This is like the animation UP, where the old man finds, upon reading his dead wife’s diary, that she just loved being at home with him, and adventuring in the garden versus her ‘big life adventure’ plans she originally had when young.
No because it’s the way I just finished watching the movie 10 minutes ago with my parents and ended up sobbing the whole time after that specific line 💀
I just have to point out how FKN AMAZING Stephanie Hsu is. Everyone seems to be getting so much praise EXCEPT her (including with the lack of nominations for her). That scene where she starts singing “sucked into a bagel”… I get fkn CHILLS every time I see it. It’s comedic yet she is delivering a stone cold serious performance in that moment. Did anyone even notice the tear that falls from her lifeless face? She is delivering one of the most profound expressions of PAIN I have EVER seen in my life… all within a scene that is intended to have a comedic tone. She. Is. BRILLIANT.
I definitely feel that Jamie should have not accepted the award in support but, oh well. Guess that’s too much to ask this year lol. But I will say, Stephanie definitely portrayed a visual of depression and it was honestly so validating.
This! I just (finally) watched the movie 2 days ago and ever since, I’ve been randomly going around singing, _“… into a bagel”_ throughout the day. Her performance was Oscar worthy. 💛
As someone who grew up hearing that I was too soft and sensitive… waymond’s character really made me feel seen. It’s like they took my inner thoughts and put them in a character. I love this movie so much
Don't believe that is a bad thing, its a superpower trust me, you feel things more intensly and have a big compassionate heart which is the best thing human can use to move mountains and oceans, it's a gift just remember that
Same, Hey you might like MBTI 16 personality , There are people like waymond's character call " INFP ". Its really made me happy to see people who can kinda understand what i thinking...
if you’re going to do Evelyn and Joy mom/daughter therapy I highly recommend bringing on a female Asian guest to explain the distinction of Asian mom daughter dynamics
@T Kim thank you for explaining that so well for others. It’s 100% true. I am a first generation American (second gen immigrant) and my mother couldn’t understand my struggles whatsoever because when she was in her youth, she was a poor farm girl who started working at age 7 along with her 10 siblings. Finland has 6 months of winter so she was LITERALLY the parent who had to walk “10 miles in the snow to get to school every day”. So when I dealt with social issues in school, with depression, emotional neglect (by her)… of course she didn’t understand it because her upbringing was a struggle just to survive. Even with school curriculum matters, she was useless to help me because why am I having trouble learning Latin when she had to learn FIVE different languages in school (and is still fluent in them). Matters of gender inequality didn’t compute for my mom because Finland has long been a leader in equality and girls are treated the same as the boys there. It’s a COMPLETELY different world for us here in America so foreign mothers are ESPECIALLY hard on us daughters because we are supposed to turn out tough as nails… just like them.
@Bryll Botardo being raised by an immigrant mother in America is what matters. It’s not the same if you’re raised in another country. The father can be an immigrant too but the mother/daughter dynamic is the specific thing. The household can be an Asian household anywhere in the world.
I remember watching this for the first time with my Mom. I’ve suffered from chronic depression for over thirteen years and there have been days when I’m sunk into a pit of darkness like Jobu where I just want to be sucked into my own bagel for the pain to stop. Once we finished the movie, my mom teared up and told me that she’s always going to reach into the bagel and pull me out when I get there each time. And that meant so much to me.
I've thought about recommending this movie to my mom, but I don't think she could get through the strangeness to get to those lessons. (For context, she and my father watched Moulin Rouge only to the part where they were drinking absinthe.)
I watched this movie with my mother. In the first 20 minutes i saw only my mother on Evelyn, and i did so many jokes about it, but my mom was avoiding it. And when Joy asked to go to her mother, mine's said: she is going to say no. And then it hit me,(for real) my mother is Evelyn without the character improvement. The worst is, after all this, she still in the end of the movie try to hug me. Tough. I didn't wanted her being like "minha filha" - My daughter in portuguese. I wanted just my mom actually seeing me.
For some reason the rock scene had me tearing up the most. Possibly because it shows how there's only one thing that transcend the power of logic to achieve and reach for what we seek the most: love.
@takeru91 no one has noticed that the rocks images are mirrors of The Wanderer by Casper David Friedrich. Check it out, especially the history and the times.....Romanticism....William Blake..... Urizen! The Industrial Revolution .... not one film critics or comment but mine. I'm the 1st. It hit me between the eyes immediately I saw it the 1st time! Everything! Pity I don't like the taste and texture of bagels. I'm not a great bread person either. San Franciscan Sourdough occasionally, yes. A "Dagwood Sandwich" also. (that dares me!).
My mom and I watched this together in the cinema. We were holding hands and weeping for basically the last half of the movie. We both knew we had a tough time when I was a kid. We didn't have the ways to communicate it until we saw this together. This film healed us and I saw that we were both the daughter and both the mother. The fact that it's up for Oscars like it it is is effing amazing for women's relationships onscreen.
Everyone talks about the line "In another life I would have liked doing laundry and taxes with you", but as a daughter with a rocky relationship with her mother, the line of "I will always want to be here with you" just breaks my heart. BRB need tissues.
I like the laundry quote simply because it meant he would've gave up everything he has just to be with her even if the life is mediocre. Its really just another way to say "I will always want to be with you" but with the husband instead.
Crazy Rich Asians and Key Quan's resurgence in film are actually making me want to try acting again. As an Asian-American woman who had a talent agent for 3 years back when I was in college hoping to make it to support my family financially, the roles I auditioned for back then left me feeling bereft of hope. This movie makes me want to dream again.
If it’s your heart, do the next right step. One small step at a time…. This is a new day- a new time and era. It’s wonderful to see Asians - and persons of color--as the main characters-- so refreshing. So uplifting and inclusive. It represents ALL of us☺️🥰💕🌸
Also, as an Asian American (tho my mixed family definitely adopted plenty of “I love you”s) it was really gratifying and rewarding to me that in the whole resolution she never says “I love you”. A really great and nuanced representation, good screenwriting because it doesn’t feel too on the nose, but also it’s a really great demonstration that expressing love without saying “I love you” can be so valid and deep and meaningful, even moreso than saying it. Truth in general and great representation.
I took my parents with me to see this film with me so that they could have an understanding of what I was feeling in my struggle with mental health. I’ve never seen something that so accurately depicts something I couldn’t reconcile or describe. It gave me the words I couldn’t find. I’m so glad I brought them and turns out they were my Evelyn.
Alan saying "I cannot love things calmly I must love things ferociously" has to be one of the most poetic lines of natural dialogue I've heard in a while
I don't care how silly or dramatic it may sound: this is not just a movie. It's an experience. This film inspired me to call up an old friend I hadn't spoken to in years
The rock scene, unbelievably, is the part where the waterworks have started in my first watch in that movie. This has to be the first time Evelyn and Jobu/Joy can finally sit together and look each other in the eye without going down into miscommunication, unsaid words, and killing each other. Most especially when Rock Evelyn is trying to reach out for her daughter. God, no one will ever believe me if I told them that the saddest scene I ever watched in a film is the part where a pair of rocks discussed humanity's place in the world and how they have a heartfelt talk between mother and daughter.
This movie hit me hard, I was diagnosed in my 30s with adhd. Honestly I wish I could put it into words, but this film nails it so perfectly, it's hard for me to verbalise. I'd like to see an episode about that. Because women are under diagnosed and so many go through life not knowing why their minds are full of chaos. Plus it's genetic so a lot of undiagnosed women, have daughters with adhd. This movie felt like it was about mothers and daughters who both share a weird, wonderful, chaotic universe, but can't stop disappointing themselves and clashing with each other. Seriously that ending, it made me want to show this film to my Mum but I worry it will break her heart to watch it. It's profoundly resonant.
I'm seriously surprised it wasn't even addressed here. For my favorite KZclip therapist to miss such an incredible mental health discussion opportunity is disappointing
so so crazy. I watched this for the first time with my mum and brother bc I figured they'd like it esp since my mum is from hong kong (this movie is full of all three languages she's fluent in!) and I didn't realise quite how much the characters would reflect our relationship. my mum is from hong kong as I said, her grandparents lived there and so I hardly ever saw them and they didn't speak any english so there was that language barrier. I am THE queer child and my mum is actually very supportive, more supportive than eveline I think haha, but she's not bothering with telling our family in hong kong bc she thinks it'll just be too messy (not important to me though. idm). and ALSO I am like fully convinced that my mum has adhd and I'm mostly(?) convinced that it was passed down to me. like they are literally us. it's crazy. also made it kinda awkward to watch together tbh bc we do not really talk to each other about our feelings :') I am generally much more positive than joy btw. don't worry about that haha also I just realised this was kinda random to throw down as a reply to this comment but I've been thinking about me and my mum's (maybe) adhd and I'm afab so if I've got adhd, it'd be more in line with the kinda afab adhd since I was raised that way yk
@Snuzzled Well, shit. This is a whole new perspective for me, which I'm going to have to simmer in my brain for a while. Not 100% the same, but it's pretty damn close. Thanks for this.
I would love to see them tackle it too. It's kind of an interesting result of the initial lockdowns from the pandemic, that thousands of middle-aged women both realized they had undiagnosed ADHD and finally got diagnosed. Some was the stress that pushed symptoms to the forefront, some was being with their kids with diagnosed ADHD all day and really seeing the similarities, but a lot of it was that all the structures that were holding us together were just gone. So many of us were using the forced schedule of society to just kinda get by, with many of us feeling like failures because it's so hard. But once they were gone, a lot of women both fell apart, but also had the time and space to say "Wait...this can't be right. What is this?" and look it up. It's stunning that generations of women have been missed because we weren't disruptive as kids. It makes me so grateful for Gen Z and the internet. Because mental illness topics are just normal things for them to talk about, they've kinda brought us all along with them.
I really dont think Evelyn is narcisist because she wants, I think she's a woman ADHD undiagnosed, as a ADHD person I can assure that's how my brain works, the feeling of falling in every scenario of my life and yet can't give my family and boyfriend the support and attention they deserve because my brain its everywhere all at once its just how I see that Evelyn feels, this is a masterpiece of a movie and I got so really connected to this character, damn, my favorite ever
I saw it in a similar way, not as a direct relation to the society, not about nihilism or about internet effect as some described, I simply saw it as the fight of Evelyn spirit, all dimensions are simply her mental voices, her regrets, her hopes, her idealization about her or her husband, the vision of her daughter represented by almost an enemy because in real life this relation is a real big problem and she feels like she is out of control, it is a fight of idea vs emotions... a big metaphor of the inside of our brain fighting with too much idea and emotion. That is the way I saw it and I really respect any other interpretation about that movie, this is the beauty about cinema, every person can have his own interpretation and it is ok, getting the good one is not important as long as you have a good time watching the movie.
@HDsharp Maybe when you finally drop out of your head & into your heart, you will finally FEEL this movie, & it'll hit you like a ton of bricks. Good luck on your emotional (not mental) journey.
@Andi Moz I would like to think that when someone comes onto a video of a movie they didn't like and asks these questions, they are trying to get that connection and resolution that you experienced. Its not malicious. It didn't resonate with them. That's not thier fault or the movies fault or your fault. Let's try to take a page out of the movie and be kind. Just a little.
@HDsharp why are you here then if you clearly didnt like the movie? i will never understand people like you like why waste your time watching a video on a movie you dont like when you could instead watch a video about something you do like? like just let people enjoy things, it has clearly resonated with lots of people for various reasons. and the whole “it’s not original” argument is stupid as shit. like yeah nothing is original bc everything has already been done, there are just different variations and spins on what’s been done, that’s what makes things fun and interesting to watch
I wish I hadn't heard much about it before watching it. It spoiled all the suprises. I think that's what ruined it for me. It happened once before when they mention the best parts.
@HDsharp for me it was seeing myself in joy and seeing my parents in evelyn. ive never been able to connect with movies because their stories were often not about asian americans or even queer asian americans or hell even neurodivergent asian americans. it moved me with its philosophy (ive been struggling and teetering on the edge of nihilism at that point of time) and the theatre experience i had was truly unique and made me love the film even more. i think looking to find a connection in a movie u dont care for isnt helpful personally, but i hope this perspective helps you figure out what the hubbub is about.
If you do a villain therapy on Dierdre, please please address that the disgust the audience feels about the hot dog world mirrors the disgust Evelyn feels about homosexuality and learns to change her mind about. It was very impactful to me and I think many people don't understand the importance of the hot dog fingers and how they relate to Evelyn's experience of homophobia. I haven't seen a single other film that gets the audience to relate to that state of mind in such a subtle and accurate way
I think it’s also a great callback to the first “tell Deirdre you love her, and mean it” joke from earlier. Because there is a world in which that makes total sense, and while it’s played for absurdity in the moment, it foreshadows how the thing that ultimately solves this mess is love and acceptance and compassion.
Good point!! The hot dog fingers is a good analogy for homophobia - people are like ewww, gross and how could they live like that. It seems like an odd parody joke but then they find the beauty in the relationships in hot dog world anyhow.
I tried to explain this movie to someone and came out with something that sounded like 'It's a sci-fi, multi -verse, Martial arts film, that was intensely emotional, while exploring relationships. And was completely, absurdly funny, but made me cry.'
Regarding the famous hot dog fingers, I think its meant to convey how really anything can exist within infinite multiverses AND I also think the film is trying not to take itself seriously and to give us a break in the form of humor. Humor and silliness are very underrated in our world, at the current time we live in. But I believe they are also needed to survive and to not let the weight of the other stuff completely swallow us whole. They give us a chance to continue riding the rollercoaster of life. This movie has forever changed me. Because it shifted the inner most core of my existence. I matter, my loved ones matter, and the love we share between us, because why not? If everything is chaos, then choose kindness and love. Thank you for this video!
Throughout the movie the fighting style she is using is called Wing Chun. It is a completely defensive fighting style based on using your opponents momentum against themselves as a defense instead of offensively hiring them. It is a very nice subtle wink at the entire point he makes at the end of the film! 😁
I related way to hard to the struggles of Joy. The spiraling well of nihilism and depression and the problems with her mother hit me too hard. When Joy said “But I’m tired. I don’t wanna hurt anymore and for some reason with I’m with you it just hurts the both of us.” That hit me so deep because I’ve felt that exact feeling before. I don’t feel attached to anything anymore and the one thing that has kept me going in times of facing death was the little things, breathing air, watching the clouds move, listening to rain and seeing leaves blow in the wind. That’s what kept me going. One of the messages of the movie is that nothing matters so you get to decide what matters to you in your life and that really shifted my jaded perspective. This will definitely be one of my go-to moves to lift me up.
Literally yes. Everything you say is accurate. Jobu Tupaki felt like a living manifestation of all of my dark thoughts. When you have noone to turn to and have to figure out a way to save yourself, it's painful. You experience enough shit in life and it leaves you desensitized to most things. That's what I've become. I used to be deeply feeling and nowadays no amount of happy or sad news really fazes me anymore.
you described all of it perfectly. i actually developed a love for photography because of those little moments, a reminder that there is so much to appreciate when things get bad if you will :)
Those little things you realized were there is actually "living in the present moment", and it's one of the main motives in this movie.. it is inspired on Chinese philosophy and spirituality and that's why it hits so deep. It has a lot of important messages that you can see if you pay enough attention
My son insisted on taking me to see this at the movies when it first came out. He is 19 and has such great instincts. Philosophy undergrad. I'm an intuitive reader (Akashic Records) so this is so everything, multi-layered, everywhere, energetically, too. It's a must-watch. Thank you, Daniels! And thank you Jamie-Lee Curtis for showing us Deirdre Beaubeirdre.
It's amazing how at the start of the movie Evelyn is literally "joyless" in her life and in the end she regains "JOY" back in her life. What a masterpiece.
This movie made me cry deeply for much of its runtime. I remember a time, drunkenly hanging off my friend, I argued with a coworker that nothing matters but the connections we make and the people we leave behind. We are nothing but the ties that bind us. We leave nothing behind that means anything but the impact we had on the people we love. If we aren't kind, if we don't build community, we have nothing and all is lost. My childhood was taken from me by parents with a deep desire to prove themselves to their own parents and in turn, they abused me heavily. I only didn't take my own life because of the kindness of others, because of the kindness of librarians and teachers, because of the parents of friends that would feed me when I was hungry or scared to go home. It took me a long time to be able to share that kindness instead of internalizing the hate and giving up on the world. Hate and anger kept me going until it nearly killed me. I wish I could've been kinder sooner.
Thank you for sharing this. I'm not a parent, but I do have a 20+ yr old library technician diploma but never managed to find a job in my field. Saying something like this kind of makes me want to try to find a job again.
We watched this at a family gathering yesterday, I find it funny how my cousins and I were completely blown away by this movie and pretty sure would've been in tears if we weren't surrounded by people, and then all of our parents and the older generation were like "that was a really stupid movie, I didn't like it a single bit". If that doesn't shout generational walls, I don't know what does lol
Can we please acknowledge that Michelle Yeoh and Ke Huy Quan are showing such incredible range as actors *while* fluently switching between THREE LANGUAGES? This is my favorite movie of all time.
When I first watched this, I immediately picked up the Cantonese which really warmed my heart. But only when you mentioned it, I now recognise there is mandarin too! My ears aren't deceiving me - they do indeed occasionally make sounds I don't recognise, now I know why! 😂
@Walden Waymond speak mandarin but he is from USA, GongGong is probably looking down on him because he is poor instead of where he came from. The scene where Evelyn and Waymond met is in Hong Kong, the right hand driver seat of the red taxi indicates it’s a Hong Kong Taxi.
Here's one thing about Mandarin and Cantonese you guys might not know. Gong Gong speaks Cantonese so he is likely from Hong Kong, while Waymond speaks Mandarin so he is from Mainland China. Back in those days, Hong Kong people tend to look down on Mainlanders so perhaps that is why Gong Gong does not approve of her relationship with Waymond. He sees Waymond as a loser type not fit for his precious daughter.
Gong Gong: English Cantonese Evelyn: English Mandarin Cantonese Waymond: English Mandarin PS: Michelle speaks Malaysian too as that is where she is from.
@Khue Also many regions in china have their own distinct regional dialect. When my mom talks to her mom and my relatives on her side she switches between mando and their town's dialect.
Absolutely dominated the oscars!!! And not just them, their studio, A24! A24 swept all major categories when you include "The Whale" with Brendan Fraser
As an over thinker with severe anxiety and existential dread and burnout, I relate so much to joy. My mind never sleeps. I feel like I’m constantly existing everywhere at all times and wearing myself thin. The little things matter so much to me
I love the chronology of Jobu asking Evelyn to walk with her to her suicide, and it feels so meaningful and sad, and then CEO Waymond and Regular Waymond talk about how important it is to be kind. And when it switches back to Jobu and the Bagel, you realize how empty it is. IDK, its hard to put into words.
If you watch Ke's recent interviews, it's not that there weren't roles for him; Hollywood didn't want him, and the way you describe it almost does a disservice to his experiences because he tried so hard to find something. It's so great to see him have a resurgence.
There's a line during the kind fight where the guy says "I can't do it alone." And Evelyn responds with "well then it's a good thing you're not alone." That moment instantly brought me from ear to ear grinning at this wonderful movie to sobbing.
I would also love to see a video talking about the healthy non-toxic masculinity that Waymond portrays! He’s the heart of the story and it’s such a breath of fresh air!
There's a great in-depth discussion from Pop Culture Detective that explores Waymond in-depth, such as how Alpha-Waymond was necessary in the moment, but it's the 'normal' Waymond that actually affects the most change when Evelin finally sees his optimism as a strength rather than weakness.
I was hoping the rock scene would be covered more thoroughly. It was the most amazing scene in the movie for me, and experiencing the utter silence in the theatre while it was playing deepened the impact of it. Please cover it in a future video!
Movie couples therapy, mother daughter therapy, any episode PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE!! This movie still makes me cry like a baby and is my favorite movie of all time. I would enjoy any content you put out of it, seriously
I cried while watching this video. I hate crying but I will watch this movie and videos about this movie for ever, and I’ll probably cry every single time.
Watched this movie with my girlfriend, at it was the first time I'd been absolutely destroyed by something during a date, so that was a fun experience. Waymond's whole Everything just deeply spoke to me and hit me really hard, and really made me understand the kind of person I want to be. Plus, the line "In another life, I would have been happy just doing laundry and taxes with you" was just, laser targeted.
Agreed. I watched this with my girlfriend too, and we spent the next three hours afterwards crying. Honestly, I feel like this is the perfect movie for when you want to get to know your partner better
I watched this movie for the first time on my birthday and I think it was exactly what I needed. My dad died a month after my birthday and I always feel really depressed when it comes around-- I had nothing to do with his death, but I can't shake the feeling that it's my fault he died. Like, if I wasn't born, my mom wouldn't have suffered that loss. So Joy's character and dialogue really really spoke to me and... I don't know, I don't want to get too sentimental. I know it'll probably always be hard to not associate my birthday with my grief. But I feel like watching EEAAO on my birthday was a good step towards healing. That's honestly a priceless gift. Movies are absolutely unique in the ways they can communicate and impact lives
I totally agree that it feels like we’ve been robbed of Ke Huy Quan’s potential acting work for decades. But to Alpha Waymond’s point, every setback, rejection, and disappointment has led to this moment in time where we have this masterclass of a performance in a masterpiece of a film. Would this film even be what it is without Quan having endured what he did? EEAAO can be so meta when viewed through various lenses like this. I can’t wait to see what these phenomenal actors do next. Also, love these takes on the film 👍🏼 I shed tears all over again with each reaction video I watch.
When Ke Huy Quan was finally ready to give acting another shot. He called up his agent and in just 2 weeks, this role of Waymond was offer to him. The stars were align my friends. He was meant to play it.
This is so insightful and well put. It took KHQ 30 years to realize the character of Waymond and boy was it worth the wait. His performance was a revelation.
I'm pretty sure the movie title 'Everything Everywhere All At Once' is supposed to describe what we feel while watching the movie... I watched it alone at home and, when it ended, I just looked into the wall and thought: "What the hell am I feeling right now?!"... such an amazing movie
I just finally watched this, and it instantly became my new favorite movie. It has everything, from the poignant thoughts on what our purpose is here, the most laugh-out-loud moments I've ever experienced (that rock scene and Raccacoonie broke me), and insanely awesome fight scenes with choreography on the level of a John Wick film. And the level of acting on display was incredible, everyone especially Stephanie Hsu did an amazing job.. To be able to switch between the alternate universe personas so seamlessly is really a credit to their acting skill.
Right after I saw the movie I thought about you guys, and I'm so happy that you made this video. I will watch every single thing you do about it, and I have a request. As a person with ADHD I screamed when Waymond said "you are capable of anything because you are bad at everything", and I had to pause and do a little research. I found out that one of the directors decided to research ADHD when they were writing the movie, and he started to suspect he had ADHD. He later got diagnosed and his life improved a lot. I think this movie could really help a lot of people like me, and honestly everyone who wants to know what it's like to have ADHD. I would LOVE to hear what's your take on this. please please please please
The Line: “I'm here to tell you every rejection, every disappointment, has led you here to this moment. Don't let anything distract you from it!” This was weirdly motivating
Something you didn’t mention (maybe didn’t know!) is that the flipside of the nihilism coin present in this movie is Zen Buddhism-which is also a philosophy that says nothing matters, but focuses on, instead of existentialism, the present moment and how beautiful and wonderful each insignificant thing is. Appreciating things for what they are instead of what they can be, taking that time to stay grounded in the present because that’s all there is. Most importantly for this movie, one of the meditative practices of Zen Buddhist monks is a calligraphy practice called ensō, which is drawing a circle to exist in creation and that tactility without needing a particular visual product at the end, or aiming for any level of perfection. A black circle, much like the Everything Bagel.
Also, the Zen aesthetic of the rock scene. Literally EMPTY SPACE of a ZEN ROCK GARDEN for a breather between all the relentless chaos. & allowing time for contemplation.
@A Birdsong From what I understand, Daoism predates Buddhism in China, but Daoism in China and Buddhism in India were created at around a roughly similar time around the 500s BC.
Daoism predates and is similar to Buddhism. To me, less is more so Daoism fits me better. There are good reading recommendations in other comments. Also check out The Dao de Ching (AKA Tao te Ching) Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance Kalhil Gibran's "The Prophet" Sri Aurobindo's philosophy of "Integral Yoga" and if memory serves, Goethe had some interesting ideas that fit with Daoism & Buddhism as did Carl Jung. Enjoy your journey!
I love this movie and I love this episode of Cinema Therapy so much! I was crying and laughing so hard through this whole episode, like it was with the original movie. Different versions of Alan and Jono, just the way this whole episode is made, EVERYTHING... is brilliant ❤❤❤😂👏👏👏
"I cannot love things calmly. I must love things ferociously" is super profound. And the concept of being kind because we don't know what is going on would have been helpful through the Pandemic, and will be helpful moving forward.
This is one movie you MUST watch several times. Due to its complexity, you will find something new and beautiful to slay or uplift you each time. These young men directors, The Daniel’s crafted this masterpiece for 6 years. I’m so thankful that they did not give up on the vision and created something new and powerful!⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️👀
Can we please talk about Joy and her depression??? I felt so validated when I saw this movie because that is exactly how it feels when I go through depressive cycles. And it doesn't end with "Everything's happy and joyful", it ends with "you do all these things that bother me, but I love you and want to try."
@Jess E yeah I was susprised that wasn't talked about openly here, out of all the reactions I've seen. They do touch on it but don't explicitly talk about depression and suicide.
Yes and the bagel is a really good representation of it. She put everything onto the bagel but nothing means anything to her because she is so hurt and she is craving acceptance and love by her mother so she searches her through all the universes only to make her go into the bagel with her to let go of this pain finally and be together. She is a hurt child that wanted to be with her mother and in the end her mother finally accepted her and showed her love unconditonally (the rocks falling over the cliff). It was so heart-breaking
@mangoes this! i also want to comment about how her mental health is greatly attributed to family pressures and rejection (more specifically from her mom). when she mentions putting everything on a bagel and then it collapsing, i viewed it as her talking about herself failing to meet the expectations placed on her. she’s not nihilistic “just to be”, she’s nihilistic and depressed because of the warped relationship with her mom, the one person your taught that will accept you no matter what. and you’re so right about the irony in her name, props to the creative team!
@Jess E that's exactly how I interpreted Joy's character. I saw so much of how I felt in her, and this was the first movie that made me feel like my feelings were interpreted perfectly. But yes, I have yet to see anyone analyze her depression, everyone is so quick to say, "she's a nihilist," and she is, but she is also so obviously struggling with depression. It's so ironic too because her name is literally JOY.
This channel of all reviewers I thought would especially touch on depression and s******… I immediately saw walking into the bagel as that, and a parent struggling with their child considering it… I’ve yet to see reviewers analyze it as that
I watched this movie for the first time yesterday & it was amazing. The character of Waymond reminded me a lot of myself. When he pleads "Please! Please, can just stop fighting?" I couldn't help but tear up, because I've felt like he feels in that scene so many times. I look around at the world & see people being so nasty to eachother over things that really don't matter. So much war, arguments, anger, hate, destruction & for what? This is really such a powerful moment for me in such a powerful movie
Waymond was who I most identified with. All the Waymonds. Because no matter what iteration of myself is being shown, I am always striving to be kind. I told myself when I was a teen and trying to figure my mess out that if I did anything at all, I will always leave the world better than I came into it. Every day I have a goal to make somebody’s day a little better.
To answer your question, yes PLEASE do more on this movie. But more importantly, I feel like this saved and solidified my relationship with my boyfriend. He has the same outlook on life and it used to annoy me to the point that I was wondering if our relationship was going to last. You see, we are getting to the point of I guess "pre-engagement" and are having to look at these things more seriously. This movie allowed me to see him in a whole new light. His optimism, faith, and joy are not things of a naive, dim-witted country boy (I am very much a product of the suburbs, whereas his hometown literally has one traffic light). His outlook and attitude are his armor, and that armor is probably stronger than most. I may still not understand this about him, but I absolutely love that he is like this. And, as someone who is basically Evelyn, I am so glad I found him.
What kills me is that Waymond loves her in EVERY universe (besides the noodle finger one ONLY bc he’s not in it)😩💖💖💖💖💖 that kind of love will get tears out of me everytime
Everyone's just trying to survive. Kindness in this movie is courageous and loud, and I want to choose that for my life. It's not a bold choice in American culture, where everyone's fighting to shout louder, but this movie reframed my mindset on gentleness and kindness "This is how I fight"
It reminds me of one of the most impressive quotes I ever came across and it is from a fanfiction. "always be kind, sometimes kindness is all we can give and sometimes kindness is enough" Spoken by a child in a hostile world that kills them again and again to someone who had killed them many times already and still, in every reset, they approche him with kindness yet again. It is heartbreaking, it is soulshattering and it inspires such bravery. Flowerfell, an undertale au for those who are interested.
I finally watched this movie and it is now also one of my favourite movies of all time! After a few years of getting bored by cinema (which sounds inconcievable to me since I'm a HUGE movie addict...), this has made me fall in love with movies again! 💖💖💖🎬🍿💖💖💖
This is an amazing film and I appreciate so much your insights into some of the relationships in this multi-verse story. Not to mention the actual stories of the actors themselves: Ke Huy Quan's journey from a child actor to Oscar winner, Michelle Yeoh's and Jamie Lee Curtis' story lines of being incredibly hard-working actors and "older" women, and now Oscar winners. This movie is tied with "Wings of Desire" as my favourite of all time. And this particular episode will go into my KZclip 'library', so I can come back to it.
The line, "Be kind. Especially when we don't know what's going on." Feels like it came out of March 2020 and punched me in the face for like three weeks after watching this movie. I have so many feelings about Waymon, but he's amazing and that's the most important takeaway.
That scene about kindness is also now my favorite movie scene. I could never articulate my motivations to those who just assumed me naive. I do it because it’s exactly that: necessary. I see the suffering here. It suffocates me. It’s immense. It makes me so endlessly furious. It makes me hopeless. And the only thing that makes it bearable is forcing myself to look for the good. That isn’t always easy - finding the good; sometimes it’s hard to find the will to even try. But if I didn’t search for it, I could not endure, well, here. I am not wealthy financially, but I have abundance everywhere else from simply living moment to moment. I don’t carry the worries so many do. I feel satisfied. I feel rich. And there is no sum for which I would trade that contentment.
I'm not sure I've ever cried as hard from a movie as I did during Waymond's speech(s). It is the most perfect positive masculinity I have ever seen across media. More than just the first time this movie and the many moments across it still bring up emotions on repeat watches.
Growing up in Taiwan, being told that you are getting fat from your mom or relatives, meaning that they care about you and your health. It resonates so much as an Asian kid, feeling like your mom criticises your figure and not being supportive, it is heartbreaking. 😢
Midway through the film (when Joy fights random security guards and reveals that she's a villain), my fiance turned around to me and jokingly said "this is what I imagine your brain looks like", and when the credits rolled I admitted, "yeah, an exploration of ADHD, nihilism, depression, and anxiety." I was actually stunned to find out that Evelyn was initially written to have undiagnosed adult ADHD - the attention shifts, the feeling of being pulled apart, overwhelmed, the mourning of underachieved potential until... something matters all of a sudden. It's beautiful.
I have seen this and was moved, but I want to see it a few more times. However, in not having seen your entire playlist, I was excited to hear 3:10 to Yuma as a favorite. It is in my top 5, for sure, but when I mention it, most people say they haven’t seen it. I love it!
The two of you have put my feelings about this movie into words more eloquently than I’m able to. It spoke to me on a level no other film has ever achieved and it feels very encouraging and heartwarming to not be alone in this sentiment. I loved your video and I’m excited to see more from the two of you!
I saw this episode before I saw the movie because I wasn't sure I wanted to watch it. It's now in my top 10 movies of all time. Also the editing here is genius beyond measure.
This movie... and "The Whale" movie, both have an underlying message about recognizing who we really are and how we should be perceived and accepted by those around us.
Love this film ferociously too! It's so good. I love that the first time I saw it I thought of leaving during the onslaught of the first hour or so- but it was all of that that made the meaning kick in. All my aversion transformed to openness. I saw it in the theater again two days later, & cried through most of what I had previously had such a hard time taking in. Beauty, gratitude, cracking open. So glad they have received such acclaim. I hope the message of kindness reaches everyone. We need it. Also- this is my first time on this channel, & you two are incredibly special, insightful, & present. Thank you❤
I loved the fact that the director wanted the protagonist to have undiagnosed ADHD and in the process of researching he realized that he also might have undiagnosed ADHD
@Queen Elderberry same! Like, I was able to follow it so well, and it was so much to take in so fast, and keep up with all at once, but like also just the right amount as to not be overwhelming. And even still after the movie I needed like a week to process it all because it was so much. It's definitely a favorite
Autistic and ADD here. I can relate to some things shown in the movie (though not all due to the other unique things I experience from being autistic). I'm hoping representation like this is able to pave the way for both autistic and ADHD representation in media, even if it is not always obvious for everyone. Subtly in itself can be a lot of fun to pick up on in stories for me.
@Melissa Gola Evelyn shows all the signs: inattentiveness, distractibility, daydreaming, intense and highly varied interests, difficulty with task completion, emotional disregulation, utter dread of boring things (laundry and taxes), etc. Even the title of the movie is pure ADHD. Evelyn being the “worst” of infinite versions of herself perfectly captures the common ADHD struggle of having high potential and chronic underachievement. Also, early on, Deirdre accuses her of not paying attention, and Evelyn masks and denies it (a typical coping mechanism). By the end, she finds some self acceptance. Deirdre says, “Did you hear me?” And Evelyn responds (in the final line of the movie), “Sorry, what did you say?”
If you've every dealt with crippling depression and hopelessness, there are quite a few scenes in this film that cut to the bone. Someone involved in making this film understands that feeling all too well.
I'm amazed with the face expression delivered by Evelyn, the husband and the daughter, in fact by just watching random clips of this movie almost bring me to tears is a testament to how powerful those lines and face expression were....
Shoutout to both of your wives/production crew! I love this show and after re-watching your twilight saga, I realized how far you all have come in your show editing/production quality. The content is amazing as always! I learn lots from both of you and truly appreciate this channel.
I remember binge watching your reviews because I'm finding ways to cope with my anxiety and I have skipped most of my consultations due to my work schedule. When you uploaded this, I actually skipped this because I want to watch the movie first then see your review. I watched EEAAO because of you guys and I felt that it was the movie I was longing for. Or maybe I was really longing for my own family reconciliation. Now I'm rewatching this, I realized how I became kinder to my father (a similar personality to Evelyn) despite my resentment to him. It was pride and expectations that separated us but "none of those matters".
YES PLEASEEE DO A COUPLES THERAPY ON THE HUSBAND AND WIFE. Their dynamic so interesting and true to real life, they reminded me of my own parents on many ways. But also the end scene with Joy and Evelyn because I had hard years with my mom and they have a conversation I wish we were able to have had during that time. 😢
I've never seen a movie that captures the kind of existential depression I've often struggled with, and the effect of being overwhelmed by information and stimulus constantly in the internet age. Not to mention the brilliance of the cinematography and the effects and the editing. And, of course, the acting. And Waymond is my hero. A perfect model of gentle masculinity. (Also, I *live* for that whole Wong Kar Wai sequence. So beautiful.)
I feel you, I been going through that since I was 3. This movie has hit so many things for me. I wish it was there for one of my worst cycles of depression, but I'm glad it's here today.
Not only was the title card downright epic, but the quick animation at 4:54 was- I mean such a tiny touch-but such a Fantastic detail. Editing team went hard this video. Loving it so far
If you do do a deep dive into the dynamic to be between mother and daughter I think that you should include an Asian therapist because a lot of these elements mirror experiences that are salient among Asian parents and Asian children and that would be interesting but both topics would be equally as interesting.
It is a whole universe unto itself, this movie. You both did a wonderful job bringing the salient features to the fore. After I saw it again on the weekend I realized the depth and details so much more as well as felt the emotion so much more.
If Ke Huy Quan doesn’t get some kind of nomination, then something is badly wrong. The man has range, he’s the heart of this movie with Michelle Yeoh and it’s a goofy heart felt masterpiece that will bring every kind of tear out of you and make feel happier for watching it.
It’s wonderful that they all got nominated for Oscars: Michelle for Best Actress, Ke for Best Supporting Actor, Jamie and Stephanie for Best Supporting Actress. Eleven nominations, damn.
@Blade 7Y I absolutely agree. They were all fantastic but I was extremely surprised at just how good Ke Huy Quan and Stephanie Hsu were. I was totally and unexpectedly blown away by them.
@OdeToVenus You're only saying "especially Ke Huy Quan and Stephanie Hsu" because it was more surprising, but Michelle Yeoh is just as good. If the Oscars had any sense, Best actress would go to Michelle Yeoh, best supporting actress to Stephanie Hsu (with Jamie Lee Curtis also nominated) and Ke Huy Quand would either win Best actor or best supporting actor.
Wonderful episode. EEAAO...just remarkable storytelling imbued this film at every level. And the chemistry of the ensemble is astounding. It needs to win everything.
A week or so after my first exposure to this film, I'm still trying to wrap my everything around all the stuff it kicked up. I need at least 2 more viewings to absorb how much was going on. Former film student, sorta writer, sorta performer, across-the-boards "needs improvement" kid... It's astonishing how much these filmmakers took on, and how astonishing their universe is.
This was so good. I love this movie so much. I have seen it 4 times -- only once in the theatre. And I get more out of it every time I see it. You two said it all.
19:50 the rock scene, of just them and the speech bubbles, had me sobbing. Like, covering my mouth to not to ruin the moment for everyone else in the theater. It’s such a ridiculous concept and silent scene but it just broke me.
@Moldiworp Actually, Michelle Yeoh insisted that it be done with no spoken dialogue (apparently the Daniels had recorded voiceover dialogue for that scene and were trying decide whether to use it or not).
That one was hard too, so many amazing scenes, but I relate to that one so much. I thought it would be heaven to just be able to see everything in the universe as a disembodied mind. Getting to just be a rock would be pretty relaxing and nice!
YOU ARE MY PEOPLE! I love this movie so much! "Drinking from a firehose" nails it. There were so many heartbreaking moments in this movie, and so many laughs. I can't get enough of it. If you do any more videos about it, I'm there. I know I'm finding this five months after the fact (and it won a butt ton of Oscars yaaay), so gotta check if you did more. I want to see them.
This film made me cry when I saw it! And I don't often cry at films - especially if I'm watching with other people! And it's so silly at the same time! So good and I will be recommending it forever
I finally saw this movie, so I could finally watch this episode. The movie really is everything, so was your breakdown, I would love to see more. And a special shout out to the editing this episode, that was such good fun!
The line" In another life I would have liked to do laundry and taxes with you"broke me in a new way I've never felt before.
This is like the animation UP, where the old man finds, upon reading his dead wife’s diary, that she just loved being at home with him, and adventuring in the garden versus her ‘big life adventure’ plans she originally had when young.
@Ollin Flores i didn't cry but I felt it
That line made me start crying and the rest of the movie made me keep crying
Actually, there's a bit of mistranslation there. He actually said "I would CHOOSE to do laundry and taxes with you". Powerful
No because it’s the way I just finished watching the movie 10 minutes ago with my parents and ended up sobbing the whole time after that specific line 💀
I just have to point out how FKN AMAZING Stephanie Hsu is. Everyone seems to be getting so much praise EXCEPT her (including with the lack of nominations for her). That scene where she starts singing “sucked into a bagel”… I get fkn CHILLS every time I see it. It’s comedic yet she is delivering a stone cold serious performance in that moment. Did anyone even notice the tear that falls from her lifeless face? She is delivering one of the most profound expressions of PAIN I have EVER seen in my life… all within a scene that is intended to have a comedic tone.
She. Is. BRILLIANT.
I really hope she gets more opportunities. I try look at it as a glass half full thing, getting a nominee at a young age is a good start for her
she was absolutely amazing - everyone in this film was! It would not have worked with lesser actors at all.
I wish that she and Jamie Lee Curtis could have both won the Oscar.
I definitely feel that Jamie should have not accepted the award in support but, oh well. Guess that’s too much to ask this year lol. But I will say, Stephanie definitely portrayed a visual of depression and it was honestly so validating.
This! I just (finally) watched the movie 2 days ago and ever since, I’ve been randomly going around singing, _“… into a bagel”_ throughout the day. Her performance was Oscar worthy. 💛
As someone who grew up hearing that I was too soft and sensitive… waymond’s character really made me feel seen. It’s like they took my inner thoughts and put them in a character. I love this movie so much
Compassion and love are never weak.
I feel you on every level
Don't believe that is a bad thing, its a superpower trust me, you feel things more intensly and have a big compassionate heart which is the best thing human can use to move mountains and oceans, it's a gift just remember that
Same, Hey you might like MBTI 16 personality , There are people like waymond's character call " INFP ". Its really made me happy to see people who can kinda understand what i thinking...
if you’re going to do Evelyn and Joy mom/daughter therapy I highly recommend bringing on a female Asian guest to explain the distinction of Asian mom daughter dynamics
@Lalala
@T Kim thank you for explaining that so well for others. It’s 100% true. I am a first generation American (second gen immigrant) and my mother couldn’t understand my struggles whatsoever because when she was in her youth, she was a poor farm girl who started working at age 7 along with her 10 siblings. Finland has 6 months of winter so she was LITERALLY the parent who had to walk “10 miles in the snow to get to school every day”. So when I dealt with social issues in school, with depression, emotional neglect (by her)… of course she didn’t understand it because her upbringing was a struggle just to survive. Even with school curriculum matters, she was useless to help me because why am I having trouble learning Latin when she had to learn FIVE different languages in school (and is still fluent in them). Matters of gender inequality didn’t compute for my mom because Finland has long been a leader in equality and girls are treated the same as the boys there. It’s a COMPLETELY different world for us here in America so foreign mothers are ESPECIALLY hard on us daughters because we are supposed to turn out tough as nails… just like them.
@Lyanna Winter aww thanks for sharing that! I appreciate your supportive comments and I’m happy to see others relate
Kitchen gods wife....
@Bryll Botardo being raised by an immigrant mother in America is what matters. It’s not the same if you’re raised in another country. The father can be an immigrant too but the mother/daughter dynamic is the specific thing. The household can be an Asian household anywhere in the world.
I remember watching this for the first time with my Mom. I’ve suffered from chronic depression for over thirteen years and there have been days when I’m sunk into a pit of darkness like Jobu where I just want to be sucked into my own bagel for the pain to stop.
Once we finished the movie, my mom teared up and told me that she’s always going to reach into the bagel and pull me out when I get there each time.
And that meant so much to me.
That made me very emotional. Thank you and I'm glad you had this moment. All the best
@XRG it is.
I've thought about recommending this movie to my mom, but I don't think she could get through the strangeness to get to those lessons.
(For context, she and my father watched Moulin Rouge only to the part where they were drinking absinthe.)
I watched this movie with my mother.
In the first 20 minutes i saw only my mother on Evelyn, and i did so many jokes about it, but my mom was avoiding it.
And when Joy asked to go to her mother, mine's said: she is going to say no.
And then it hit me,(for real) my mother is Evelyn without the character improvement.
The worst is, after all this, she still in the end of the movie try to hug me. Tough. I didn't wanted her being like "minha filha" - My daughter in portuguese. I wanted just my mom actually seeing me.
oh wow that got me 😭😭😭😭😭 thank you for sharing this wow LMAO
I CRIED so hard at the rock scene where she rolls after her daughter. Then I laughed and cried again. It felt so good
I never would’ve guessed I would shed a tear over a rock with googly eyes going off a cliff.
@Cinema Therapy All at once.
For some reason the rock scene had me tearing up the most. Possibly because it shows how there's only one thing that transcend the power of logic to achieve and reach for what we seek the most: love.
Haha yes! I only noticed that on the second watch though. So much to take in!
That is the appropriate reaction. All the emotions!!
The fact that just watching random clips of this movie can STILL bring me to tears is a testament to how powerful it is.
@takeru91 no one has noticed that the rocks images are mirrors of The Wanderer by Casper David Friedrich. Check it out, especially the history and the times.....Romanticism....William Blake..... Urizen! The Industrial Revolution .... not one film critics or comment but mine. I'm the 1st. It hit me between the eyes immediately I saw it the 1st time! Everything! Pity I don't like the taste and texture of bagels. I'm not a great bread person either. San Franciscan Sourdough occasionally, yes. A "Dagwood Sandwich" also. (that dares me!).
That little bit when they're about to hug and it cuts to the two planets colliding 🥺
Joy saying "I'm tired" near the end always gets me, because it's a sentiment I've been feeling a lot these past couple of months
Lol omg I was about to say this. Started crying all over again!
Word, dude.
My mom and I watched this together in the cinema. We were holding hands and weeping for basically the last half of the movie. We both knew we had a tough time when I was a kid. We didn't have the ways to communicate it until we saw this together. This film healed us and I saw that we were both the daughter and both the mother.
The fact that it's up for Oscars like it it is is effing amazing for women's relationships onscreen.
I’ll share this movie with my daughter when she gets older a bit… It tells so much that I can’t express.
Oh my goodness I love this for you both. 🙏
Oh my goodness I love this for you both. 🙏
Everyone talks about the line "In another life I would have liked doing laundry and taxes with you", but as a daughter with a rocky relationship with her mother, the line of "I will always want to be here with you" just breaks my heart. BRB need tissues.
I like the laundry quote simply because it meant he would've gave up everything he has just to be with her even if the life is mediocre. Its really just another way to say "I will always want to be with you" but with the husband instead.
I cried during her whole speech. Never have I watched a movie that related so hard to my relationship with my mother
Same!!!! It’s like The Runaway Bunny. No matter how far you run, I will never give up on you, cos I’m your mother and I will always love you.
Hah, "rocky"
I see what you did there
same...
Crazy Rich Asians and Key Quan's resurgence in film are actually making me want to try acting again. As an Asian-American woman who had a talent agent for 3 years back when I was in college hoping to make it to support my family financially, the roles I auditioned for back then left me feeling bereft of hope. This movie makes me want to dream again.
If it’s your heart, do the next right step. One small step at a time….
This is a new day- a new time and era.
It’s wonderful to see Asians - and persons of color--as the main characters-- so refreshing. So uplifting and inclusive. It represents ALL of us☺️🥰💕🌸
PLEASE!!! WE NEED MORE ASIAN AMERICAN REP ON SCREEN!!
I wanna see you in a movie one day!!!
Yes please do!
Also, as an Asian American (tho my mixed family definitely adopted plenty of “I love you”s) it was really gratifying and rewarding to me that in the whole resolution she never says “I love you”. A really great and nuanced representation, good screenwriting because it doesn’t feel too on the nose, but also it’s a really great demonstration that expressing love without saying “I love you” can be so valid and deep and meaningful, even moreso than saying it. Truth in general and great representation.
I took my parents with me to see this film with me so that they could have an understanding of what I was feeling in my struggle with mental health. I’ve never seen something that so accurately depicts something I couldn’t reconcile or describe. It gave me the words I couldn’t find. I’m so glad I brought them and turns out they were my Evelyn.
That's really beautiful. I'm so glad they went!
@Matt fair HAHA
Alan saying "I cannot love things calmly I must love things ferociously" has to be one of the most poetic lines of natural dialogue I've heard in a while
Reminds me of like kids, or people on the spectrum, that get overly excited when passionate; something very pure about that.
And incredibly relatable. I've been told way to many times "keep your voice down" by different people. XD
definitely stealing this in a convo since I live by that exact same principle-🤩
us neurodivergent folks
Right? Good for Alan! Don't lower your love frequency for anyone!
I don't care how silly or dramatic it may sound: this is not just a movie. It's an experience.
This film inspired me to call up an old friend I hadn't spoken to in years
The rock scene, unbelievably, is the part where the waterworks have started in my first watch in that movie. This has to be the first time Evelyn and Jobu/Joy can finally sit together and look each other in the eye without going down into miscommunication, unsaid words, and killing each other. Most especially when Rock Evelyn is trying to reach out for her daughter. God, no one will ever believe me if I told them that the saddest scene I ever watched in a film is the part where a pair of rocks discussed humanity's place in the world and how they have a heartfelt talk between mother and daughter.
I was not ready for the rocks ;-;
This movie hit me hard, I was diagnosed in my 30s with adhd. Honestly I wish I could put it into words, but this film nails it so perfectly, it's hard for me to verbalise.
I'd like to see an episode about that.
Because women are under diagnosed and so many go through life not knowing why their minds are full of chaos. Plus it's genetic so a lot of undiagnosed women, have daughters with adhd. This movie felt like it was about mothers and daughters who both share a weird, wonderful, chaotic universe, but can't stop disappointing themselves and clashing with each other.
Seriously that ending, it made me want to show this film to my Mum but I worry it will break her heart to watch it. It's profoundly resonant.
I'm seriously surprised it wasn't even addressed here. For my favorite KZclip therapist to miss such an incredible mental health discussion opportunity is disappointing
so so crazy. I watched this for the first time with my mum and brother bc I figured they'd like it esp since my mum is from hong kong (this movie is full of all three languages she's fluent in!) and I didn't realise quite how much the characters would reflect our relationship. my mum is from hong kong as I said, her grandparents lived there and so I hardly ever saw them and they didn't speak any english so there was that language barrier. I am THE queer child and my mum is actually very supportive, more supportive than eveline I think haha, but she's not bothering with telling our family in hong kong bc she thinks it'll just be too messy (not important to me though. idm). and ALSO I am like fully convinced that my mum has adhd and I'm mostly(?) convinced that it was passed down to me. like they are literally us. it's crazy. also made it kinda awkward to watch together tbh bc we do not really talk to each other about our feelings :')
I am generally much more positive than joy btw. don't worry about that haha
also I just realised this was kinda random to throw down as a reply to this comment but I've been thinking about me and my mum's (maybe) adhd and I'm afab so if I've got adhd, it'd be more in line with the kinda afab adhd since I was raised that way yk
@Snuzzled Well, shit. This is a whole new perspective for me, which I'm going to have to simmer in my brain for a while. Not 100% the same, but it's pretty damn close. Thanks for this.
I would love to see them tackle it too.
It's kind of an interesting result of the initial lockdowns from the pandemic, that thousands of middle-aged women both realized they had undiagnosed ADHD and finally got diagnosed. Some was the stress that pushed symptoms to the forefront, some was being with their kids with diagnosed ADHD all day and really seeing the similarities, but a lot of it was that all the structures that were holding us together were just gone.
So many of us were using the forced schedule of society to just kinda get by, with many of us feeling like failures because it's so hard. But once they were gone, a lot of women both fell apart, but also had the time and space to say "Wait...this can't be right. What is this?" and look it up.
It's stunning that generations of women have been missed because we weren't disruptive as kids. It makes me so grateful for Gen Z and the internet. Because mental illness topics are just normal things for them to talk about, they've kinda brought us all along with them.
This movie actually changed my life, I used to be such a pessimistic person. But that line "I'm not optimistic because I'm naive" really hit me.
I really dont think Evelyn is narcisist because she wants, I think she's a woman ADHD undiagnosed, as a ADHD person I can assure that's how my brain works, the feeling of falling in every scenario of my life and yet can't give my family and boyfriend the support and attention they deserve because my brain its everywhere all at once its just how I see that Evelyn feels, this is a masterpiece of a movie and I got so really connected to this character, damn, my favorite ever
Yup and the Daniels confirmed in an interview with Salon that she is ADHD-coded
I saw it in a similar way, not as a direct relation to the society, not about nihilism or about internet effect as some described, I simply saw it as the fight of Evelyn spirit, all dimensions are simply her mental voices, her regrets, her hopes, her idealization about her or her husband, the vision of her daughter represented by almost an enemy because in real life this relation is a real big problem and she feels like she is out of control, it is a fight of idea vs emotions... a big metaphor of the inside of our brain fighting with too much idea and emotion. That is the way I saw it and I really respect any other interpretation about that movie, this is the beauty about cinema, every person can have his own interpretation and it is ok, getting the good one is not important as long as you have a good time watching the movie.
my favourite line of the whole film is "I am no longer willing to do to my daughter what you did to me. How did you let me go so easily?"
@HDsharp Maybe when you finally drop out of your head & into your heart, you will finally FEEL this movie, & it'll hit you like a ton of bricks. Good luck on your emotional (not mental) journey.
@Andi Moz I would like to think that when someone comes onto a video of a movie they didn't like and asks these questions, they are trying to get that connection and resolution that you experienced. Its not malicious. It didn't resonate with them. That's not thier fault or the movies fault or your fault. Let's try to take a page out of the movie and be kind. Just a little.
@HDsharp why are you here then if you clearly didnt like the movie? i will never understand people like you like why waste your time watching a video on a movie you dont like when you could instead watch a video about something you do like? like just let people enjoy things, it has clearly resonated with lots of people for various reasons. and the whole “it’s not original” argument is stupid as shit. like yeah nothing is original bc everything has already been done, there are just different variations and spins on what’s been done, that’s what makes things fun and interesting to watch
I wish I hadn't heard much about it before watching it. It spoiled all the suprises. I think that's what ruined it for me. It happened once before when they mention the best parts.
@HDsharp for me it was seeing myself in joy and seeing my parents in evelyn. ive never been able to connect with movies because their stories were often not about asian americans or even queer asian americans or hell even neurodivergent asian americans. it moved me with its philosophy (ive been struggling and teetering on the edge of nihilism at that point of time) and the theatre experience i had was truly unique and made me love the film even more. i think looking to find a connection in a movie u dont care for isnt helpful personally, but i hope this perspective helps you figure out what the hubbub is about.
If you do a villain therapy on Dierdre, please please address that the disgust the audience feels about the hot dog world mirrors the disgust Evelyn feels about homosexuality and learns to change her mind about. It was very impactful to me and I think many people don't understand the importance of the hot dog fingers and how they relate to Evelyn's experience of homophobia. I haven't seen a single other film that gets the audience to relate to that state of mind in such a subtle and accurate way
@madgirlmuahaha well put!
OMG lol I didn't think about it like that
Wow! Thank you for your insight and comment.
I think it’s also a great callback to the first “tell Deirdre you love her, and mean it” joke from earlier. Because there is a world in which that makes total sense, and while it’s played for absurdity in the moment, it foreshadows how the thing that ultimately solves this mess is love and acceptance and compassion.
Good point!! The hot dog fingers is a good analogy for homophobia - people are like ewww, gross and how could they live like that. It seems like an odd parody joke but then they find the beauty in the relationships in hot dog world anyhow.
To me, the Bagel represented Joy's depression and how she wanted to sink into it and never come out. I know that's a real fear when I go dark.
Then the line “there is always something to love” hits…
I viewed the bagel as suicide, and a mother trying to save her daughter's life.
I tried to explain this movie to someone and came out with something that sounded like 'It's a sci-fi, multi -verse, Martial arts film, that was intensely emotional, while exploring relationships. And was completely, absurdly funny, but made me cry.'
Yes
Regarding the famous hot dog fingers, I think its meant to convey how really anything can exist within infinite multiverses AND I also think the film is trying not to take itself seriously and to give us a break in the form of humor. Humor and silliness are very underrated in our world, at the current time we live in. But I believe they are also needed to survive and to not let the weight of the other stuff completely swallow us whole. They give us a chance to continue riding the rollercoaster of life.
This movie has forever changed me. Because it shifted the inner most core of my existence. I matter, my loved ones matter, and the love we share between us, because why not? If everything is chaos, then choose kindness and love. Thank you for this video!
Throughout the movie the fighting style she is using is called Wing Chun. It is a completely defensive fighting style based on using your opponents momentum against themselves as a defense instead of offensively hiring them. It is a very nice subtle wink at the entire point he makes at the end of the film! 😁
Bruce Lee was a student of this style, until he developed his own.
I related way to hard to the struggles of Joy. The spiraling well of nihilism and depression and the problems with her mother hit me too hard. When Joy said “But I’m tired. I don’t wanna hurt anymore and for some reason with I’m with you it just hurts the both of us.” That hit me so deep because I’ve felt that exact feeling before. I don’t feel attached to anything anymore and the one thing that has kept me going in times of facing death was the little things, breathing air, watching the clouds move, listening to rain and seeing leaves blow in the wind. That’s what kept me going. One of the messages of the movie is that nothing matters so you get to decide what matters to you in your life and that really shifted my jaded perspective. This will definitely be one of my go-to moves to lift me up.
You're not alone, I felt the same way.
Literally yes. Everything you say is accurate. Jobu Tupaki felt like a living manifestation of all of my dark thoughts. When you have noone to turn to and have to figure out a way to save yourself, it's painful. You experience enough shit in life and it leaves you desensitized to most things. That's what I've become. I used to be deeply feeling and nowadays no amount of happy or sad news really fazes me anymore.
This is why I love "Soul" as well, just wanna watch the falling of leaves
you described all of it perfectly. i actually developed a love for photography because of those little moments, a reminder that there is so much to appreciate when things get bad if you will :)
Those little things you realized were there is actually "living in the present moment", and it's one of the main motives in this movie.. it is inspired on Chinese philosophy and spirituality and that's why it hits so deep. It has a lot of important messages that you can see if you pay enough attention
My son insisted on taking me to see this at the movies when it first came out. He is 19 and has such great instincts. Philosophy undergrad. I'm an intuitive reader (Akashic Records) so this is so everything, multi-layered, everywhere, energetically, too. It's a must-watch. Thank you, Daniels! And thank you Jamie-Lee Curtis for showing us Deirdre Beaubeirdre.
It's amazing how at the start of the movie Evelyn is literally "joyless" in her life and in the end she regains "JOY" back in her life. What a masterpiece.
I cried like hell in the theater and I cried again watching this video.
This movie is too much for my little heart ❤️
Same!
This movie made me cry deeply for much of its runtime. I remember a time, drunkenly hanging off my friend, I argued with a coworker that nothing matters but the connections we make and the people we leave behind. We are nothing but the ties that bind us. We leave nothing behind that means anything but the impact we had on the people we love. If we aren't kind, if we don't build community, we have nothing and all is lost. My childhood was taken from me by parents with a deep desire to prove themselves to their own parents and in turn, they abused me heavily. I only didn't take my own life because of the kindness of others, because of the kindness of librarians and teachers, because of the parents of friends that would feed me when I was hungry or scared to go home. It took me a long time to be able to share that kindness instead of internalizing the hate and giving up on the world. Hate and anger kept me going until it nearly killed me. I wish I could've been kinder sooner.
Thank you for sharing this.
I'm not a parent, but I do have a 20+ yr old library technician diploma but never managed to find a job in my field. Saying something like this kind of makes me want to try to find a job again.
Same 😢😢😢
We watched this at a family gathering yesterday, I find it funny how my cousins and I were completely blown away by this movie and pretty sure would've been in tears if we weren't surrounded by people, and then all of our parents and the older generation were like "that was a really stupid movie, I didn't like it a single bit". If that doesn't shout generational walls, I don't know what does lol
Can we please acknowledge that Michelle Yeoh and Ke Huy Quan are showing such incredible range as actors *while* fluently switching between THREE LANGUAGES?
This is my favorite movie of all time.
When I first watched this, I immediately picked up the Cantonese which really warmed my heart. But only when you mentioned it, I now recognise there is mandarin too! My ears aren't deceiving me - they do indeed occasionally make sounds I don't recognise, now I know why! 😂
@Walden Waymond speak mandarin but he is from USA, GongGong is probably looking down on him because he is poor instead of where he came from.
The scene where Evelyn and Waymond met is in Hong Kong, the right hand driver seat of the red taxi indicates it’s a Hong Kong Taxi.
Here's one thing about Mandarin and Cantonese you guys might not know. Gong Gong speaks Cantonese so he is likely from Hong Kong, while Waymond speaks Mandarin so he is from Mainland China. Back in those days, Hong Kong people tend to look down on Mainlanders so perhaps that is why Gong Gong does not approve of her relationship with Waymond. He sees Waymond as a loser type not fit for his precious daughter.
Gong Gong: English Cantonese
Evelyn: English Mandarin Cantonese
Waymond: English Mandarin
PS: Michelle speaks Malaysian too as that is where she is from.
@Khue Also many regions in china have their own distinct regional dialect. When my mom talks to her mom and my relatives on her side she switches between mando and their town's dialect.
Absolutely dominated the oscars!!! And not just them, their studio, A24! A24 swept all major categories when you include "The Whale" with Brendan Fraser
@Cinema Therapy Do y'all plan on a reaction of The Whale?
We're so happy about it!!
As an over thinker with severe anxiety and existential dread and burnout, I relate so much to joy. My mind never sleeps. I feel like I’m constantly existing everywhere at all times and wearing myself thin. The little things matter so much to me
I love the chronology of Jobu asking Evelyn to walk with her to her suicide, and it feels so meaningful and sad, and then CEO Waymond and Regular Waymond talk about how important it is to be kind. And when it switches back to Jobu and the Bagel, you realize how empty it is. IDK, its hard to put into words.
If you watch Ke's recent interviews, it's not that there weren't roles for him; Hollywood didn't want him, and the way you describe it almost does a disservice to his experiences because he tried so hard to find something. It's so great to see him have a resurgence.
There's a line during the kind fight where the guy says "I can't do it alone." And Evelyn responds with "well then it's a good thing you're not alone." That moment instantly brought me from ear to ear grinning at this wonderful movie to sobbing.
I would also love to see a video talking about the healthy non-toxic masculinity that Waymond portrays! He’s the heart of the story and it’s such a breath of fresh air!
Everybody loves Waymond.
@Yorkshire Dubs Can concur that this one is great
@Alex Jackson Alpha Waymond was a means to an end
>Implying most movies portray toxic masculinitiy.....
There's a great in-depth discussion from Pop Culture Detective that explores Waymond in-depth, such as how Alpha-Waymond was necessary in the moment, but it's the 'normal' Waymond that actually affects the most change when Evelin finally sees his optimism as a strength rather than weakness.
I was hoping the rock scene would be covered more thoroughly. It was the most amazing scene in the movie for me, and experiencing the utter silence in the theatre while it was playing deepened the impact of it. Please cover it in a future video!
I would LOVE to see another 50 episodes about this film :) And a mother - daughter therapy would be AMAZING!!
Movie couples therapy, mother daughter therapy, any episode PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE!! This movie still makes me cry like a baby and is my favorite movie of all time. I would enjoy any content you put out of it, seriously
I cried while watching this video. I hate crying but I will watch this movie and videos about this movie for ever, and I’ll probably cry every single time.
Watched this movie with my girlfriend, at it was the first time I'd been absolutely destroyed by something during a date, so that was a fun experience. Waymond's whole Everything just deeply spoke to me and hit me really hard, and really made me understand the kind of person I want to be. Plus, the line "In another life, I would have been happy just doing laundry and taxes with you" was just, laser targeted.
Agreed. I watched this with my girlfriend too, and we spent the next three hours afterwards crying. Honestly, I feel like this is the perfect movie for when you want to get to know your partner better
I watched this movie for the first time on my birthday and I think it was exactly what I needed. My dad died a month after my birthday and I always feel really depressed when it comes around-- I had nothing to do with his death, but I can't shake the feeling that it's my fault he died. Like, if I wasn't born, my mom wouldn't have suffered that loss. So Joy's character and dialogue really really spoke to me and... I don't know, I don't want to get too sentimental. I know it'll probably always be hard to not associate my birthday with my grief. But I feel like watching EEAAO on my birthday was a good step towards healing. That's honestly a priceless gift. Movies are absolutely unique in the ways they can communicate and impact lives
I totally agree that it feels like we’ve been robbed of Ke Huy Quan’s potential acting work for decades. But to Alpha Waymond’s point, every setback, rejection, and disappointment has led to this moment in time where we have this masterclass of a performance in a masterpiece of a film. Would this film even be what it is without Quan having endured what he did? EEAAO can be so meta when viewed through various lenses like this. I can’t wait to see what these phenomenal actors do next. Also, love these takes on the film 👍🏼 I shed tears all over again with each reaction video I watch.
When Ke Huy Quan was finally ready to give acting another shot. He called up his agent and in just 2 weeks, this role of Waymond was offer to him. The stars were align my friends. He was meant to play it.
quite amazing what you just wrote.
This is so insightful and well put. It took KHQ 30 years to realize the character of Waymond and boy was it worth the wait. His performance was a revelation.
I'm pretty sure the movie title 'Everything Everywhere All At Once' is supposed to describe what we feel while watching the movie... I watched it alone at home and, when it ended, I just looked into the wall and thought: "What the hell am I feeling right now?!"... such an amazing movie
I just finally watched this, and it instantly became my new favorite movie. It has everything, from the poignant thoughts on what our purpose is here, the most laugh-out-loud moments I've ever experienced (that rock scene and Raccacoonie broke me), and insanely awesome fight scenes with choreography on the level of a John Wick film. And the level of acting on display was incredible, everyone especially Stephanie Hsu did an amazing job.. To be able to switch between the alternate universe personas so seamlessly is really a credit to their acting skill.
Right after I saw the movie I thought about you guys, and I'm so happy that you made this video. I will watch every single thing you do about it, and I have a request. As a person with ADHD I screamed when Waymond said "you are capable of anything because you are bad at everything", and I had to pause and do a little research. I found out that one of the directors decided to research ADHD when they were writing the movie, and he started to suspect he had ADHD. He later got diagnosed and his life improved a lot. I think this movie could really help a lot of people like me, and honestly everyone who wants to know what it's like to have ADHD. I would LOVE to hear what's your take on this. please please please please
When Joy said being with Evelyn “just hurts the both of us” really made me cry (again)… I know how it feels so bad
The Line: “I'm here to tell you every rejection, every disappointment, has led you here to this moment. Don't let anything distract you from it!”
This was weirdly motivating
Something you didn’t mention (maybe didn’t know!) is that the flipside of the nihilism coin present in this movie is Zen Buddhism-which is also a philosophy that says nothing matters, but focuses on, instead of existentialism, the present moment and how beautiful and wonderful each insignificant thing is. Appreciating things for what they are instead of what they can be, taking that time to stay grounded in the present because that’s all there is.
Most importantly for this movie, one of the meditative practices of Zen Buddhist monks is a calligraphy practice called ensō, which is drawing a circle to exist in creation and that tactility without needing a particular visual product at the end, or aiming for any level of perfection. A black circle, much like the Everything Bagel.
Also, the Zen aesthetic of the rock scene. Literally EMPTY SPACE of a ZEN ROCK GARDEN for a breather between all the relentless chaos. & allowing time for contemplation.
Thanks for this comment. I've been thinking the same.
@A Birdsong From what I understand, Daoism predates Buddhism in China, but Daoism in China and Buddhism in India were created at around a roughly similar time around the 500s BC.
Daoism predates and is similar to Buddhism. To me, less is more so Daoism fits me better.
There are good reading recommendations in other comments. Also check out
The Dao de Ching (AKA Tao te Ching)
Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance
Kalhil Gibran's "The Prophet"
Sri Aurobindo's philosophy of "Integral Yoga"
and if memory serves, Goethe had some interesting ideas that fit with Daoism & Buddhism as did Carl Jung.
Enjoy your journey!
I love this movie and I love this episode of Cinema Therapy so much! I was crying and laughing so hard through this whole episode, like it was with the original movie. Different versions of Alan and Jono, just the way this whole episode is made, EVERYTHING... is brilliant ❤❤❤😂👏👏👏
The main cast as a whole was just stellar. Each of them brought 110% to this movie. And the supporting cast brought it all as well.
Waymond is the kind of person that makes other people want to be better people. He is absolutely priceless.
"I cannot love things calmly. I must love things ferociously" is super profound. And the concept of being kind because we don't know what is going on would have been helpful through the Pandemic, and will be helpful moving forward.
This is one movie you MUST watch several times. Due to its complexity, you will find something new and beautiful to slay or uplift you each time. These young men directors, The Daniel’s crafted this masterpiece for 6 years. I’m so thankful that they did not give up on the vision and created something new and powerful!⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️👀
Can we please talk about Joy and her depression??? I felt so validated when I saw this movie because that is exactly how it feels when I go through depressive cycles. And it doesn't end with "Everything's happy and joyful", it ends with "you do all these things that bother me, but I love you and want to try."
@Jess E yeah I was susprised that wasn't talked about openly here, out of all the reactions I've seen. They do touch on it but don't explicitly talk about depression and suicide.
Yes and the bagel is a really good representation of it. She put everything onto the bagel but nothing means anything to her because she is so hurt and she is craving acceptance and love by her mother so she searches her through all the universes only to make her go into the bagel with her to let go of this pain finally and be together. She is a hurt child that wanted to be with her mother and in the end her mother finally accepted her and showed her love unconditonally (the rocks falling over the cliff). It was so heart-breaking
@mangoes this! i also want to comment about how her mental health is greatly attributed to family pressures and rejection (more specifically from her mom). when she mentions putting everything on a bagel and then it collapsing, i viewed it as her talking about herself failing to meet the expectations placed on her. she’s not nihilistic “just to be”, she’s nihilistic and depressed because of the warped relationship with her mom, the one person your taught that will accept you no matter what. and you’re so right about the irony in her name, props to the creative team!
@Jess E that's exactly how I interpreted Joy's character. I saw so much of how I felt in her, and this was the first movie that made me feel like my feelings were interpreted perfectly. But yes, I have yet to see anyone analyze her depression, everyone is so quick to say, "she's a nihilist," and she is, but she is also so obviously struggling with depression. It's so ironic too because her name is literally JOY.
This channel of all reviewers I thought would especially touch on depression and s******… I immediately saw walking into the bagel as that, and a parent struggling with their child considering it… I’ve yet to see reviewers analyze it as that
I feel like I've bawled my eyes out continuously while watching this movie. 😅 It's so powerful and so complex!
This movie is powerful! I can definitely relate to it. They deserve all the Oscars!
I watched this movie for the first time yesterday & it was amazing. The character of Waymond reminded me a lot of myself. When he pleads "Please! Please, can just stop fighting?" I couldn't help but tear up, because I've felt like he feels in that scene so many times. I look around at the world & see people being so nasty to eachother over things that really don't matter. So much war, arguments, anger, hate, destruction & for what? This is really such a powerful moment for me in such a powerful movie
Waymond was who I most identified with. All the Waymonds. Because no matter what iteration of myself is being shown, I am always striving to be kind. I told myself when I was a teen and trying to figure my mess out that if I did anything at all, I will always leave the world better than I came into it. Every day I have a goal to make somebody’s day a little better.
"Please, be kind. Especially when we don't know what's going on"
To answer your question, yes PLEASE do more on this movie.
But more importantly, I feel like this saved and solidified my relationship with my boyfriend. He has the same outlook on life and it used to annoy me to the point that I was wondering if our relationship was going to last. You see, we are getting to the point of I guess "pre-engagement" and are having to look at these things more seriously. This movie allowed me to see him in a whole new light. His optimism, faith, and joy are not things of a naive, dim-witted country boy (I am very much a product of the suburbs, whereas his hometown literally has one traffic light). His outlook and attitude are his armor, and that armor is probably stronger than most. I may still not understand this about him, but I absolutely love that he is like this. And, as someone who is basically Evelyn, I am so glad I found him.
What kills me is that Waymond loves her in EVERY universe (besides the noodle finger one ONLY bc he’s not in it)😩💖💖💖💖💖 that kind of love will get tears out of me everytime
Everyone's just trying to survive. Kindness in this movie is courageous and loud, and I want to choose that for my life. It's not a bold choice in American culture, where everyone's fighting to shout louder, but this movie reframed my mindset on gentleness and kindness
"This is how I fight"
@Genghis Can! - LOL! Yeah - that one might backfire at some point! 👻
@EH and oh so often gets confused with niceness
It reminds me of one of the most impressive quotes I ever came across and it is from a fanfiction. "always be kind, sometimes kindness is all we can give and sometimes kindness is enough"
Spoken by a child in a hostile world that kills them again and again to someone who had killed them many times already and still, in every reset, they approche him with kindness yet again. It is heartbreaking, it is soulshattering and it inspires such bravery.
Flowerfell, an undertale au for those who are interested.
👍🏻 I’m general, kindness is so under rated
@P W hey, I kinda do the same thing, except replace "do something special" with "scare"
I finally watched this movie and it is now also one of my favourite movies of all time! After a few years of getting bored by cinema (which sounds inconcievable to me since I'm a HUGE movie addict...), this has made me fall in love with movies again! 💖💖💖🎬🍿💖💖💖
Seriously the whole cast were just outstanding in this movie. It’s like a perfect storm of creativity
"if nothing we do matters, then the only thing that matters is what we do"
OH MY GOD
It's quite a liberating concept, isn't it?
This is an amazing film and I appreciate so much your insights into some of the relationships in this multi-verse story. Not to mention the actual stories of the actors themselves: Ke Huy Quan's journey from a child actor to Oscar winner, Michelle Yeoh's and Jamie Lee Curtis' story lines of being incredibly hard-working actors and "older" women, and now Oscar winners. This movie is tied with "Wings of Desire" as my favourite of all time. And this particular episode will go into my KZclip 'library', so I can come back to it.
I loved this film so much! I saw it on a flight with no idea what to expect and... let's just say the dry air got to me several times.
The line, "Be kind. Especially when we don't know what's going on." Feels like it came out of March 2020 and punched me in the face for like three weeks after watching this movie. I have so many feelings about Waymon, but he's amazing and that's the most important takeaway.
rofl also I adore how Jono has to add "and 15 minutes" every time.
That scene about kindness is also now my favorite movie scene. I could never articulate my motivations to those who just assumed me naive. I do it because it’s exactly that: necessary. I see the suffering here. It suffocates me. It’s immense. It makes me so endlessly furious. It makes me hopeless. And the only thing that makes it bearable is forcing myself to look for the good. That isn’t always easy - finding the good; sometimes it’s hard to find the will to even try. But if I didn’t search for it, I could not endure, well, here. I am not wealthy financially, but I have abundance everywhere else from simply living moment to moment. I don’t carry the worries so many do. I feel satisfied. I feel rich. And there is no sum for which I would trade that contentment.
I'm not sure I've ever cried as hard from a movie as I did during Waymond's speech(s). It is the most perfect positive masculinity I have ever seen across media. More than just the first time this movie and the many moments across it still bring up emotions on repeat watches.
This just in, this movie won so many Oscars!!!🎉
Woohoo!
Please do more therapy sessions on this movie! It was so amazing and left my heart feeling empty and full in the best way possible at the end of it.
Growing up in Taiwan, being told that you are getting fat from your mom or relatives, meaning that they care about you and your health. It resonates so much as an Asian kid, feeling like your mom criticises your figure and not being supportive, it is heartbreaking. 😢
Midway through the film (when Joy fights random security guards and reveals that she's a villain), my fiance turned around to me and jokingly said "this is what I imagine your brain looks like", and when the credits rolled I admitted, "yeah, an exploration of ADHD, nihilism, depression, and anxiety." I was actually stunned to find out that Evelyn was initially written to have undiagnosed adult ADHD - the attention shifts, the feeling of being pulled apart, overwhelmed, the mourning of underachieved potential until... something matters all of a sudden. It's beautiful.
Oh wow, that's why she is so relatable with her crazy hobbies xD
one of the directors of the movie actually researched about ADHD during the production of the movie and discovered he himself had it!
Oh... oh wow.
holy fuck I had that exact same experience of this film - wow!
omg did not know this!!! (also what a truly relatable combo lol….adhd anxiety depression gang 🤪✌️✌️)
I have seen this and was moved, but I want to see it a few more times. However, in not having seen your entire playlist, I was excited to hear 3:10 to Yuma as a favorite. It is in my top 5, for sure, but when I mention it, most people say they haven’t seen it. I love it!
The two of you have put my feelings about this movie into words more eloquently than I’m able to. It spoke to me on a level no other film has ever achieved and it feels very encouraging and heartwarming to not be alone in this sentiment. I loved your video and I’m excited to see more from the two of you!
I saw this episode before I saw the movie because I wasn't sure I wanted to watch it.
It's now in my top 10 movies of all time.
Also the editing here is genius beyond measure.
This movie... and "The Whale" movie, both have an underlying message about recognizing who we really are and how we should be perceived and accepted by those around us.
Love this film ferociously too! It's so good. I love that the first time I saw it I thought of leaving during the onslaught of the first hour or so- but it was all of that that made the meaning kick in. All my aversion transformed to openness.
I saw it in the theater again two days later, & cried through most of what I had previously had such a hard time taking in. Beauty, gratitude, cracking open. So glad they have received such acclaim. I hope the message of kindness reaches everyone. We need it.
Also- this is my first time on this channel, & you two are incredibly special, insightful, & present. Thank you❤
I loved the fact that the director wanted the protagonist to have undiagnosed ADHD and in the process of researching he realized that he also might have undiagnosed ADHD
@Queen Elderberry same! Like, I was able to follow it so well, and it was so much to take in so fast, and keep up with all at once, but like also just the right amount as to not be overwhelming. And even still after the movie I needed like a week to process it all because it was so much. It's definitely a favorite
this makes perfect sense. Also why I feel very attacked by Evelyn being the underachiever in everything😅
Autistic and ADD here. I can relate to some things shown in the movie (though not all due to the other unique things I experience from being autistic). I'm hoping representation like this is able to pave the way for both autistic and ADHD representation in media, even if it is not always obvious for everyone. Subtly in itself can be a lot of fun to pick up on in stories for me.
@kietro oh wow. Yeah did not catch that!
@Melissa Gola Evelyn shows all the signs: inattentiveness, distractibility, daydreaming, intense and highly varied interests, difficulty with task completion, emotional disregulation, utter dread of boring things (laundry and taxes), etc. Even the title of the movie is pure ADHD. Evelyn being the “worst” of infinite versions of herself perfectly captures the common ADHD struggle of having high potential and chronic underachievement. Also, early on, Deirdre accuses her of not paying attention, and Evelyn masks and denies it (a typical coping mechanism). By the end, she finds some self acceptance. Deirdre says, “Did you hear me?” And Evelyn responds (in the final line of the movie), “Sorry, what did you say?”
If you've every dealt with crippling depression and hopelessness, there are quite a few scenes in this film that cut to the bone. Someone involved in making this film understands that feeling all too well.
I'm amazed with the face expression delivered by Evelyn, the husband and the daughter, in fact by just watching random clips of this movie almost bring me to tears is a testament to how powerful those lines and face expression were....
Shoutout to both of your wives/production crew! I love this show and after re-watching your twilight saga, I realized how far you all have come in your show editing/production quality. The content is amazing as always! I learn lots from both of you and truly appreciate this channel.
I remember binge watching your reviews because I'm finding ways to cope with my anxiety and I have skipped most of my consultations due to my work schedule. When you uploaded this, I actually skipped this because I want to watch the movie first then see your review.
I watched EEAAO because of you guys and I felt that it was the movie I was longing for. Or maybe I was really longing for my own family reconciliation. Now I'm rewatching this, I realized how I became kinder to my father (a similar personality to Evelyn) despite my resentment to him. It was pride and expectations that separated us but "none of those matters".
YES PLEASEEE DO A COUPLES THERAPY ON THE HUSBAND AND WIFE. Their dynamic so interesting and true to real life, they reminded me of my own parents on many ways. But also the end scene with Joy and Evelyn because I had hard years with my mom and they have a conversation I wish we were able to have had during that time. 😢
I've never seen a movie that captures the kind of existential depression I've often struggled with, and the effect of being overwhelmed by information and stimulus constantly in the internet age.
Not to mention the brilliance of the cinematography and the effects and the editing. And, of course, the acting.
And Waymond is my hero. A perfect model of gentle masculinity.
(Also, I *live* for that whole Wong Kar Wai sequence. So beautiful.)
I feel you, I been going through that since I was 3. This movie has hit so many things for me. I wish it was there for one of my worst cycles of depression, but I'm glad it's here today.
That was definitely my experience too. It really connected with me, regarding nihilism.
All I can say is Me Too. Be Kind, friend.
This is my favorite movie so to see others appreciate it 🙌🏽. Please as many more episodes about this movie as you can squeeze out of it.
Not only was the title card downright epic, but the quick animation at 4:54 was- I mean such a tiny touch-but such a Fantastic detail. Editing team went hard this video. Loving it so far
7:30 😂👍
If you do do a deep dive into the dynamic to be between mother and daughter I think that you should include an Asian therapist because a lot of these elements mirror experiences that are salient among Asian parents and Asian children and that would be interesting but both topics would be equally as interesting.
It is a whole universe unto itself, this movie. You both did a wonderful job bringing the salient features to the fore. After I saw it again on the weekend I realized the depth and details so much more as well as felt the emotion so much more.
Please do a couple more videos on this movie. I cried so much throughout this video and I’m ready to cry more.
If Ke Huy Quan doesn’t get some kind of nomination, then something is badly wrong. The man has range, he’s the heart of this movie with Michelle Yeoh and it’s a goofy heart felt masterpiece that will bring every kind of tear out of you and make feel happier for watching it.
It’s wonderful that they all got nominated for Oscars: Michelle for Best Actress, Ke for Best Supporting Actor, Jamie and Stephanie for Best Supporting Actress. Eleven nominations, damn.
@Blade 7Y that’s their opinion and I agree. Everyone did amazing, but Stephanie was more of the standout to me.
@Blade 7Y I absolutely agree. They were all fantastic but I was extremely surprised at just how good Ke Huy Quan and Stephanie Hsu were. I was totally and unexpectedly blown away by them.
@Blade 7Y Completely agree, there better be some nominations here for sure.
@OdeToVenus You're only saying "especially Ke Huy Quan and Stephanie Hsu" because it was more surprising, but Michelle Yeoh is just as good.
If the Oscars had any sense, Best actress would go to Michelle Yeoh, best supporting actress to Stephanie Hsu (with Jamie Lee Curtis also nominated) and Ke Huy Quand would either win Best actor or best supporting actor.
Wonderful episode. EEAAO...just remarkable storytelling imbued this film at every level. And the chemistry of the ensemble is astounding. It needs to win everything.
A week or so after my first exposure to this film, I'm still trying to wrap my everything around all the stuff it kicked up. I need at least 2 more viewings to absorb how much was going on. Former film student, sorta writer, sorta performer, across-the-boards "needs improvement" kid... It's astonishing how much these filmmakers took on, and how astonishing their universe is.
This was so good. I love this movie so much. I have seen it 4 times -- only once in the theatre. And I get more out of it every time I see it. You two said it all.
I cried so much watching this movie. The actors are doing an mazing job here. Often just with micro changes in their face expressions or their eyes.
I have never felt more emotions than through this magnificent film
19:50 the rock scene, of just them and the speech bubbles, had me sobbing. Like, covering my mouth to not to ruin the moment for everyone else in the theater. It’s such a ridiculous concept and silent scene but it just broke me.
@Andrea BG Read the novel before watching the animation and I just loved the idea of it.
@Moldiworp Actually, Michelle Yeoh insisted that it be done with no spoken dialogue (apparently the Daniels had recorded voiceover dialogue for that scene and were trying decide whether to use it or not).
I cried so hard!
That one was hard too, so many amazing scenes, but I relate to that one so much. I thought it would be heaven to just be able to see everything in the universe as a disembodied mind. Getting to just be a rock would be pretty relaxing and nice!
Yes! The rocks hit me the hardest for some reason.
YOU ARE MY PEOPLE! I love this movie so much! "Drinking from a firehose" nails it. There were so many heartbreaking moments in this movie, and so many laughs. I can't get enough of it. If you do any more videos about it, I'm there. I know I'm finding this five months after the fact (and it won a butt ton of Oscars yaaay), so gotta check if you did more. I want to see them.
This film made me cry when I saw it! And I don't often cry at films - especially if I'm watching with other people! And it's so silly at the same time! So good and I will be recommending it forever
I finally saw this movie, so I could finally watch this episode.
The movie really is everything, so was your breakdown, I would love to see more. And a special shout out to the editing this episode, that was such good fun!
So glad you enjoyed the movie and our episode!