle pas francais and it's half-German and half-French. And it has a good beat.

    • Alex L
      Alex L 2 ай бұрын +6

      My husband still maintains that as soon as he saw me he thought I will be his wife one day. It took another year and half for this to come true, but we’ve been married for 27 years and raised 5 kids. Granted he spoke my language and I spoke his at the time,but CF didn’t kiss Aurelia back when she did, he wanted on to learn her language before coming back to propose. Plus he is so channeling a 1986 mr Darcy, so everyone, plz, shut up about how toxic this particular relationship is, it is perfect!

  • Moriah Blank
    Moriah Blank 2 ай бұрын +523

    I know it was discussed briefly but can we do full relationship analysis on all the Holiday characters please? Love your channel!

    • rosiehobbbit
      rosiehobbbit 2 ай бұрын +1

      Yes, please!!

    • Juan Rodriguez
      Juan Rodriguez 2 ай бұрын +3

      @Maria Melnitskaya moriah meant all the relationships
      They just talked about the sexual ones

    • Maria Melnitskaya
      Maria Melnitskaya 2 ай бұрын +20

      Watch their previous video where they’re ranking Christmas movies - there’s a lot about The Holiday in there

  • Epodmusic17
    Epodmusic17 2 ай бұрын +78

    Having dealt with my husband cheating on me, I wish that my husband had considered doing Gottmans 3 steps instead of ghosting me for two years and giving up. Emma, as an actress, portrayed that so well. It was heart wrenching to watch.

    • Thorn Wilde
      Thorn Wilde 2 ай бұрын +3

      My ex cheated on me with his ex, came clean, I forgave him after he assured me he still wanted to be with me... and then he dumped me anyway three months later. 🙃

    • Solitaire 1
      Solitaire 1 2 ай бұрын +8

      In an interview she said she was tapping into her own experience of betrayal with her ex husband, Kenneth Branagh, when she found out about his affair with Helena Bonham-Carter.

  • Holly CJ
    Holly CJ 2 ай бұрын +126

    Headcanon, Joanna's favourite film was Titanic, and watched it to the point of irritation for her boys, and now it's a real source of comfort (and in Daniels case, terrible irony) and something for them to bond over.

    • Amy Hull
      Amy Hull 2 ай бұрын +1

      Oh, I like that SO MUCH!

  • Pernickety Pern
    Pernickety Pern 2 ай бұрын +91

    Love Actually was my first introduction to Bill Nighy, and he has been one of my favourite actors ever since. Even though my feelings about this movie are mixed, I will forever be grateful it jumpstarted Bill Nighy's mainstream career.

    • Haley C
      Haley C Ай бұрын

      He's a wonderful actor

  • Anne Dirks
    Anne Dirks 2 ай бұрын +60

    I always thought that the joke for the "plumpy" character was that she wasn't fat at all. So everyone keeps calling someone who fits the mold for a societally accepted body but is still called fat because beauty standards suck. I really loved the video 😀

    • Lucy J
      Lucy J 2 ай бұрын +2

      I agree with you, Anne. But people were very rude about the actor in comparison with the waif look of the time, so I think it's a deliberate middle finger to society.

    • littlemissmello
      littlemissmello 2 ай бұрын +12

      Nah, this was the time for the "anorexia chique" body beauty standard. It's gross but you saw lots of non-fat bodies being shamed for being fat, which is shitty for two reasons.

  • Ghostsurfer421
    Ghostsurfer421 2 ай бұрын +67

    I'm not a romantic comedy fan by nature. I had to watch this movie for an Intro to Film course in university, and I fell in love with it...actually lol
    I particularly find the Billy Mack and Joe relationship wholesome. We had to write a paper about three different relationships in the movie and how the film conveyed them, and one of the ones I picked was that one. The T.A. actually took marks off because they said that one didn't count and I am STILL SALTY ABOUT IT. PLATONIC LOVE IS VALID!
    I also find it fascinating that you put Jamie and Aurelia so high, since I know that's often one people point at in this movie and say "ooo, that's just infatuation", usually because of the language barrier. I appreciate your take on it, though.

    • Soul Angela
      Soul Angela 26 күн бұрын +2

      If they said relationships and didn't specify they had to be romantic, you were definitely in the right

    • David Weihe
      David Weihe 2 ай бұрын +1

      Billy Mack and Joe is philos, or the brotherly love, which Plato as an Athenian could/would never separate from sexual love. Maybe, Aristophanes could.
      And your TA needs to grow up (or you didn't explain it well enough, in which case the marks did need to be lowered).

    • KaitlynRAW
      KaitlynRAW 2 ай бұрын +9

      You are absolutely correct. The movie is called Love Actually. It doesn't mean 'Romantic Love Actually is The Only Kind of Love There Is'. If that was the case the Billy Mack and Joe storyline wouldn't have been part of the movie. I thought that it was lovely. Your TA was completely wrong. 😊

  • Aleah Henderson-Carter
    Aleah Henderson-Carter 2 ай бұрын +597

    I’ve watched this movie a THOUSAND times. I just clocked that Bill was channeling Keith Richards and Johnny Depp 🤦🏾‍♀️

    • Sakidora
      Sakidora Ай бұрын

      Johnny Depp was a young man when this came out.

    • Ignác Novotný
      Ignác Novotný 2 ай бұрын +3

      @F Again you're trying to mask your lack of arguments 😀 thank's for your care but my feelings are alright. I don't have to convince you, you trying to dodge discussions is pretty clear indication you realize you are wrong but don't want to lose your face. But don't worry I won't help you embarass yourself anymore ;-)

  • Ximena Allessandri J.
    Ximena Allessandri J. 2 ай бұрын +211

    I’ve never watched this movie tbh but some movies I watch them because of this analysis and the last one touch me so deeply ‘cause made me realize why I can’t share things easily, bc my family has make me feel embarrassed of what I can think or feel, now I wanna watch it so bad 😅🖤✨
    Merry Xmas to everyone and, even if it isn’t a happy day, I wish more lovely and kind ones

    • Lyanna Winter
      Lyanna Winter 2 ай бұрын

      @Ximena Allessandri J. I appreciate that so much ✨☺️

    • Ximena Allessandri J.
      Ximena Allessandri J. 2 ай бұрын +1

      @Lyanna Winter thank you so much 🥺✨🖤
      Wish you a great year too ^-^

    • Lyanna Winter
      Lyanna Winter 2 ай бұрын +2

      Love to both of you. You're both so strong with being open about that pain. That's already half the way, at least in my experience. All the best for the new year.

    • Ximena Allessandri J.
      Ximena Allessandri J. 2 ай бұрын +4

      @Tania L. totally agree
      And it’s hurtful when you look back
      Wish you a lot of love and kindness from now on, and that you can heal what others did ✨

    • Tania L.
      Tania L. 2 ай бұрын +13

      Yes! Honestly, I always felt like the adults around me were laughing at me when I probably said some ridiculous kid thing, but I still remember how I felt all those times. I think I just realized another reason for my low self-esteem :/ Much love to everyone trying to heal ✌️

  • Lucila Barros
    Lucila Barros 2 ай бұрын +83

    If I were Juliet, I would lie to my husband, thinking of a surprise from his best friend to him. As soon as I realized it wasn’t that, I should be mad at him!

  • RD Pandora
    RD Pandora 2 ай бұрын +253

    I watched "Love actually" a long time ago and seeing this (or rewatching things) made me realize that some movies or Tv shows are not healthy as we thought before. We really don't think we just watch but theeen...

    • Vesper
      Vesper Ай бұрын

      @bishop51807 Absolutely, repeated exposure to certain behaviors can wear down an aversion to them, until they begin to feel more "acceptable" or ok.

    • bishop51807
      bishop51807 2 ай бұрын +11

      The pop culture that we expose ourselves to, shapes who we are more than we realize.

    • jenxx
      jenxx 2 ай бұрын +4

      The amount of carp were watched growing up is... pheew 😶

    • RD Pandora
      RD Pandora 2 ай бұрын +24

      @Atruval indeed...but that wasn't really my point, i will continue to watch movies and many things, bad or good. It's just the thought after, when I re watch i wasn't thinking about that before, when I grow-up to understand more things

    • Atruval
      Atruval 2 ай бұрын +20

      Watching 'unhealthy things' isn't necessarily bad. You don't leave 'Oedipus Rex' with the urge to commit incest and patricide, although you could argue that Oedipus did have his comeuppance in the end, unlike some British boys in Love Actually. But that's why you're not born yesterday. You take the time to think: "Does this result seem fair? Would this be the consequences that I or others would want?" No answer is perfect, but whatever answer you give is where you are.

  • Timothy Clark
    Timothy Clark 2 ай бұрын +180

    This episode was very most beautiful the premier time. Jono and the Alan have a very transparency way of the talking.

  • Cass Cass
    Cass Cass 2 ай бұрын +6

    I have to say, Emma Thompson could have easily played Princess Diana at some point. She is so good at what she does and the emotion on her face and in her voice, I felt it

  • TheFierceFinn
    TheFierceFinn 2 ай бұрын +63

    I would give an honorable mention to Sam & Joanna. Their love transcended media and had them together again on Phineas & Ferb (as Ferb and Vanessa).

    • Winter butterfly
      Winter butterfly 2 ай бұрын +5

      In the special episode "Teenagers", I swear I started jumping and screaming when they show they got together, I saw it at 3 in the morning 🤣

  • Charlotte8591
    Charlotte8591 2 ай бұрын +114

    Interesting. I usually don't have sex immediately with someone I'm in love with but for a different reason. Usually, when I have sex with someone too soon I lose all interest in that person afterwards. It's like the climax of love was too soon while I didn't know the person well. I think sex with someone you know well is much more rewarding than sex with someone you don't know well.

    • Charlotte8591
      Charlotte8591 2 ай бұрын +5

      @maydaymittag Do you mean me? Think you're probably right. I'm a psychologist myself. I think I am anxious avoidant. But yeah, I can't help it that when I have sex too soon with someone I often lose interest. I wish it weren't the case but it is. But I'm aware of it so that helps. I just postpone the sex when I'm dating someone until I feel more of a connection.

    • maydaymittag
      maydaymittag 2 ай бұрын +2

      You seem to have an avoidant attachment style not bad tho it saves you a lot

    • Mel
      Mel 2 ай бұрын +10

      I have no problem with casual s3x at all and have had many a casual good time, but when I met my husband there was something about him that made me really want to get to know him, and that made me not want to get too physical too early. Turned out great!

    • hexistenz
      hexistenz 2 ай бұрын +15

      @Charlotte8591 same here. As much as I love having sex, it’s so much deeper and more sensual when we know each other better, and I’m having sex (or making love, actually) with the whole woman, not “just” her physical, exciting attributes.
      But I’ve heard from my few girlfriends that this is an exception rather than the rule.
      But it’s nice to read that other people have a similar preference.

  • EFoxKitsune
    EFoxKitsune 2 ай бұрын +102

    Have you seen the deleted scenes? It's almost a whole other movie. And they make especially the relationship between Daniel and Sammy even better.

  • Xarena Not my real name
    Xarena Not my real name 2 ай бұрын +57

    What are you willing to bet they didn't tell him that the bodyguard guy could sing so they could get a legit surprised reaction?

    • Ammara Shah
      Ammara Shah 2 ай бұрын

      @Korgan Rocks that sounds like a wonderful positive version of whatbthey did to dunst in ET lol

    • Xarena Not my real name
      Xarena Not my real name 2 ай бұрын +4

      @Korgan Rocks Kinda reminds me of that movie I think it was called 2001 a space Odyssey? The guy who voiced the computer Hal had no context for any of his lines he had no idea what was going on so that he could always deliver his lines in that monotone way.

    • Korgan Rocks
      Korgan Rocks 2 ай бұрын +24

      That does sound like the kind of thing a clever director would do! It reminds me of not letting the actress who played Lucy see the Narnia set beforehand so her reaction would be authentic(usually a good idea with child actors).

  • Morgan Leander Blake
    Morgan Leander Blake Ай бұрын +6

    I love the scene with Thompson and Rickman. She chose her method of dealing with it which would both satisfy her dignity and also probably make him feel so much worse than yelling at him.

  • AJD
    AJD 2 ай бұрын +37

    I always felt like the film makers took a non judgemental stance instead of moralising or only showing healthy relationships - we view them as they are, because that's what life and love are like. Different things to different people. If you notice, the curtains are always open, as if we are getting a glimpse into their lives. I don't think it's supposed to be an example of what relationships should be, but an insight into what they are. Which makes us wonder: what is love, actually? That's what I got from the movie, anyway!

    • Tako Gakhokidze
      Tako Gakhokidze Ай бұрын +1

      Where are perfect relationships? Where are perfect couples? Life is full of imperfections, we should accept it, as it is.

    • Lilytails
      Lilytails 2 ай бұрын +1

      I like that view, it makes sense. In real life, love is not always pretty and ideal

    • MCKejml
      MCKejml 2 ай бұрын +5

      Yes. I'm a fan of Cinema Therapy, but it feels the two guys are very judgmental in this one.

  • O'Loner
    O'Loner 2 ай бұрын +43

    I loved this video! There is actually a sequel short film they released for Red Nose Day that shows us where are most of the relationships in the first movie. They unhealthy ones get a somewhat satisfying ending, I think its worth checking out! Happy Holidays!

    • Little Fox
      Little Fox 2 ай бұрын +10

      Still bummed about how Martin Freeman isn't in it...

    • reikun86
      reikun86 2 ай бұрын +2

      I liked Mark’s Resolution in Red Nose Actually.

  • K. S. K.
    K. S. K. 2 ай бұрын +22

    To all those who wondered what happened to these characters, "Red Nose Day" in Britain, a charity to end childhood poverty, encourages participation through comedy and donations. They filmed a sequel to "Love, Actually" and it's available on KZclip. Another year they did one based on "Four Weddings and a Funeral". Original cast participation, and they are fun to watch.

  • Tammy Gray
    Tammy Gray Ай бұрын +1

    Even just watching these clips of those Emma Thompson scenes rips me to shreds. So relatable and realistic of a woman falling apart inside but keeping it together on the outside for the sake of her kids or other people around her. 💔
    Jamie & Aurelia - "I learned just in cases," is one of my favorite lines in any movie.

  • Julie Lachtay
    Julie Lachtay 2 ай бұрын +17

    I'd love to see you react to Grease. So many people still love it and I think it's incredibly problematic and models really unhealthy relationships.

    • 3monsters014
      3monsters014 2 ай бұрын +1

      He tries to change for her, and then she tries to change for him. I agee grease is a very unhealthy relationship.

    • Kilmeny
      Kilmeny 2 ай бұрын +4

      They would need to do a double episode to cover all that is wrong with the relationships in this movie

  • AW
    AW 2 ай бұрын +10

    I feel like "Love, Actually" is a movie with not very good plots, but lovely separate scenes (perfectly performed by an amazing cast). Can't help but still like it because of how well it's acted, shot, scored and all that. Everyone seems to give their 100% to sell these stories.

  • Shannyn Cowart
    Shannyn Cowart 2 ай бұрын +6

    I just realized that when Alan and John speak together it labels them as "Internet Dads" and that is just so wholesome. I Actually, Love you both. Thank you for all your advice it has helped me in all of my relationships and I think of John's advice often navigating my first year of marriage.

    • Cinema Therapy
      Cinema Therapy  2 ай бұрын

      You’re welcome! We’re so glad to help!

  • Sada -Hoshi
    Sada -Hoshi 2 ай бұрын +48

    Keira Knightley (the girl in the 8 top) working in the worst romance ever and in the best romance ever is such a contrast

  • DKG
    DKG 2 ай бұрын +14

    omg thank you for validating my thoughts about the Mark/Juliet thing. Their story always made me uncomfortable. Mark needed to cut ties with both Peter and Juliet and go to therapy. But knowing the movie was written by a man it makes sense that Mark thinks that lusting after his best friend´s wife is love or that his lust will stop after she kissed him, as you said irl it will end up in cheating unless Juliet does what she should have done and is talking to Peter and cutting Mark off their lives.

  • Carolina Figueira
    Carolina Figueira 2 ай бұрын +26

    The number one was my favorite too, it's so sweet. The stepdad being concerned with his stepkid after his wife passes and dealing with his own grief.

  • Rute Marques
    Rute Marques 2 ай бұрын +11

    Hey guys. As a portuguese who really works to learn more English, I think your coment about Jamie and Aurélia was very sweet. The atress Lúcia Moniz is very famous in Portugal. They're story line is my favorite. Is comic Jamie is speaking broken portuguese (with a similar brazilian accent ) is hilarious and sweet. Thank you guys for the apreciation of our language.
    Adoro-vos. Obrigada 🇵🇹❤️🇺🇲☺️

  • Overseeer2579
    Overseeer2579 Ай бұрын +3

    That the two porn set lighting stand ins have the healthiest romantic relationship is both really funny, genuinely cute cause of their actual interactions, and incredibly ironic compared to certain other characters from this movie (Colin and Mark, I’m looking at you)

  • Darknorman 29
    Darknorman 29 Ай бұрын +1

    A few years ago,the charity event Comic Relief,produced a sequel called “Red-nose day actually”.It shows through different segments what happened to some of the couples from then to now.Juliet and Peter are still married,Mark has gotten over Juliet and reveals to her that he’s found someone else.David is still prime minister (well just returned as) and is married to Natalie,who is no longer working for him.
    Jamie and Aurelia are living in England with three kids.They are helping eachother learn their languages,Aurelia is shown to be more fluent in English,whilst Jamie…well.Billy is still making music,but sadly Joe has passed due to a heart attack.Sam has grown up and moved to America,but comes back to visit Daniel and reveals his engagement to Joanna (the girl from the movie,who also came).
    An American version was produced with an extra scene,showing that Sarah had married actor Patrick Dempsey.

  • nyakio
    nyakio 2 ай бұрын +188

    i LITERALLY just went back to find this original video yesterday, because i had just watched love actually and needed to know your opinions lmao, how weird!

    • Nells
      Nells 2 ай бұрын

      As opposed to figuratively finding and watching?? :P

    • HouseMDaddict
      HouseMDaddict 2 ай бұрын +4

      I literally watched Love Actually (for the 80th time) on Friday night and then searched the original video of this after it!!

  • kin♡
    kin♡ 2 ай бұрын +5

    I like that "reasons" for why people have affairs were given but he wrapped it up by saying that ultimately it's a lack of integrity. Like, yes, we should understand what the cheater is going through but it is still wrong and they should take responsibility. I have always felt like the devil's advocate when it comes to love stuff because I want to understand both sides so I think I'm stealing this from you lol

  • T3cadeus
    T3cadeus 2 ай бұрын +18

    Where I do think people probably get some bad messages from this film. I kind of love it for showing these flawed unhealthy aspects to a possible future relationship. As someone who ended up with someone who didn't speak my first language I felt the beauty of connecting through messy confusing language mistakes and cultural differences.

  • Li
    Li 2 ай бұрын +56

    Merry Christmas Cinema Therapy ❤ and Jesus it’s 1am you guys! Go to bed 😂

  • geryddle
    geryddle 2 ай бұрын +3

    "if you're establishing a sexual relationship, definitely do it with Rodrigo Santoro" 😆😄 spot on! 😆

  • Caravan Life NZ
    Caravan Life NZ Ай бұрын +3

    I found the Love Actually infatuation with the best friend's young wife so creepy. He's never even spoken to her and they have zero in common, but he's obsessed with her looks and uses her wedding as an excuse to film her so he can gratify himself later when he watches the videos. He seems more sexually excited by her being forbidden and unavailable (married to his best friend) than he is with her as a person.

  • dreii_9
    dreii_9 2 ай бұрын +25

    Merry Christmas to you all 🎄Definitely my favourite Christmas movie. The fact that Emma Thompson’s acting feels so real is because she was really going through the same thing at the time the movie was made

    • Korgan Rocks
      Korgan Rocks 2 ай бұрын +7

      That scene made me promise myself never to cheat on a partner. I mean, I'd never intended to do so, but her reaction really put me in the shoes of someone suffering that type of betrayal.

    • Jaunty Dame Music
      Jaunty Dame Music 2 ай бұрын +6

      Kenneth B cheated on her to be with Helena Bonham-Carter many years ago

    • CT
      CT 2 ай бұрын +3

      @Chibs Awe bummer. I like the idea of them as a couple. Wasn't meant to be though, I guess.

    • CT
      CT 2 ай бұрын +1

      Really? Who was she married to? Did they divorce?

  • LittleHobbit13
    LittleHobbit13 2 ай бұрын +84

    My hot take on the "flash cards" sequence....Mark's feelings were already outted, and it always struck me more as him trying to close the loop on it, to just say exactly what he said: "my wasted heart will always love you". He gets that it won't go anywhere and isn't asking anything of her. I think if the scene had ended with him just walking away into the night, it wouldn't have been so bad. It's the fact that she runs after him and kisses him that really makes the whole thing sketch. That's the aspect that fully ruins the whole sequence in my opinion.

    • Vaska Tumir
      Vaska Tumir Ай бұрын +2

      @GreyWolfClimber I agree: creepy and totally cringe. Yuck!

    • LittleHobbit13
      LittleHobbit13 Ай бұрын +1

      ​@Overseeer2579 Some really selective arguments you're making there. Feels like you're really tied to your own conclusion and that's fine, so there's no point in either of us wasting more time on this discussion.

    • Overseeer2579
      Overseeer2579 Ай бұрын +2

      @LittleHobbit13 as far as the movie presents to us, the two have never spoken together. There’s also a scene where she tries to break the ice to him one on one (the same scene where he shows her the creepy footage he filmed of just her). He helped with their wedding because he was doing it for his best friend’s new wife. Also, blowing off Keira Knightley’s age at the time as just a ‘Hollywood problem’ and not just a Love Actually problem doesn’t excuse anything. It’s still a disgusting case in and of itself

    • LittleHobbit13
      LittleHobbit13 Ай бұрын +2

      @Overseeer2579 She married his best friend. He helped with their wedding. Why would you conclude that he "can't" know anything about her? That doesn't even begin to make sense.
      And to your other argument....Chiwetel was 26, not all that closer to Keira than Andrew at 30. That's a (long-standing) Hollywood problem, not a Love Actually problem. It's an issue separate from what's going on in the scene narratively.

    • Overseeer2579
      Overseeer2579 Ай бұрын +3

      Except Mark and Juliet don’t know anything about each other. All he knows about her is what she looks like, so how can he ‘always love her’? He can’t, he just thinks she’s hot, which makes it extra uncomfortable that Keira Knightley was 17 when they shot this movie (to be clear, I enjoy the movie overall; this is just one of two stories that drives me crazy)

  • Beth
    Beth 2 ай бұрын +4

    Daniel and Sam's relationship is one of the only reasons I watch this movie. It's a fantastic relationship that perfectly conveys how parents should treat their kids

  • Angelo
    Angelo 2 ай бұрын +12

    We need a Crazy Stupid Love episode 👏🏼

  • Tooqute2nv
    Tooqute2nv 2 ай бұрын +3

    The movie to me never really was about showing just "in love" relationships but in fact is highlighting various types of 'love', from broken love of infidelity in a long-term marriage to unreciprocated infatuation, to lust/sexual relationships, to friendship, to love between a father and son. Plus then within all these stories about these types of love they have their own micro examples of 'love' such as Liam Neeson as the father mourning the loss of his wife, loss of love, but the main story centers on the bond-building between father and son. I also think it's a shame to not mention part of why Sarah's sexual/crush love does not work out is because of the unhealthy balance she places on loving her brother that needs extra care and sometimes is even violent towards her. It is this idea that is echoed in the pop song, "Love is All Around" that the interconnectivity of the stories helps to show that whether it is healthy or unhealthy we are surrounded and encompassed by 'love'.

  • mistasomen
    mistasomen Ай бұрын

    Watching these two dudes helps me putting words to things I always felt but could never express.

  • Аслан Матиев
    Аслан Матиев 2 ай бұрын +37

    Everything you say is great and I agree, except for the Sara and Carl section. And I don't disagree about the romance stuff, but I disagree that this movie treat it like love. I believe that this story is about Sarah's love for her brother, because in the end she choose to be with him when he needed her, and Carl fell off after one night without getting sex. And it's okay if relationship with a girl who has that kind of burden doesn't work for him, but it's a little bit meh on his side.
    Love your channel and all of you beautiful people. Thank you for what you do!

    • Athena214
      Athena214 2 ай бұрын

      actually in interviews the actor who plays carl says the ended up together. so 🤷🏻‍♀️

    • rosiehobbbit
      rosiehobbbit 2 ай бұрын +1

      I think it was the right and healthy thing that he did, she is obviously not ready for another relationship. They just did it kind of "fast forward", one time she takes the phone and he comforts her and says they can work around it together, which is very beautiful (almost cliche, really), and then nothing changes - in real life it would maybe take not two sentences but two dates, but he has to cut it if he sees that she doesn't change.

    • Grootette
      Grootette 2 ай бұрын +2

      I totally agree here. I think it also shows that they've come to terms (or only Sara) with their "relationship" when she just wishes him a merry Christmas and turns to her brother. It's beautifully portrayed.

  • Katriel_N7
    Katriel_N7 2 ай бұрын +6

    I always take time before I fall for someone. I can't deal with all that "there has to be a spark right away" and "you need to know from the start if you're compatible in bed" that everyone keeps telling me, because for me it is just a lot of anxiety and stress, meeting someone new, and I do need to get to know them before I can tell if there is even a chance for a relationship. A lot of guys I met couldn't handle it and wanted to do "stuff" right away, so I've always felt like there's something wrong with me.. Thank you for reasurring me I'm not in the wrongs.

  • Vívica
    Vívica 2 ай бұрын +14

    I actually saw this last year even though I'm in Europe. Interesting.
    Still watched it again, of course. Especially because I kind of feel validated for not liking this film much because a lot of these relationships seemed so awful to me that I couldn't get over it, but I couldn't put it into words to explain to my friends what bothered me about it. So thanks.

  • Feltrix
    Feltrix 2 ай бұрын +13

    I always have so much appreciation for people who acknowledge that ace/aro people exist when talking about romance/sex.

  • hehekate
    hehekate 2 ай бұрын +1

    I love how grossed out they both are with the Mark and Juliet scene and then editing in the scene from Serenity, perfection.

  • G̸a̵d̸g̷e̵t̴ T̸̙̅Ŝ̴͓
    G̸a̵d̸g̷e̵t̴ T̸̙̅Ŝ̴͓ 2 ай бұрын +1

    My mum and sister love this movie and I always thought most of the relationships were incredibly sus 😂

  • Sophie Jordan
    Sophie Jordan 2 ай бұрын +45

    I was literally looking for this video today and I was heartbroken that I couldn’t find it, but we’ve got the rerelease! Let’s go!!

  • coconutcore
    coconutcore 2 ай бұрын +9

    Okay…#1 is fair. That’s cute and wholesome as hell. I want to see a whole movie about it. THAT is what Christmas is all about.

  • Magicme79
    Magicme79 2 ай бұрын +10

    I like how Jonathan gesticulates when he talks, and every time he does, his chair squeaks. Merry Christmas.

  • emlo __
    emlo __ 2 ай бұрын +6

    Andrew Lincoln really showed how absolutely amazing of an actor he is from The Walking Dead

  • Viviann Magalhães
    Viviann Magalhães 2 ай бұрын +7

    22:23 As a huge fan of Colin Firth's work and someone who speaks Portuguese (Brazilian Portuguese) I can only say that this scene hits me every time I watch it. It feels like I could have a whole conversation in portuguese with him if we got to know each other some day 😂😂😂

  • Camila A.
    Camila A. 2 ай бұрын +3

    Rodrigo Santoro was THE reason to my bestfriend and I watch Love Actually when we were teens. He was very popular in Brazil back then.

  • Sofie Arts
    Sofie Arts 2 ай бұрын +1

    Karen was so distraught that she accidentally said ”Happy christmas!” instead of merry christmas :( lol

  • MegaPiglatin
    MegaPiglatin 2 ай бұрын +14

    Hahahaha when my partner and I first met in-person, I was legitimately in pajamas and he definitely had not cleaned his room. We then proceeded to spend 20 HOURS together talking about EVERYTHING. For the first several weeks, we would try to have nights where we cuddled and napped or slept, but we would instead spend the entire night knee-deep in conversation. 😂

  • SkoczMiNaPukiel
    SkoczMiNaPukiel 2 ай бұрын +9

    They really haven't talked before?? Like that guy wouldn't introduce his girlfriend to his best friend long before they got married?? whaaat

  • Carpe Librarium
    Carpe Librarium 2 ай бұрын +14

    Would love to see you rank the relationships in:
    - Benny and Joon
    - Playing by Heart

  • Ash Tomlins
    Ash Tomlins 2 ай бұрын

    This is probably the best single half-hour of relationship advice out there!
    This should be shown along with other stuff in sex-ed classes.

  • Moni O.
    Moni O. 2 ай бұрын +4

    "The Family Stone" is such a good Christmas movie in my opinion. Would love to see it analysed here, I think there's a lot to learn from that in terms of family relationships but also romantic relationships and even our relationships with our own selves.

  • Shade Blackwolf
    Shade Blackwolf 2 ай бұрын +16

    I met my now husband online. We knew eachother for years before meeting in person. We met through several holidays together, before i moved him in to take him out of his toxic home environment. From there on we became proper partners over time

    • Kayden Vega
      Kayden Vega 2 ай бұрын

      @AW me too I'm working on it, I have to be my own superhero and save myself but that's how it is sometimes.

    • AW
      AW 2 ай бұрын +1

      @Kayden Vega Wishing you all the best, hope you find a safe place in time.

    • Kayden Vega
      Kayden Vega 2 ай бұрын +1

      Hopefully I get a happy ending like that right now I'm in a toxic home environment and want to get out.

  • MoonGalleon22
    MoonGalleon22 2 ай бұрын +3

    I think the issue with the Keira Knightly one is that like...okay, if you have a one-sided affection for an inappropriate person, there are plenty of ways to deal with that. Him having a conversation with her (or even talking it out with the best friend first! In fact, you probably SHOULD do that!), in order to get it out of your system and move on, isn't innately a problem.
    The problem is that the way he does it is WAY too high-effort for it to truly have been done with "no hope or expectation" for reciprocation. This is how people propose, or ask people out for a relationship; it's not how people work through difficult feelings, it comes off as actively romantic. He's not trying to work through one-sided love, he's trying to get her to cheat by hitting her with this big romantic gesture.

  • PurCascade
    PurCascade 2 ай бұрын +7

    Emma's Joni Mitchell scene murders me stock still dead every time. 😭
    ETA: Commenting on watching Titanic instead of an action movie... my headcannon is it was the wife/mom Joanna's favorite movie.

  • Daniela Mato
    Daniela Mato 2 ай бұрын +6

    He's not in a committed relationship, IT MATTERS. THANK YOUUUUUUU

  • Pannathorn R.
    Pannathorn R. 2 ай бұрын

    Watching this made me kinda want to know how would you rank the relationship in the hunchback of the notra dame, whether the disney version, the book version, or the musical version. As there was three different guys vying for Esmeralda love in each of their own ways 😂

  • Lara Stephanie Streccia Casabona
    Lara Stephanie Streccia Casabona 2 ай бұрын +7

    Please, do this with 'He's just not that into you' !!! Many different kind of relationships in that one (good and bad) and nice performances :))

  • Nuraini Arsad
    Nuraini Arsad 2 ай бұрын +25

    The unhealthiest ones all have the problem of not loving. A man does not love his best friend as he ought, a husband and father does not love his family as he ought, a woman does not love herself as she ought, etc.

    • Amelie Flad
      Amelie Flad 2 ай бұрын

      @TofuTeo glad to hear that😊

    • TofuTeo
      TofuTeo 2 ай бұрын +1

      @Amelie Flad Thank you so much! I really appreciate your reply! It's more timely than you might realise.

    • Amelie Flad
      Amelie Flad 2 ай бұрын +1

      @TofuTeo don't know if I'm also allowed to answer but in my opinion, if you know your worth and you're okay with who you are, you also get to know your boundaries. Or like.. if sth isn't feeling right or makes you sad you will adress it, cut ties with ppl that aren't making you happy and if you like someone, you act like it.
      There's a lot of conflicts in this movie that could (partially) be solved if people talked openly about their feelings, what's not okay for them, etc
      Love who you are, stand up for your values and keep your eyes fixed on your goals.

    • TofuTeo
      TofuTeo 2 ай бұрын +3

      Whoa, could you elaborate on this please? I’m learning to love myself this year! Would love to hear any insights you have.

  • Kim Towne
    Kim Towne Ай бұрын

    This may have been mentioned - but the mini "Red Nose Day sequel" is, in my opinion, so beautiful to revisit these favorite characters, and it gives some of them great love stories that are much healthier. In fact, nearly all of them. Emma Thompson opted out of filming due to Alan Rickman's untimely and recent death at the time of the production - and they were very close friends. But the rest of the relationships have great follow up stories that really warm my heart. Laura Linney gets a happy ending (with McDreamy/Steamy!) and Jamie is still trying to learn Portuguese fluently and stumbles through a hilarious bit with his now-wife Aurelia.

  • LinaTheOne - GubbiGap
    LinaTheOne - GubbiGap 2 ай бұрын +7

    I would honestly find it really fun to watch you guys react to 50 Shades of Gray xD

  • Halloween All Year Round
    Halloween All Year Round 2 ай бұрын +18

    Loving the Christmas suit!!! Thank you for taking us in the asexual spectrum into account.
    (I hate that movie. I was never able to watch the whole thing, it pisses me off. So it's nice knowing that there were a couple of healthy relationships in it).

  • Colin Holloway
    Colin Holloway 2 ай бұрын +1

    I don't care about what star sign you are, what matters more is which relationship you connect with most in Love Actually!

  • Lívia Lima
    Lívia Lima Ай бұрын +1

    I watched this movie when I was around 24, with my boyfriend at the time. And that night was the most romantic night I remember of our relationship. But, I realized years later that I was in an toxic relationship, so I never noticed how toxic and wrong most of the relationships of the movie were. I watched this movie again when I was 37, and good lord I couldn't stand it!

  • Adrian Castro
    Adrian Castro 2 ай бұрын +94

    Awesome video, awesome timing, COOLEST SUIT!! Thank you guys!

  • Mary Kubasak
    Mary Kubasak Ай бұрын +2

    I’d always read the unrequited love to be that the 3 of them were friends before they split off as a couple, so there was a relationship there, just not the one he was hooked up on…

  • Zina O
    Zina O 2 ай бұрын +3

    I think a movie that you guys will LOVE is “Love Hard” it stars Nina Dobrev and shows infatuation, and also the actual development of a connection. It’s a great movie in terms of that, and from memory it’s kinda funny too :).

  • WildcatDiana
    WildcatDiana 2 ай бұрын +9

    Alan your analysis on Portuguese is spot on. 🇵🇹 ❤️

  • Dragon saxophonist
    Dragon saxophonist 2 ай бұрын

    That last relationship was amazing🥺❤🥺❤ never seen the movie but that is so stinkin precious. That boy has the coolest bonus dad ever....

  • Вероника Лэмми
    Вероника Лэмми 2 ай бұрын +3

    I cried through the half of the video. Love actually just triggers me tearing up immediately. My favorite story is the one with Colin Firth, I’m a sucker for this kind of romance. And cast and music in this movie is just legendary.

  • Sora Silvestre
    Sora Silvestre 2 ай бұрын

    as a portuguese girl, i don’t really like my language for being ‘harsh’ or ‘strong’ in certain ways, although it really is a beautiful and rich language, but whenever i hear foreigners speaking my language i just go AHSJSKSJ YOU ADORABLE LITTLE THING🥺🥺