7 sins of speaking: gossip judging negativity complaining excuses, not taking responsibility exaggeration, that can become lying dogmatism, confusion of facts with opinions H - honesty, be clear and straight A - authenticity, be yourself I - integrity, be your word, trustworthy L - love, wish people well Humans prefer voices, that are low(coming from chest), rich, warm, smooth. YOU can train to get there (coach, posture, breathing, exercises). Change tones, to communicate meanings. Dont use wrong tonality and make it reflect what you are trying to communicate. Pace Silence Pitch - how high Volume - from loud to quiet Exercises: 2X arms up, deep breath in - breath out as arms go down warm up lips "ba, ba, ba..." 8:14 lips coming alive "brrrr" like kids tongue exaggerated "la, la, la, la" "rrrrrrrrr" like champagne for the tongue siren high to low 2x "oooweeeeaaaw" copied comment , used for reminder perposes
@ScorpioHR sometimes people don't realise what they are doing wrong or that something they are doing is bad for them. I like when someone gives me advice on how to improve my life. This TED talk is the speaker judging everyone for speaking or listening poorly, and tries to help them, so he judges them, yet does it in a positive/loving way.
Did he just influence such a large group of people within 10mins to make them stand and do some warmups like that? He proved his technique to be true. Amazing!
"If you wish people with love its really hard to judge them" , its absolutely true . I try to do this everyday . No matter what wish people well and you will find yourself free of all the negativity. And a smile from that stranger will make your day
I was a professional pilot back in the days when carbon mikes were the only choice. As a female, I learned to lower my voice’s pitch in order to activate the carbon crystals. Discovered that I also got a lot more respect and was heard better when I used the deeper richer timbre. Also stopped ending all sentences like a question. That really eliminated a lot of confusion with air traffic control.
When I was learning to fly (PPL) was told that I sounded like a mouse by my second instructor. I'd already done 13 hours with my first instructor. Lost my confidence to fly as easily as that. (1st instructor left as got a job with an airline). He was all the qualities needed to be an top class instructor because I flew my first solo under his guidance. My 2nd instructor wasn't and I gave up flying sadly. How to speak made all the difference to me. Will always appreciate the first instructor for an amazing life experience. Second instructor can't take that away.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I worked with school age children, and was led by The All Knowing one to learn about these styles and forms of communicating. Really does make a difference!! Especially when shaping and cultivating a young humans learning experience. SHALOM
I really loved the way, the idea for this talk, begin with a problem, suggest a solution, offer Hands-on experience for the audience. Beautiful sir, thoroughly enjoyed every frame of this video. The activity towards the end, I believe many of us will be a different speaker after that. Thank you for this.
This is an awesome talk...direct to the point, of being a conscious speaker. So love the tips and techniques. He's a great communicator, he got me glued.
This was truly a great speech, clearly the speaker knows and uses his theory very well. Everyone in the aucience was interested, everyone watching the video probably as well. I really wonder what would happen if more people learned and used this theory, not only for big speeches but also for normal conversations. As the speaker said, the human voice is very powerful, and I think the world would be a better place if more people knew how to use it correctly.
If these types of interpersonal skills along with mindfulness meditation were taught in schools, we would live in a much more sane world. Intelligence isn't just about memorizing facts.
Notes and summary for myself The seven deadly sins of Speaking 1. Gossip: Speaking negatively about someone who is not present. People will not trust you because a while later, you will gossip about them. 2. Judging: It is hard to listen to someone who consistently judge you during a conversation. 3. Negativity: Having a negative viewpoint on things. 4. Complaining: which is mere viral misery. Could be on anything, politics, sports, or the weather. 5. Excuses: Not taking responsibility for our actions and being a blame-thrower 6. Exaggeration: Drawing an imaginary image and inflating stuff excessively. It can get to the point of outright **lying**. 7. Dogmatism: stating your opinions as if they are facts without consideration of an evidence to support your claims. In other words, Bombarding people with biased opinions on a certain topic. - Foundation of powerful speech (HAIL) 1. Honesty: Being clear and straight. Not using deception and lies. But using brutal and unnecessary honesty could hurt people. "Honesty tempered with Love". 2. Authenticity: Being yourself and not imitating a non-genuine persona. "Standing in your own truth". 3. Integrity: Be your word. Do what you say. Be trustworthy, and take responsibility. 4. Love: Wishing people well. No judgement. - Toolbox of Speech (Voice) 1. Register: Talk from your chest, not the nose or throat. "We vote for the politicians with lower voices". People associate depth with power and authority. 2. Timbre: The way the voice feels. "Rich, Smooth, Warm, like hot chocolate." It is a skill that can be trained. 3. Prosody: Talking with enthusiasm, having a rhythmic voice, and not being monotonic like a robot. Avoid repetitive prosody as if every statement was a question. 4. Pace: Talk normally and slow right down to... *Emphasize*. Talking fast or slow at the right time is key in conveying your point. 5. Silence: A powerful tool to bring attention. Should not be filled with filler words such as UH's and UM's. 6. Pitch: To deliver an idea or ask a question and being understood. (The caps-lock of speech) 7. Volume: The quieter the better in bringing attention. But don't be too quiet all the time and don't be a broadcaster too. Pay attention to your loudness. - Warm up the toolbox of voice 1. Arms up, take a deep breath and sigh. 2. Lips: (BA BA BA) 3. Lips: Horse sound 4. Tongue: Exaggerated (LA LA LA) 5. Tongue: Roll an R (RRRRR) 6. The siren (WEEEE [High] yoooo [Low]) Speaking is one part of the puzzle because having a good conversation also depends on being a good listener. Edit: Reconstructed the phrasing of the point of dogmatism. Thank you for all the beautiful replies.Happy to make your day a bit easier :)
This is great insights especially the seven deadly sina of communications. The society, our parents ... we heard them gossiping so our brain functions in a way that this is normal but it is not. It is an illusion that fog up with negativity. People even gossips just to feel close to one another. It is okay to vent your problems but never gossips in day to day basis. It is very unhealthy.
I love this!❤😊❤ I love seeing people be able to speak confidently, and to use their voice in a way which is both powerful, but also compassionate and empathetic.❤😊❤ I love Julian's point about how when we're speaking, we can really use our voice to create an environment of warmth and connection - by changing our delivery and tone. I love how that is able to help people feel so much more understood ❤😊❤
Iky Scars lol very true.. usually a long introduction is a form of manipulation. Intended to change your mind on a particular subject long introductions are agonizing, foreseeable, and ineffective when speaking to a person or crowd that is not gullible, easily impressed or persuaded.. This gentleman was straight to the point and effective in how he spoke. Its quite obvious he practices what he teaches. Or I should say, he is a "practitioner of his preachings" lol
This video is highly impressing to me!!😊 Seven deadly sins of speaking, which was mentioned first, were so exact to what most people say that I was so much surprised!! I have seen various people using words that imply those sins. It was also really good to know about “HAIL” that meant “to greet or acclaim enthusiastically” and contained honesty, authenticity, integrity, and love. In addition, the six vocal warm-up exercises helped me a lot!!! Finally, the questions that were asked in the conclusion of this speech were so remarkable that I would never forget!! :D
Four things I learned from watching this talk 1. "Seven deadly sins of speaking to avoid" 1) gossip -> I need to work on this sin 2) judging -> I need to work on this sin 3) negativity -> I need to work on this sin 4) complaining -> I need to work on this sin 5) excuses 6) lying (embroidery, exaggeration) 7) dogmatism (confusion between fact and opinion) 2. what I need to say: four powerful cornerstones of speech to make a change in the world c.f. "hail means to greet or acclaim enthusiastically" 1) H: honesty (be clear and straight) 2) A: authenticity (be myself) 3) I: integrity (be my word) 4) L: love (wish them well) 3. how I need to say: tools to play with to increase power of my speech 1) register: e.g. if wanting weight, lower pitch of voice 2) timbre: the way voice feels e.g. breathing, posture 3) prosody: rhythm (e.g. not monotone) 4) pace: e.g. slow to emphasize 5) pitch: e.g. make pitch high or low 6) volume: e.g. louder to emphasize 4. exercise the following before making a presentation 1) arms up to sigh out with ahh 2) lips with ba ba 3) lips with brrr 4) tongue with la 5) tongue rolling an r 6) siren from we to aww
@Saran "when I speak by action then people only able to listen by perception" That's usually where true honesty, integrity, authenticy and love really live
This has been truly been helpful. We all struggle with this, the seven deadly sins of speaking. We just got to think positively. We do live in a negative world, but we can't live in the darkness forever. So we need to think more positively. Then our lives will get better, little by little.😊
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Things to remove from your speech : 1. Gossiping 2. Judging 3. Negativity 4. Complaining 5. Excuses 6. Exaggeration 7. Dogmatism ( My way) Things to Include in speech: 1. Honesty 2. Authenticity - be yourself 3. Integrity - Be your word 4. Love
The video is very informative and powerful, and it is very important to me in this video something like this. Speaking powerfully- creating sound consciously-consuming sound consciously The lesson I learn from this talk HAIL H- Honesty be clear and straight A- Authenticity be your self I- Integrity be your word L- Love wish them well I really like Mr julian treaser's mission and vision.
I had saved this to ‘Watch Later’ for quite sometime now, but this morning, while still in bed, I had the sudden urge to watch it, and I am so glad I did. I now know why I have problem with getting people’s attention when I speak to them. Most of this applies to me, I put my hands up. I am grateful for this video. It has done me an immeasurable amount of good.
Honesty. Being true in what you say. Communicating clearly. ... Authenticity. Being yourself. “Standing in your own truth.” Too many people try to imitate someone else instead of simply being themselves. ... Integrity. Being true to your word. ... Love. Wish people well.
Speaking is one thing but the tone in which you speaks with is of utmost importance. Such a confident and clear speaker: he catches your attn within the first 1 minute with his calm tone and eye contact. Alot to take away. 💯
Out of all the suggestions listed, I think "Pace" is perhaps the most difficult to implement. We live in a world where people don't have the patience to listen to someone who speaks slowly. You'll get interrupted constantly, or people will simply stop listening because you're taking up too much of their time. Too frequently you'll have to say what's on your mind really quickly, or not at all. Really, everything mentioned is an excellent practice, but it's only useful when speaking with someone who practices the same principles.
+Charity Diary And then there are those who feel if you left some silence, ANY silence, in your speech pattern, you're probably done and inviting a response.
Randombanana Lol, it actually supposed to be one of the top in the world. I think it has to do with culture too though - people in my country generally speak quite fast/ or rather our slang is meant to get out the meanings of words as fast as possible.
This speech helped me a lot, I have learned a lot from this. I feel frustrated that I can't communicate my point properly while speaking. Because I often feel anxious when speaking in front of many people. In this 10-minute long video, I get all the tips I need, even down to the smallest things I might never have thought of before, like that I can work with my voice tool box to speak better. There are also some comments that give implied messages from the video that make me think that i can be powerful with my voice tool box, if i speak with calmly and love. Hopefully I can apply it when I speak in front of many people in the next opportunity
When speaking there is something to pay attention to. Honesty, authenticity, integrity, and love are very necessary when speaking in addition to training the voice and knowing the type of voice, rhythm, speed, tone and volume is also very necessary volume tone and thank you for the tips to train yourself before speaking
"What would the world be like if we were creating sound consciously, consuming sound consciously and designing all our environments consciously for sound? That would be a world that does sound beautiful, and the one where understanding would be the norm and that is an idea worth spreading." These words caught my attention. INCREDIBLE LECTURE!
"People prefer voices which are rich, smooth, warm like hot chocolate" Julian said, knowing his voice sounded rich, smooth and warm, like hot chocolate.
There is no such thing as a perfect 10 min TED Ta..... Oh damn. And how very meta. He commanded every moment of my attention, while explaining how to keep people's attention. "Awesome" is completely justified here. I am richer for viewing this. Off to find more of this fellow.
Excellent talk. Thank you Julian!! I was working at home and didn’t really pay much attention until he got make good use of changing his voices, tones and speed. And by then I was very much attentive to his talk and just finished listening the talk second time .
An amazing talk. Thank you for imparting this knowledge on us. I will mostly certainly work on employing it into my everyday speaking. If you forgot all these points covered in this video, I am sure performing those vocal exercises on the spot will surely get everyone's attention hahaha.
Verbal and non-verbal communication play important roles in TED Talks. The speakers use their words carefully to convey their ideas in a clear, concise, and engaging manner. They also use tone of voice, body language, and gestures to enhance their message and to connect with their audience. Effective non-verbal communication in a TED Talk can help the speaker convey their passion and enthusiasm for their topic, making their talk more memorable and inspiring to the audience.
Greatly inspired to speak in a more decent, more accurate manner. Thank you all for preparing such nice videos for the community. Hope to see such cool contents in the near future.
"Understanding would be the norm" I love this and I live for this! It's so important to be present and always go into a conversation with the goal to understand as much as you can and if you can't -> accept.
I love how the majority of comments are on how much we appreciated your talk on communication by you displaying it with how you communicated your TED talk.
The human voice: It's the instrument we all play. It's the most powerful sound in the world, probably. It's the only one that can start a war or say "I love you." And yet many people have the experience that when they speak, people don't listen to them. And why is that? How can we speak powerfully to make change in the world? What I'd like to suggest, there are a number of habits that we need to move away from. I've assembled for your pleasure here seven deadly sins of speaking. I'm not pretending this is an exhaustive list, but these seven, I think, are pretty large habits that we can all fall into. First, gossip. Speaking ill of somebody who's not present. Not a nice habit, and we know perfectly well the person gossiping, five minutes later, will be gossiping about us. Second, judging. We know people who are like this in conversation, and it's very hard to listen to somebody if you know that you're being judged and found wanting at the same time. Third, negativity. You can fall into this. My mother, in the last years of her life, became very negative, and it's hard to listen. I remember one day, I said to her, "It's October 1 today," and she said, "I know, isn't it dreadful?" (Laughter) It's hard to listen when somebody's that negative. (Laughter) And another form of negativity, complaining. Well, this is the national art of the U.K. It's our national sport. We complain about the weather, sport, about politics, about everything, but actually, complaining is viral misery. It's not spreading sunshine and lightness in the world. Excuses. We've all met this guy. Maybe we've all been this guy. Some people have a blamethrower. They just pass it on to everybody else and don't take responsibility for their actions, and again, hard to listen to somebody who is being like that. Penultimate, the sixth of the seven, embroidery, exaggeration. It demeans our language, actually, sometimes. For example, if I see something that really is awesome, what do I call it? (Laughter) And then, of course, this exaggeration becomes lying, and we don't want to listen to people we know are lying to us. And finally, dogmatism. The confusion of facts with opinions. When those two things get conflated, you're listening into the wind. You know, somebody is bombarding you with their opinions as if they were true. It's difficult to listen to that. So here they are, seven deadly sins of speaking. These are things I think we need to avoid. But is there a positive way to think about this? Yes, there is. I'd like to suggest that there are four really powerful cornerstones, foundations, that we can stand on if we want our speech to be powerful and to make change in the world. Fortunately, these things spell a word. The word is "hail," and it has a great definition as well. I'm not talking about the stuff that falls from the sky and hits you on the head. I'm talking about this definition, to greet or acclaim enthusiastically, which is how I think our words will be received if we stand on these four things. So what do they stand for? See if you can guess. The H, honesty, of course, being true in what you say, being straight and clear. The A is authenticity, just being yourself. A friend of mine described it as standing in your own truth, which I think is a lovely way to put it. The I is integrity, being your word, actually doing what you say, and being somebody people can trust. And the L is love. I don't mean romantic love, but I do mean wishing people well, for two reasons. First of all, I think absolute honesty may not be what we want. I mean, my goodness, you look ugly this morning. Perhaps that's not necessary. Tempered with love, of course, honesty is a great thing. But also, if you're really wishing somebody well, it's very hard to judge them at the same time. I'm not even sure you can do those two things simultaneously. So hail. Also, now that's what you say, and it's like the old song, it is what you say, it's also the way that you say it. You have an amazing toolbox. This instrument is incredible, and yet this is a toolbox that very few people have ever opened. I'd like to have a little rummage in there with you now and just pull a few tools out that you might like to take away and play with, which will increase the power of your speaking. Register, for example. Now, falsetto register may not be very useful most of the time, but there's a register in between. I'm not going to get very technical about this for any of you who are voice coaches. You can locate your voice, however. So if I talk up here in my nose, you can hear the difference. If I go down here in my throat, which is where most of us speak from most of the time. But if you want weight, you need to go down here to the chest. You hear the difference? We vote for politicians with lower voices, it's true, because we associate depth with power and with authority. That's register. Then we have timbre. It's the way your voice feels. Again, the research shows that we prefer voices which are rich, smooth, warm, like hot chocolate. Well if that's not you, that's not the end of the world, because you can train. Go and get a voice coach. And there are amazing things you can do with breathing, with posture, and with exercises to improve the timbre of your voice. Then prosody. I love prosody. This is the sing-song, the meta-language that we use in order to impart meaning. It's root one for meaning in conversation. People who speak all on one note are really quite hard to listen to if they don't have any prosody at all. That's where the word "monotonic" comes from, or monotonous, monotone. Also, we have repetitive prosody now coming in, where every sentence ends as if it were a question when it's actually not a question, it's a statement? (Laughter) And if you repeat that one, it's actually restricting your ability to communicate through prosody, which I think is a shame, so let's try and break that habit. Pace. I can get very excited by saying something really quickly, or I can slow right down to emphasize, and at the end of that, of course, is our old friend silence. There's nothing wrong with a bit of silence in a talk, is there? We don't have to fill it with ums and ahs. It can be very powerful. Of course, pitch often goes along with pace to indicate arousal, but you can do it just with pitch. Where did you leave my keys? (Higher pitch) Where did you leave my keys? So, slightly different meaning in those two deliveries. And finally, volume. (Loud) I can get really excited by using volume. Sorry about that, if I startled anybody. Or, I can have you really pay attention by getting very quiet. Some people broadcast the whole time. Try not to do that. That's called sodcasting, (Laughter) Imposing your sound on people around you carelessly and inconsiderately. Not nice. Of course, where this all comes into play most of all is when you've got something really important to do. It might be standing on a stage like this and giving a talk to people. It might be proposing marriage, asking for a raise, a wedding speech. Whatever it is, if it's really important, you owe it to yourself to look at this toolbox and the engine that it's going to work on, and no engine works well without being warmed up. Warm up your voice. Actually, let me show you how to do that. Would you all like to stand up for a moment? I'm going to show you the six vocal warm-up exercises that I do before every talk I ever do. Any time you're going to talk to anybody important, do these. First, arms up, deep breath in, and sigh out, ahhhhh, like that. One more time. Ahhhh, very good. Now we're going to warm up our lips, and we're going to go Ba, Ba, Ba, Ba, Ba, Ba, Ba, Ba. Very good. And now, brrrrrrrrrr, just like when you were a kid. Brrrr. Now your lips should be coming alive. We're going to do the tongue next with exaggerated la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la. Beautiful. You're getting really good at this. And then, roll an R. Rrrrrrr. That's like champagne for the tongue. Finally, and if I can only do one, the pros call this the siren. It's really good. It starts with "we" and goes to "aw." The "we" is high, the "aw" is low. So you go, weeeaawww, weeeaawww. Fantastic. Give yourselves a round of applause. Take a seat, thank you. (Applause) Next time you speak, do those in advance. Now let me just put this in context to close. This is a serious point here. This is where we are now, right? We speak not very well to people who simply aren't listening in an environment that's all about noise and bad acoustics. I have talked about that on this stage in different phases. What would the world be like if we were speaking powerfully to people who were listening consciously in environments which were actually fit for purpose? Or to make that a bit larger, what would the world be like if we were creating sound consciously and consuming sound consciously and designing all our environments consciously for sound? That would be a world that does sound beautiful, and one where understanding would be the norm, and that is an idea worth spreading. Thank you. (Applause)
The speaker's verbal communication were clear and easy to understand. He also show us how to make other people want to listen to us. Eventhough his non verbal communication is vague it is still understandable so I can say that he is a very good speaker.
I have never taken notes throughout an entire, first watch of a piece. I kept pausing and rewinding every couple moments to do so, it was honestly a fantastic speech.
To speak to people better, I must speak how they would want me to speak. To speak how they want me to speak, I must use positive words to enlighten them. Avoid using any negative words or people will avoid listening to me.
Sometimes we need silence. Sometimes we need to listen and process what is being said before responding. I just remembered someone nothing that it is important to have a moment of pause in responding during a conversation to allow proper thinking. What a world we would live in if we stopped the gossiping, negative talk, judgement, and instead actually listened, showed compassion for others, and talked effectively and with purpose… there is still hope!
I was a speech & debate champion in HS & college (Harvard) and then a debate and speech coach at the HS and college levels for more than 30 years, as well as a founder of urban speech and debate. Everything Julian Treasure says here is exactly what high school speech teachers try to convey to their students each and every day; policy debaters try to persuade by facts and logic, whereas events like oratory involve rhetorical methods (some of which are mentioned in the talk) for persuasion. These essentially are known to us as LOGOS and ETHOS; the best speakers can not only control register, timbre, prosody, pace, silence, pitch and volume, but also can start a speech with a hook, an introduction, a topic sentence, 2-3 arguments, surrounded by rhetorical flourishes (three words starting with the same consonant is a famous one) a conclusion and a closing hook. I'm lucky enough to have been teaching the last few years standardized tests, and getting across how to write, or how to speak, is a delight with young kids. They should all watch this You Tube!
I think there are contextual imperatives to this advice. Public spaces deserve this kind of etiquette. Private spaces require a lot more authenticity and openness, as well as listening and speaking SKILLS that we should be teaching from day 1. I think we are also being asked to assume that wanting one's words to impact others and "change the world" is an unequivocal good. There are many things we want different that it takes us a while to realize that our desire was uninformed and we are grateful in the end to have been unsuccessful at getting what we want.
Excellent talk! It shared many useful and practical techniques that are bound to help anyone. The content of the message and the quality of the vocal delivery are exceedingly important, but they are not the only mechanisms by which one could entice people to listen. I've found that there is a hidden amplifying magnet in that tool box that could exact a considerable impact on how willing people would be to listen to what you have to say---especially, when addressing smaller audiences---and that is 'eye contact'. In an increasingly fast-paced and impatient world, it has become a serious challenge to grab and maintain people's attention long enough to communicate an idea. The short attention span could be greatly remedied using effective eye contact strategies. For example, I have tried to deliver the same talk to the same audience with and without effective eye contact and the difference between the two strategies has been quite dramatic. When you don't establish effective eye contact with your audience, you quickly lose them to the bouts of distraction and impatience.
You know everything is based in your own personality. If you are a positive thinker you wouldn't think negative or compile about something that you don't have. Every word that the speaker express was the most beautiful facts that I have ever heard. It is a true fact that the people who don't know how to speak and don't know which techniques they must use, will do all of those brilliant points. I am gonna change my speaking techniques if people compile about them. 😊☺
This is for the first time I have been giving these much attention to a Ted speech. Loved it.... Effective also.... I will indeed try the warm up exercises. Thank You so much.
@Олег Иванов I don't know. I haven't been able to stop it completely, but I feel that focusing on what we don't like just makes it bigger in our experience.
These vocal exercises coupled with standing so close are perfect for spreading COVID. Gosh it was nice back when we didn’t have to think about such things!
As we know that nowadays often when we talk to other people, the other person sometimes finds it difficult to be a good listener. In this video I learn some things or tips so that when we talk, the other person will listen well. and I got the snippet from the video which is If you wish someone well it's very hard to judge them at the same time.
Communication is about human connection. Being able to communicate effectively is one of the best life habits. Good listening is among the most important principles of great communication. It is common for most people to listen not with the intent of understanding, but with the intent of replying. Listening with the intent to understand is to fully understand that person intellectually and emotionally. You ensure that you understand by repeating back to them what they said and mirroring their emotions. By doing so, you help them structure their own thoughts and feelings. This type of listening can lead to truly open and trusting communication.
🌻7 deadly sins of speaking gossip judging negativity complaining excuses lying dogmatism 🌻4 foundations to speak powerfully: HAIL Honesty- be clear and straight Authenticity- be yourself Integrity- be your word Love- wish them well 🌻Keys to increase the power of your speaking Register: lower your voice, depth is associated with power and authority Timbre: the way your voice feels Prosody: impart meaning Pace Pitch Volume Warm up your voice
Our public speaking teacher taught us that to be able to conquer your fear of public speaking is to be (obviously) be confident, BUT for you to be confident you also have to totally KNOW WHAT YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT. Tried that, and personally that is sooo effective. 😉
in summary : • avoid bad speaking habits : gossip, judgment, negativity, complaints, excuses, exaggeration, ? • use HAIL : Honesty - being straight Authenticity - be yourself Integrity - be your word Love - wish them well • learn voice techniques, because they're powerful to share your ideas effectively with others (do i have any mistakes)
My public speaking abilities have gone up since I started to focus on my pronunciation and talking improvement. The way you actually say things change how people perceive it.
It’s hard as we are told don’t judge don’t try and impress others . The world 🌍 is all about impressing others from American idol to impress your job interview to impress people . We have to get validation from others . The key 🔑 is to do it with confidence and love ❤️ 😊
I learned a while ago that most people don't really listen to what a person has to say. Speakers with either natural or trained voice dynamics can say complete bullcrap and people will swallow it. How things are said change the way the content is understood. Even if somebody says the most fascinating things in the world, but with a dull voice, he won't be listened by most. People assume that dull voice comes from a person who doesn't believe what he's saying, so any message is lost.
For the average, yes. Though I've listened to many Noam Chomsky talks and found him quite interesting while others find him unbearable to listen to. Not everyone is influenced by obvious fluff and pretention of presence. Perhaps Trump is a good speaker, but if you listen to what he says you realize quickly that he's an idiot. He leaves no room for guessing. Yet, millions of Americans love him. Obama was a great orator, which lends itself to his popularity across the board, except those who will simply despise a Democrat for being one even if in practice he was right of center.
@forgiveaspie not a bot and not sure how anything I mentioned was “disinformation”. Some of the topics you mentioned like deficit, our wars in other countries, etc do concern me and I don’t prescribe to any particular political party because of the corruption and double speak that occurs. I want what’s best for my family and the actual citizens of this country. If my opinions offend you, it’s your choice to be offended by what someone says. If that’s the case, then stop reading what I or others who see things similarly as I do.
I’m an engineer working for a large Telecom company and my employer spend every years a substantial budget on softskill training including efficient communication. Honestly, in the beginning as a young engineer I found those mandatory courses very annoying. When I become a Sr. eng. I had to took leadership courses as well. I was more interested by technical training. I change company after 15 years of services, and I am chock the lack of communication skills in my new work environment coz my new employer doesn’t invest on his employees training. I get several compliments by my colleagues as they thought I am a natural leader...which is absolutely false. I learn a lot from courses and I see the benefits at my last job when everyone knows the basic of how to clearly communicate and how to make it efficient. In my last job, I use to present recommendations on a VIce President committee monthly . As a french person, I was taught by our corporate communication coach to do some lips exercices as English need to have a more relax mouth for the pronunciation. Lol.
"if you don't have anything to say, don't say anything at all" is my spinoff of "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" if you trust your own judgement and don't crave attention, people should listen. I hope someone sees this.
This is one of the best TED talks I have watched. Gleaned a lot of invaluable insights and techniques to polish my communication skills. Thank you so much, Mr. Julian Treasure for sharing the nuances of communication so beautifully.
If everyone took an extra minute to think before speaking, the world would be such a better place.
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Agree with you 100% people should think before open month cuz people has feeling
you'll listen to me anyway, i know cause you want to know what i'm saying cause it either funny or interesting, if not it ok
i have no filters, i do but i choose not to use them
Occasionally, I take so much extra time that I rather decide not to speak what I was going to after that.
7 sins of speaking:
gossip
judging
negativity
complaining
excuses, not taking responsibility
exaggeration, that can become lying
dogmatism, confusion of facts with opinions
H - honesty, be clear and straight
A - authenticity, be yourself
I - integrity, be your word, trustworthy
L - love, wish people well
Humans prefer voices, that are low(coming from chest), rich, warm, smooth. YOU can train to get there (coach, posture, breathing, exercises).
Change tones, to communicate meanings. Dont use wrong tonality and make it reflect what you are trying to communicate.
Pace
Silence
Pitch - how high
Volume - from loud to quiet
Exercises:
2X arms up, deep breath in - breath out as arms go down
warm up lips "ba, ba, ba..." 8:14
lips coming alive "brrrr" like kids
tongue exaggerated "la, la, la, la"
"rrrrrrrrr" like champagne for the tongue
siren high to low 2x "oooweeeeaaaw" copied comment , used for reminder perposes
Thank you for doing this.
THANK YOU 🙂
Thank you
Thank you so much
"There's nothing wrong with a bit of silence."
I love this talk!!
"Complaining people always get negative results, they just gossip, judge, and make excuses while lying and being dogmatic."
But there's something wrong too with all silence!
0:13 Intro
0:33 7 deadly sins of speaking
2:45 4 positive/powerful elements in speech
4:22 The toolbox
7:44 Vocal warmup
9:05 Conclusion
4:06 " If you are wishing somebody's well, it is very hard to judge them at the same time. " impressive expression, so real.
@ScorpioHR sometimes people don't realise what they are doing wrong or that something they are doing is bad for them. I like when someone gives me advice on how to improve my life. This TED talk is the speaker judging everyone for speaking or listening poorly, and tries to help them, so he judges them, yet does it in a positive/loving way.
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Love this
Did he just influence such a large group of people within 10mins to make them stand and do some warmups like that?
He proved his technique to be true. Amazing!
He didn't use any "uhm"s or "eh"s in his speech. Absolutely amazing.
@chawbok qqqqqqqq
Didn't observe that lol
Jst like me🎉
Its called prepared
Why would he? Those aren’t words.
Not one time did my mind wander or drift away. This was pure excellence.
mine did on the NEGAtivity
Same here hope you're ok
"If you wish people with love its really hard to judge them" , its absolutely true . I try to do this everyday . No matter what wish people well and you will find yourself free of all the negativity. And a smile from that stranger will make your day
A blatantly spurious assertion.
Very true! Heroic opportunities don't cross our path very often.
I was a professional pilot back in the days when carbon mikes were the only choice. As a female, I learned to lower my voice’s pitch in order to activate the carbon crystals. Discovered that I also got a lot more respect and was heard better when I used the deeper richer timbre. Also stopped ending all sentences like a question. That really eliminated a lot of confusion with air traffic control.
@EinSofQuester i see what you did there haha
@channel0001 You mean "Upspeak?"?
When I was learning to fly (PPL) was told that I sounded like a mouse by my second instructor. I'd already done 13 hours with my first instructor. Lost my confidence to fly as easily as that. (1st instructor left as got a job with an airline). He was all the qualities needed to be an top class instructor because I flew my first solo under his guidance. My 2nd instructor wasn't and I gave up flying sadly. How to speak made all the difference to me. Will always appreciate the first instructor for an amazing life experience. Second instructor can't take that away.
The technical term for ending sentences like a question is "upspeak".
Thank you for sharing your experience. I worked with school age children, and was led by The All Knowing one to learn about these styles and forms of communicating. Really does make a difference!! Especially when shaping and cultivating a young humans learning experience. SHALOM
I really loved the way, the idea for this talk, begin with a problem, suggest a solution, offer Hands-on experience for the audience. Beautiful sir, thoroughly enjoyed every frame of this video. The activity towards the end, I believe many of us will be a different speaker after that. Thank you for this.
This is an awesome talk...direct to the point, of being a conscious speaker. So love the tips and techniques. He's a great communicator, he got me glued.
This was truly a great speech, clearly the speaker knows and uses his theory very well. Everyone in the aucience was interested, everyone watching the video probably as well. I really wonder what would happen if more people learned and used this theory, not only for big speeches but also for normal conversations. As the speaker said, the human voice is very powerful, and I think the world would be a better place if more people knew how to use it correctly.
If these types of interpersonal skills along with mindfulness meditation were taught in schools, we would live in a much more sane world. Intelligence isn't just about memorizing facts.
People want everything taught in school. How bout teaching it in the home. Parental responsibility
"intelligence isn't just about mesmerizing facts" that hits different.. You got it 👌
Intelligence is not at all about memorizing.
I agree wholeheartedly!
Very true!!
Notes and summary for myself
The seven deadly sins of Speaking
1. Gossip: Speaking negatively about someone who is not present. People will not trust you because a while later, you will gossip about them.
2. Judging: It is hard to listen to someone who consistently judge you during a conversation.
3. Negativity: Having a negative viewpoint on things.
4. Complaining: which is mere viral misery. Could be on anything, politics, sports, or the weather.
5. Excuses: Not taking responsibility for our actions and being a blame-thrower
6. Exaggeration: Drawing an imaginary image and inflating stuff excessively. It can get to the point of outright **lying**.
7. Dogmatism: stating your opinions as if they are facts without consideration of an evidence to support your claims. In other words, Bombarding people with biased opinions on a certain topic.
- Foundation of powerful speech (HAIL)
1. Honesty: Being clear and straight. Not using deception and lies. But using brutal and unnecessary honesty could hurt people. "Honesty tempered with Love".
2. Authenticity: Being yourself and not imitating a non-genuine persona. "Standing in your own truth".
3. Integrity: Be your word. Do what you say. Be trustworthy, and take responsibility.
4. Love: Wishing people well. No judgement.
- Toolbox of Speech (Voice)
1. Register: Talk from your chest, not the nose or throat. "We vote for the politicians with lower voices". People associate depth with power and authority.
2. Timbre: The way the voice feels. "Rich, Smooth, Warm, like hot chocolate." It is a skill that can be trained.
3. Prosody: Talking with enthusiasm, having a rhythmic voice, and not being monotonic like a robot. Avoid repetitive prosody as if every statement was a question.
4. Pace: Talk normally and slow right down to... *Emphasize*. Talking fast or slow at the right time is key in conveying your point.
5. Silence: A powerful tool to bring attention. Should not be filled with filler words such as UH's and UM's.
6. Pitch: To deliver an idea or ask a question and being understood. (The caps-lock of speech)
7. Volume: The quieter the better in bringing attention. But don't be too quiet all the time and don't be a broadcaster too. Pay attention to your loudness.
- Warm up the toolbox of voice
1. Arms up, take a deep breath and sigh.
2. Lips: (BA BA BA)
3. Lips: Horse sound
4. Tongue: Exaggerated (LA LA LA)
5. Tongue: Roll an R (RRRRR)
6. The siren (WEEEE [High] yoooo [Low])
Speaking is one part of the puzzle because having a good conversation also depends on being a good listener.
Edit: Reconstructed the phrasing of the point of dogmatism.
Thank you for all the beautiful replies.Happy to make your day a bit easier :)
Ty❤
Thank you.
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Omg thanks
Thank you for this 🙏🏾🌹🌺
I love this speech so much that I’m using it for an out of state declamation tournament
Edit: I got second place overall with it😎
@No Excuses Gossiping is what women do. Like hens in a coup.
Awesome
This is great insights especially the seven deadly sina of communications.
The society, our parents ... we heard them gossiping so our brain functions in a way that this is normal but it is not. It is an illusion that fog up with negativity. People even gossips just to feel close to one another.
It is okay to vent your problems but never gossips in day to day basis. It is very unhealthy.
Congrats! 🎉
I love this!❤😊❤
I love seeing people be able to speak confidently, and to use their voice in a way which is both powerful, but also compassionate and empathetic.❤😊❤
I love Julian's point about how when we're speaking, we can really use our voice to create an environment of warmth and connection - by changing our delivery and tone. I love how that is able to help people feel so much more understood ❤😊❤
This is a really good demonstration on how you can be more impactful when talking to people. I sincerely feel like I just learned a whole lot
It's useless when you are surrounded by people for a lack of a better word "idiots"
I watched this so many times and I use this to help with my coaching. Love his speech! Wow again!
Now this gentleman here cuts right through the chase, I usually dislike long introductions to the real subject. A lovely lecture indeed.
okayYyy
*the human voice*
Iky Scars agree. The 1st Rule of Conversation is "Get to the point".
Iky Scars lol very true.. usually a long introduction is a form of manipulation. Intended to change your mind on a particular subject long introductions are agonizing, foreseeable, and ineffective when speaking to a person or crowd that is not gullible, easily impressed or persuaded.. This gentleman was straight to the point and effective in how he spoke. Its quite obvious he practices what he teaches. Or I should say, he is a "practitioner of his preachings" lol
This video is highly impressing to me!!😊 Seven deadly sins of speaking, which was mentioned first, were so exact to what most people say that I was so much surprised!! I have seen various people using words that imply those sins. It was also really good to know about “HAIL” that meant “to greet or acclaim enthusiastically” and contained honesty, authenticity, integrity, and love. In addition, the six vocal warm-up exercises
helped me a lot!!! Finally, the questions that were asked in the conclusion of this speech were so remarkable that I would never forget!! :D
😊😊
4:01 "Tempered with love, honesty is a great thing." What a powerful statement; so, so true.
Before mentioning his highly fluent speech I could feel how confident he is about himself. What an amazing speech I have ever seen! Love it!
He speaks so clearly, even I can understand almost whole words
Yes it's likE mE
I'm learning more on the internet than I'm learning in school
Bro that’s true I’ve been told do school and get a job but school never teaches me about getting a job
Same here
same
how come
Four things I learned from watching this talk
1. "Seven deadly sins of speaking to avoid"
1) gossip -> I need to work on this sin
2) judging -> I need to work on this sin
3) negativity -> I need to work on this sin
4) complaining -> I need to work on this sin
5) excuses
6) lying (embroidery, exaggeration)
7) dogmatism (confusion between fact and opinion)
2. what I need to say: four powerful cornerstones of speech to make a change in the world
c.f. "hail means to greet or acclaim enthusiastically"
1) H: honesty (be clear and straight)
2) A: authenticity (be myself)
3) I: integrity (be my word)
4) L: love (wish them well)
3. how I need to say: tools to play with to increase power of my speech
1) register: e.g. if wanting weight, lower pitch of voice
2) timbre: the way voice feels e.g. breathing, posture
3) prosody: rhythm (e.g. not monotone)
4) pace: e.g. slow to emphasize
5) pitch: e.g. make pitch high or low
6) volume: e.g. louder to emphasize
4. exercise the following before making a presentation
1) arms up to sigh out with ahh
2) lips with ba ba
3) lips with brrr
4) tongue with la
5) tongue rolling an r
6) siren from we to aww
thank you
@Saran
"when I speak by action then people only able to listen by perception"
That's usually where true honesty, integrity, authenticy and love really live
Good bro
Thank you @Gil Su Kim
Thank u
This has been truly been helpful. We all struggle with this, the seven deadly sins of speaking. We just got to think positively. We do live in a negative world, but we can't live in the darkness forever. So we need to think more positively. Then our lives will get better, little by little.😊
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Things to remove from your speech :
1. Gossiping
2. Judging
3. Negativity
4. Complaining
5. Excuses
6. Exaggeration
7. Dogmatism ( My way)
Things to Include in speech:
1. Honesty
2. Authenticity - be yourself
3. Integrity - Be your word
4. Love
The video is very informative and powerful, and it is very important to me in this video something like this. Speaking powerfully- creating sound consciously-consuming sound consciously
The lesson I learn from this talk
HAIL
H- Honesty be clear and straight
A- Authenticity be your self
I- Integrity be your word
L- Love wish them well
I really like Mr julian treaser's mission and vision.
BRAVO 👏 Really needed this lesson.
He is an incredible professional speaker. I thoroughly enjoyed this talk!
How am I the only one who finds his voice grating?
same here! I also really love Andrew Solomon's talk about depression. Both him and Julian are professional and impactful speakers. :)
I had saved this to ‘Watch Later’ for quite sometime now, but this morning, while still in bed, I had the sudden urge to watch it, and I am so glad I did. I now know why I have problem with getting people’s attention when I speak to them. Most of this applies to me, I put my hands up. I am grateful for this video. It has done me an immeasurable amount of good.
Honesty. Being true in what you say. Communicating clearly. ...
Authenticity. Being yourself. “Standing in your own truth.” Too many people try to imitate someone else instead of simply being themselves. ...
Integrity. Being true to your word. ...
Love. Wish people well.
it is very useful to me，I will try to do my best in the daily life
This is one of my favorite talks of all time. The presentation itself is a testament of these techniques
Speaking is one thing but the tone in which you speaks with is of utmost importance. Such a confident and clear speaker: he catches your attn within the first 1 minute with his calm tone and eye contact. Alot to take away. 💯
What an absolutely amazing speaker. Loved this speech💯✨
Out of all the suggestions listed, I think "Pace" is perhaps the most difficult to implement. We live in a world where people don't have the patience to listen to someone who speaks slowly. You'll get interrupted constantly, or people will simply stop listening because you're taking up too much of their time. Too frequently you'll have to say what's on your mind really quickly, or not at all. Really, everything mentioned is an excellent practice, but it's only useful when speaking with someone who practices the same principles.
+Charity Diary so true. and the recommended video on the right of this one is "Think Fast, Talk Smart" by stanford university lol
+Charity Diary What I'd suggest about pace is to just follow the pace of the person you're talking with, it's called 'Mirroring' in NLP.
+Charity Diary So TRUE!
+Charity Diary And then there are those who feel if you left some silence, ANY silence, in your speech pattern, you're probably done and inviting a response.
Randombanana Lol, it actually supposed to be one of the top in the world. I think it has to do with culture too though - people in my country generally speak quite fast/ or rather our slang is meant to get out the meanings of words as fast as possible.
This speech helped me a lot, I have learned a lot from this. I feel frustrated that I can't communicate my point properly while speaking. Because I often feel anxious when speaking in front of many people. In this 10-minute long video, I get all the tips I need, even down to the smallest things I might never have thought of before, like that I can work with my voice tool box to speak better. There are also some comments that give implied messages from the video that make me think that i can be powerful with my voice tool box, if i speak with calmly and love. Hopefully I can apply it when I speak in front of many people in the next opportunity
When speaking there is something to pay attention to. Honesty, authenticity, integrity, and love are very necessary when speaking in addition to training the voice and knowing the type of voice, rhythm, speed, tone and volume is also very necessary volume tone and thank you for the tips to train yourself before speaking
I’m a teacher and these are essential in being an engaging and effective teacher. Great talk.
I'm glad that these people are gathered around as they wanted self-improvement, and not to blame others. The world is getting better!
"What would the world be like if we were creating sound consciously, consuming sound consciously and designing all our environments consciously for sound? That would be a world that does sound beautiful, and the one where understanding would be the norm and that is an idea worth spreading." These words caught my attention. INCREDIBLE LECTURE!
"People prefer voices which are rich, smooth, warm like hot chocolate" Julian said, knowing his voice sounded rich, smooth and warm, like hot chocolate.
Is there any endian?
I cannot stand his voice because of his speech impediment and annoying accent.
Integrity, is it?
@Sun Arzarni no
Reading this aloud in a voice that's rich, smooth and warm like hot chocolate is strangely compelling.. 😅
Wow I've never seen an audience so engaged and 'listening'. He definitely knows how to speak so that people want to listen!
How many Ted Talks have you watched?
There is no such thing as a perfect 10 min TED Ta..... Oh damn. And how very meta. He commanded every moment of my attention, while explaining how to keep people's attention. "Awesome" is completely justified here. I am richer for viewing this. Off to find more of this fellow.
See how this man by speaking, just made stand every single person there. That's the power of words.🔥
That speech is fascinating. Every once in a while, I drop by and remind myself of how important it is to speak.
Excellent talk. Thank you Julian!!
I was working at home and didn’t really pay much attention until he got make good use of changing his voices, tones and speed. And by then I was very much attentive to his talk and just finished listening the talk second time .
An amazing talk. Thank you for imparting this knowledge on us. I will mostly certainly work on employing it into my everyday speaking. If you forgot all these points covered in this video, I am sure performing those vocal exercises on the spot will surely get everyone's attention hahaha.
I’m very pleased to see almost 30 million views for this video. I feel like healthy communication is a dying art form.
Verbal and non-verbal communication play important roles in TED Talks. The speakers use their words carefully to convey their ideas in a clear, concise, and engaging manner. They also use tone of voice, body language, and gestures to enhance their message and to connect with their audience. Effective non-verbal communication in a TED Talk can help the speaker convey their passion and enthusiasm for their topic, making their talk more memorable and inspiring to the audience.
What an amazing speech!💕 Bravo!!! 👏
Greatly inspired to speak in a more decent, more accurate manner. Thank you all for preparing such nice videos for the community. Hope to see such cool contents in the near future.
This speech was actually so cool. To be more accurate, he spoke so well that we all wanted to listen.
"Understanding would be the norm" I love this and I live for this! It's so important to be present and always go into a conversation with the goal to understand as much as you can and if you can't -> accept.
Clear , Crisp and Concise ..... Kudos Julian
I love how the majority of comments are on how much we appreciated your talk on communication by you displaying it with how you communicated your TED talk.
Hello Ashley...
The human voice: It's the instrument we all play. It's the most powerful sound in the world, probably. It's the only one that can start a war or say "I love you." And yet many people have the experience that when they speak, people don't listen to them. And why is that? How can we speak powerfully to make change in the world? What I'd like to suggest, there are a number of habits that we need to move away from. I've assembled for your pleasure here seven deadly sins of speaking. I'm not pretending this is an exhaustive list, but these seven, I think, are pretty large habits that we can all fall into. First, gossip. Speaking ill of somebody who's not present. Not a nice habit, and we know perfectly well the person gossiping, five minutes later, will be gossiping about us. Second, judging. We know people who are like this in conversation, and it's very hard to listen to somebody if you know that you're being judged and found wanting at the same time. Third, negativity. You can fall into this. My mother, in the last years of her life, became very negative, and it's hard to listen. I remember one day, I said to her, "It's October 1 today," and she said, "I know, isn't it dreadful?" (Laughter) It's hard to listen when somebody's that negative. (Laughter) And another form of negativity, complaining. Well, this is the national art of the U.K. It's our national sport. We complain about the weather, sport, about politics, about everything, but actually, complaining is viral misery. It's not spreading sunshine and lightness in the world. Excuses. We've all met this guy. Maybe we've all been this guy. Some people have a blamethrower. They just pass it on to everybody else and don't take responsibility for their actions, and again, hard to listen to somebody who is being like that. Penultimate, the sixth of the seven, embroidery, exaggeration. It demeans our language, actually, sometimes. For example, if I see something that really is awesome, what do I call it? (Laughter) And then, of course, this exaggeration becomes lying, and we don't want to listen to people we know are lying to us. And finally, dogmatism. The confusion of facts with opinions. When those two things get conflated, you're listening into the wind. You know, somebody is bombarding you with their opinions as if they were true. It's difficult to listen to that. So here they are, seven deadly sins of speaking. These are things I think we need to avoid. But is there a positive way to think about this? Yes, there is. I'd like to suggest that there are four really powerful cornerstones, foundations, that we can stand on if we want our speech to be powerful and to make change in the world. Fortunately, these things spell a word. The word is "hail," and it has a great definition as well. I'm not talking about the stuff that falls from the sky and hits you on the head. I'm talking about this definition, to greet or acclaim enthusiastically, which is how I think our words will be received if we stand on these four things. So what do they stand for? See if you can guess. The H, honesty, of course, being true in what you say, being straight and clear. The A is authenticity, just being yourself. A friend of mine described it as standing in your own truth, which I think is a lovely way to put it. The I is integrity, being your word, actually doing what you say, and being somebody people can trust. And the L is love. I don't mean romantic love, but I do mean wishing people well, for two reasons. First of all, I think absolute honesty may not be what we want. I mean, my goodness, you look ugly this morning. Perhaps that's not necessary. Tempered with love, of course, honesty is a great thing. But also, if you're really wishing somebody well, it's very hard to judge them at the same time. I'm not even sure you can do those two things simultaneously. So hail. Also, now that's what you say, and it's like the old song, it is what you say, it's also the way that you say it. You have an amazing toolbox. This instrument is incredible, and yet this is a toolbox that very few people have ever opened. I'd like to have a little rummage in there with you now and just pull a few tools out that you might like to take away and play with, which will increase the power of your speaking. Register, for example. Now, falsetto register may not be very useful most of the time, but there's a register in between. I'm not going to get very technical about this for any of you who are voice coaches. You can locate your voice, however. So if I talk up here in my nose, you can hear the difference. If I go down here in my throat, which is where most of us speak from most of the time. But if you want weight, you need to go down here to the chest. You hear the difference? We vote for politicians with lower voices, it's true, because we associate depth with power and with authority. That's register. Then we have timbre. It's the way your voice feels. Again, the research shows that we prefer voices which are rich, smooth, warm, like hot chocolate. Well if that's not you, that's not the end of the world, because you can train. Go and get a voice coach. And there are amazing things you can do with breathing, with posture, and with exercises to improve the timbre of your voice. Then prosody. I love prosody. This is the sing-song, the meta-language that we use in order to impart meaning. It's root one for meaning in conversation. People who speak all on one note are really quite hard to listen to if they don't have any prosody at all. That's where the word "monotonic" comes from, or monotonous, monotone. Also, we have repetitive prosody now coming in, where every sentence ends as if it were a question when it's actually not a question, it's a statement? (Laughter) And if you repeat that one, it's actually restricting your ability to communicate through prosody, which I think is a shame, so let's try and break that habit. Pace. I can get very excited by saying something really quickly, or I can slow right down to emphasize, and at the end of that, of course, is our old friend silence. There's nothing wrong with a bit of silence in a talk, is there? We don't have to fill it with ums and ahs. It can be very powerful. Of course, pitch often goes along with pace to indicate arousal, but you can do it just with pitch. Where did you leave my keys? (Higher pitch) Where did you leave my keys? So, slightly different meaning in those two deliveries. And finally, volume. (Loud) I can get really excited by using volume. Sorry about that, if I startled anybody. Or, I can have you really pay attention by getting very quiet. Some people broadcast the whole time. Try not to do that. That's called sodcasting, (Laughter) Imposing your sound on people around you carelessly and inconsiderately. Not nice. Of course, where this all comes into play most of all is when you've got something really important to do. It might be standing on a stage like this and giving a talk to people. It might be proposing marriage, asking for a raise, a wedding speech. Whatever it is, if it's really important, you owe it to yourself to look at this toolbox and the engine that it's going to work on, and no engine works well without being warmed up. Warm up your voice. Actually, let me show you how to do that. Would you all like to stand up for a moment? I'm going to show you the six vocal warm-up exercises that I do before every talk I ever do. Any time you're going to talk to anybody important, do these. First, arms up, deep breath in, and sigh out, ahhhhh, like that. One more time. Ahhhh, very good. Now we're going to warm up our lips, and we're going to go Ba, Ba, Ba, Ba, Ba, Ba, Ba, Ba. Very good. And now, brrrrrrrrrr, just like when you were a kid. Brrrr. Now your lips should be coming alive. We're going to do the tongue next with exaggerated la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la. Beautiful. You're getting really good at this. And then, roll an R. Rrrrrrr. That's like champagne for the tongue. Finally, and if I can only do one, the pros call this the siren. It's really good. It starts with "we" and goes to "aw." The "we" is high, the "aw" is low. So you go, weeeaawww, weeeaawww. Fantastic. Give yourselves a round of applause. Take a seat, thank you. (Applause) Next time you speak, do those in advance. Now let me just put this in context to close. This is a serious point here. This is where we are now, right? We speak not very well to people who simply aren't listening in an environment that's all about noise and bad acoustics. I have talked about that on this stage in different phases. What would the world be like if we were speaking powerfully to people who were listening consciously in environments which were actually fit for purpose? Or to make that a bit larger, what would the world be like if we were creating sound consciously and consuming sound consciously and designing all our environments consciously for sound? That would be a world that does sound beautiful, and one where understanding would be the norm, and that is an idea worth spreading. Thank you. (Applause)
You’re a life saver
For those of us who can't stand to listen to his voice?
@Dana s HAHAHA broo
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@Younes L LOL
You don’t know how much I love and appreciate this video because I definitely wish the world was more lively so that way depression will decrease
The speaker's verbal communication were clear and easy to understand. He also show us how to make other people want to listen to us. Eventhough his non verbal communication is vague it is still understandable so I can say that he is a very good speaker.
I have never taken notes throughout an entire, first watch of a piece. I kept pausing and rewinding every couple moments to do so, it was honestly a fantastic speech.
Cam,Would you like to be my friend?
You‘re not the only one 🤓
To speak to people better, I must speak how they would want me to speak. To speak how they want me to speak, I must use positive words to enlighten them. Avoid using any negative words or people will avoid listening to me.
Sometimes we need silence. Sometimes we need to listen and process what is being said before responding. I just remembered someone nothing that it is important to have a moment of pause in responding during a conversation to allow proper thinking.
What a world we would live in if we stopped the gossiping, negative talk, judgement, and instead actually listened, showed compassion for others, and talked effectively and with purpose… there is still hope!
I was a speech & debate champion in HS & college (Harvard) and then a debate and speech coach at the HS and college levels for more than 30 years, as well as a founder of urban speech and debate. Everything Julian Treasure says here is exactly what high school speech teachers try to convey to their students each and every day; policy debaters try to persuade by facts and logic, whereas events like oratory involve rhetorical methods (some of which are mentioned in the talk) for persuasion. These essentially are known to us as LOGOS and ETHOS; the best speakers can not only control register, timbre, prosody, pace, silence, pitch and volume, but also can start a speech with a hook, an introduction, a topic sentence, 2-3 arguments, surrounded by rhetorical flourishes (three words starting with the same consonant is a famous one) a conclusion and a closing hook.
I'm lucky enough to have been teaching the last few years standardized tests, and getting across how to write, or how to speak, is a delight with young kids. They should all watch this You Tube!
I think there are contextual imperatives to this advice. Public spaces deserve this kind of etiquette. Private spaces require a lot more authenticity and openness, as well as listening and speaking SKILLS that we should be teaching from day 1.
I think we are also being asked to assume that wanting one's words to impact others and "change the world" is an unequivocal good. There are many things we want different that it takes us a while to realize that our desire was uninformed and we are grateful in the end to have been unsuccessful at getting what we want.
I usually don't watch full video on KZclip but I watch this whole video because of his skill
Excellent talk! It shared many useful and practical techniques that are bound to help anyone. The content of the message and the quality of the vocal delivery are exceedingly important, but they are not the only mechanisms by which one could entice people to listen. I've found that there is a hidden amplifying magnet in that tool box that could exact a considerable impact on how willing people would be to listen to what you have to say---especially, when addressing smaller audiences---and that is 'eye contact'. In an increasingly fast-paced and impatient world, it has become a serious challenge to grab and maintain people's attention long enough to communicate an idea. The short attention span could be greatly remedied using effective eye contact strategies. For example, I have tried to deliver the same talk to the same audience with and without effective eye contact and the difference between the two strategies has been quite dramatic. When you don't establish effective eye contact with your audience, you quickly lose them to the bouts of distraction and impatience.
You know everything is based in your own personality.
If you are a positive thinker you wouldn't think negative or compile about something that you don't have. Every word that the speaker express was the most beautiful facts that I have ever heard.
It is a true fact that the people who don't know how to speak and don't know which techniques they must use, will do all of those brilliant points.
I am gonna change my speaking techniques if people compile about them.
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This is for the first time I have been giving these much attention to a Ted speech. Loved it.... Effective also.... I will indeed try the warm up exercises. Thank You so much.
I hope people are able to be meaningful in their words. The things we say to others and even ourselves MATTER
We do not have to be perfect… but, honesty tempered with a little consideration for the other person. - Thanks! Great Ted Talk 👍🏾
Authenticity “standing in your own truth” awesome 👍Great Ted Talk. “HAIL” so simple and powerful, thank you
I love that quote: "Complaining is viral misery." Yes! It infects and debilitates the host (speaker) and the receiver alike. Absolutely amazing talk!
oof this hits close to home now with a real virus on our tails
@Олег Иванов I don't know. I haven't been able to stop it completely, but I feel that focusing on what we don't like just makes it bigger in our experience.
But sometimes you need to complain a little😄.
Thank you so so much! we got to learn a lot. Great session!
These vocal exercises coupled with standing so close are perfect for spreading COVID. Gosh it was nice back when we didn’t have to think about such things!
Incredible speech ❤
He is an awesome orator and made me enjoy the entire video. His voice is so rich and smooth. Just like a hot chocolate.
As we know that nowadays often when we talk to other people, the other person sometimes finds it difficult to be a good listener. In this video I learn some things or tips so that when we talk, the other person will listen well. and I got the snippet from the video which is If you wish someone well it's very hard to judge them at the same time.
Communication is about human connection. Being able to communicate effectively is one of the best life habits. Good listening is among the most important principles of great communication. It is common for most people to listen not with the intent of understanding, but with the intent of replying. Listening with the intent to understand is to fully understand that person intellectually and emotionally. You ensure that you understand by repeating back to them what they said and mirroring their emotions. By doing so, you help them structure their own thoughts and feelings. This type of listening can lead to truly open and trusting communication.
🌻7 deadly sins of speaking
gossip
judging
negativity
complaining
excuses
lying
dogmatism
🌻4 foundations to speak powerfully: HAIL
Honesty- be clear and straight
Authenticity- be yourself
Integrity- be your word
Love- wish them well
🌻Keys to increase the power of your speaking
Register: lower your voice, depth is associated with power and authority
Timbre: the way your voice feels
Prosody: impart meaning
Pace
Pitch
Volume
Warm up your voice
Böyle kaliteli TED konuşmalarını dinleyip uygulayan insanlarla dünya güzelleşecek vesselam🌿..
I really wish my teachers could taught me with clarity, conciseness anf fluidity of him. This guy is great
This kind of speech also stays in minds , as a listener I will remember this speech anytime I think of it
Truly a marvelous talk linking speech to values and understanding.
Our public speaking teacher taught us that to be able to conquer your fear of public speaking is to be (obviously) be confident, BUT for you to be confident you also have to totally KNOW WHAT YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT. Tried that, and personally that is sooo effective. 😉
It's also fun to have no clue what you're talking about and having to make up everything on the fly but still sound super smart
I am so thankful, Treasure and Ted gave this video to me and everyone . It is useful for me in many areas.
Excellent. Great tips and very well spoken.
in summary :
• avoid bad speaking habits :
gossip, judgment, negativity, complaints, excuses, exaggeration, ?
• use HAIL :
Honesty - being straight
Authenticity - be yourself
Integrity - be your word
Love - wish them well
• learn voice techniques, because they're powerful to share your ideas effectively with others
(do i have any mistakes)
My public speaking abilities have gone up since I started to focus on my pronunciation and talking improvement. The way you actually say things change how people perceive it.
It’s hard as we are told don’t judge don’t try and impress others . The world 🌍 is all about impressing others from American idol to impress your job interview to impress people . We have to get validation from others . The key 🔑 is to do it with confidence and love ❤️ 😊
I learned a while ago that most people don't really listen to what a person has to say. Speakers with either natural or trained voice dynamics can say complete bullcrap and people will swallow it. How things are said change the way the content is understood. Even if somebody says the most fascinating things in the world, but with a dull voice, he won't be listened by most. People assume that dull voice comes from a person who doesn't believe what he's saying, so any message is lost.
Do you know the song Cult of Personality?
For the average, yes. Though I've listened to many Noam Chomsky talks and found him quite interesting while others find him unbearable to listen to. Not everyone is influenced by obvious fluff and pretention of presence. Perhaps Trump is a good speaker, but if you listen to what he says you realize quickly that he's an idiot. He leaves no room for guessing. Yet, millions of Americans love him. Obama was a great orator, which lends itself to his popularity across the board, except those who will simply despise a Democrat for being one even if in practice he was right of center.
That basically explains hip hop 😂😭😭😭😭😭
@forgiveaspie not a bot and not sure how anything I mentioned was “disinformation”. Some of the topics you mentioned like deficit, our wars in other countries, etc do concern me and I don’t prescribe to any particular political party because of the corruption and double speak that occurs. I want what’s best for my family and the actual citizens of this country. If my opinions offend you, it’s your choice to be offended by what someone says. If that’s the case, then stop reading what I or others who see things similarly as I do.
Jimberry and the Couscous much appreciated. Take care.
it's fantastic not only that he exemplifies his points but how unobtrusively he does it. Great speech!
Very impressive im elated to understand and run into such a video from a man who articulates his words without any blunder
I’m an engineer working for a large Telecom company and my employer spend every years a substantial budget on softskill training including efficient communication. Honestly, in the beginning as a young engineer I found those mandatory courses very annoying. When I become a Sr. eng. I had to took leadership courses as well. I was more interested by technical training. I change company after 15 years of services, and I am chock the lack of communication skills in my new work environment coz my new employer doesn’t invest on his employees training. I get several compliments by my colleagues as they thought I am a natural leader...which is absolutely false. I learn a lot from courses and I see the benefits at my last job when everyone knows the basic of how to clearly communicate and how to make it efficient. In my last job, I use to present recommendations on a VIce President committee monthly . As a french person, I was taught by our corporate communication coach to do some lips exercices as English need to have a more relax mouth for the pronunciation. Lol.
Parabéns! Você fala muito bem.
"if you don't have anything to say, don't say anything at all" is my spinoff of "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" if you trust your own judgement and don't crave attention, people should listen. I hope someone sees this.
This is one of the best TED talks I have watched. Gleaned a lot of invaluable insights and techniques to polish my communication skills.
Thank you so much,
Mr. Julian Treasure for sharing the nuances of communication so beautifully.
These are awesome tips mate, can relate to everything!! Need to improve my communication skills.
I have watched this video for several times. I have learnt a lot from this. Thank you so much !
This guy here had a speaking which was truly inspirational!! He accomplished what he said in the title.